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Toxic boyz!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Something has really peed me off. I went to this gay club that I go to all the time cos my 2 bestfriends are gay. I went there and I sat on this guys lap who i thought was gay and I asked him and he said "No,I'm bi" and we went down and danced dirty and stuff. He then pulled me towards him and gave me such a nice kiss. We were both drunk. I saw him again yesterday and we had a text conversation when I got home. He said that he likes me,he is only one year older than me (as u know i usually go 4 older men!) and I asked him today in a txt if he wanted to meet up and he said "yeah,sometime in the week" and I was happy but I just texted him about an hour and a half ago and said "Do u wanna go out tomorrow?" He hasnt texted me back yet. Do u reckon he's a toxic boy,do u reckon he likes me? He has a gorge name aswell,Ashley! I really like him,help! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So your problem with him is that he hasn't texted you back??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah and I wonder if he is interested or not,cos i really like him. I want a relationship with him,hes nice.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    okay so he is 17 and bi? (is it more or are you kids getting younger??)
    Originally posted by jellygirl16:
    <STRONG>Do u reckon he's a toxic boy,do u reckon he likes me?</STRONG>

    whats a Toxic boy?? .......i am really showing my ages eh....only 18 feel like i'm going on 45!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your getting a bit serious about this, aren't ya? You have only just met him and yet you already want a relationship with him. Just wait till he texts you first and take things from there.

    If you want to know if he's interested wouldn't it be better to ask him rather than us? Just a thought. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't really know why you're annoyed with the situation. If he hasn't text back yet then it could be for a number of reasons. He may have ran out of credit, not recieved the message, or then again he may just be busy.

    Either way you can't really do much else other than wait. If you keep texting him back chance is he'll get annoyed. If he's not intrested than it's something you're just going to have to accept.

    Or just being a guy he could be playing it cool - who knows what goes on in a guys mind .... <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, actually this happened to me this morning. Was just about to text this lad when me battery went. So I couldn't text him till I got home. Damn thing doesn't work when i need it to. <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 22-04-2002: Message edited by: kisskiss ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why don't you give him some space, if you hassle him to much now he may turn off and just not txt or talk to you anymore
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It is likely that he has not replied to your text because he is busy. I am sure, given free time, that he will reply. But if he has not replied within a reasonable period of time, perhaps consider sending another text.

    A relationship is based on being totally comfortable with your partner. Would you be completely comfortable having a relationship with a bisexual? How would you feel if he had a gay affair? Would the social stigma attached to gay people affect your relationship? These are important questions which you need to consider before proceeding with the relationship.

    I am suggesting that a mature relationship needs more than mere fancy, and am curious as to whether you are diving into this headfirst.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mobily:
    <STRONG> perhaps consider sending another text.
    </STRONG>

    If someone doesn't eventually reply, it is usually for a reason. Re-sending texts is a bit sad really.

    Um, chill? How the hell should we know if he likes you? Give it a bit of time and don't read to much into it. Just have some fun and see what happens.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some good advice there given already - and I'm sure that you knew what to do in the first place ... BUT its very frustrating when someone that you like doesn't text you back <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its wierd isn't it, texts can be such a powerful thing.

    dont worry if he hasn't replied it useually is nothing and sometimes a delay is a test - he may be testing you to see if you really do like him. Leave it a resonable time, like until the next morning, then text him again and make out as if you didn't send the original one, act cool!

    good luck.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I disagree with what Miss Quoted said. What if he did not receive your text? What if he is too shy to text you and was waiting for you to text him? What harm would it do if you sent another text – perhaps in a day or so – asking him whether he received your first text? I see the potential benefits outweighing the costs.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am diving in head and heart first but I really like him. I have been out wiv a bi before. It was fine. I just really want him to be my boyfriend cos he is friends with my bestfriend and he is apparently a nice person. he is shy,he has only had one woman and no man. He is 18 actually! He is so nice,maybe I'm building a picture thats just not true in my head...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that must be on my list of all time hates

    People that don't txt back!! and if they do its 2 and half hours late

    its silly trying to hold down a chat by txt, someone always runs out of money

    but do i learn......nope i still do it, thick as shit!!

    leave this bloke alone now, let him do the work if he wants you
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    'Do you wanna go out tomorrow' is a pretty simple question. It doesn't require an ounce of confidence or charisma to answer.
    If you have had problems with people getting your texts before then by all means text him again. Otherwise, the ball is in his court.

    For fucks sake, its only been an hour. He probably has a life.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Miss Quoted,do u have to be so rude? I am asking advice not asking for an argument. Whenever I ask for advice someone has to get nasty. If you cant be polite,dont reply.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if he's a friend of a friend, why not get your friend to drop the hint??

    a suttle approach always works.....

    maybe hes not sure what he wants and it is taking him time to decide and acept that he really does liek you too, maybe hes scared (you did say he was shy!).

    give the poor guy a chance, any normal bloke would be texting you back straight away.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Which part was rude exactly?

    You post on a messageboard asking advice - you invite comment, good or bad. If you don't want people's opinions, don't post.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and we went down and danced dirty and stuff. He then pulled me towards him and gave me such a nice kiss

    It doesn't sound too much like a shy person to me, then again you did say you were both drunk so that may have been the cause. But like I said and everyone else - theres not much else you can do other than wait
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sound advice! Now, I am off to kill that huge spider which I have under a container in my bathroom, and then off to bed.

    Night all! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    P.S. If I do not post on thesite.org in the future, you will know why! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 23-04-2002: Message edited by: Mobily ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Miss Quoted:
    <STRONG>'Do you wanna go out tomorrow' is a pretty simple question. It doesn't require an ounce of confidence or charisma to answer.
    If you have had problems with people getting your texts before then by all means text him again. Otherwise, the ball is in his court.
    For fucks sake, its only been an hour. He probably has a life.</STRONG>

    Hate to say this Miss Quoted but I think that you could have been a bit nicer. I think that 'rude' is perhaps a bit harsh but then your response could come across that way to someone who is stressed about stuff as it is.

    Anyway, I'm afraid that I do agree with Miss Quoted. If he's not replied regarding your suggestion to meet up tomorrow then maybe he just isn't interested. You do seem to be awfully keen for saying that you've only met up the once before. Would strongly advice against sending him any more messages for a few days unless you have a strong urge to look desperate. If you've still not heard anything in a week and you still want to get in touch with him then by all means try again ..... but bear in mind the potential for future embarrassing encounters if you frequent the same pubs/clubs and he turns you down!!!

    xxx <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> xxx

    Edited to ask what the hell a toxic boy is? Please excuse my ignorance!!!

    [ 23-04-2002: Message edited by: Loopi Hoopi ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A TOXIC BOY- the definition.
    Wot everyone complains about on here-i.e. not calling,not texting (ho hum!),using you just for sex,cheating,blah blah blah! All the bad things Toxics do! I think you might get it now! Thanx for advice. I saw Ash in town today and he said we can go out soon and he'll text me later but I'm passed caring,and yes,I do frequent the same clubs as him so it may be very embarrassing! Oh well,shit happens! Thanx people. <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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