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14, Dumped n maybe pregnant

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi, im 14 and my boyfriend dumped me yesterday. The thing is about a week ago i slept with him we used a condom. But now my period is 4 days late and im worried i cud be pregnant!
Wot do i do???

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya, i know how you feel, my bf finished with me and i was pregnant, im 16 now and have a 3 yr old daughter, what i think u should do is wait abother couple of days, and then if u stil dont come on, tell your ex bf and see what he says or buy a test ir go to the doctors because believe me if you dont find out soon and leave it it wil come as the biggest shock in your life!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You need to get a test done straight away preferably at the doctors so if you are you can talk through your options, I wouldnt bother you ex unless you are preganant.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe go to the family planning clinic. they will be able to discuss your options with you <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey, calm down. u mite just be late cos u are stressed out about it. however, i would recommend like other people on this thread to go to a doc.
    good luck n take care
    saz
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    go to the doctors or the family planning clinic straight away, this one cant wait. you need to know one way or the other, either to put your mind at rest, or so you can get something done about it.
    hope youre ok.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm too scared to go and get a test! Id be 2 embarassed to go and get 1!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think you have a choice.

    Go, risking embarrassment, and get a test, or wait nine months and find out the hard way.

    Your call.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Go to your family planning clinic. Take a friend for moral support if you need to.

    If you don't take a pregnancy test, are you just going to sit around and wait to see if it pops out? Come on, I know it's difficult, but after behaving like a prat this is your chance to redeem yourself. It is not a big deal. It's not embarrassing. Scary, yes, but not half as scary as it'll be worrying yourself sick for the next nine months.

    Lots of luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its not something that if you ignore, will go away. you NEED to do a test, whether its embarrasing or not. weve all had to do things that are embarrasing at some point. just get it over and done with.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica II:
    <STRONG>If you don't take a pregnancy test, are you just going to sit around and wait to see if it pops out? Come on, I know it's difficult, but after behaving like a prat this is your chance to redeem yourself. </STRONG>

    Hey thats abit harsh to her???
    She said she used a condom so how exactly has she been a prat???


    Fancy an australlien kiss? Its the same as a french kiss except its down under! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    At 14 the menstrual cycle is often irregular, so it probably isnt anything to worry about. But the easiest way would be to go to a Brook centre or a GUM clinic and get a pregnancy test carried out, as the shop bougth ones can cost £10 or more. Even your doctor would give you one without telling your parents.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sexy babe,

    I'm not usually one for being harsh, but really, this deserves the right answer, not an answer wrapped in cotton wool.
    Hey thats abit harsh to her???
    She said she used a condom so how exactly has she been a prat???

    1. She didn't go and get a test because she feels embarrassed. Yes, accepting that I don't know what it's like, surely the most sensible thing to do would be to be tested IMMEDIATELY, and then you'd know.
    2. She's 14. For a start, that's illegal. Secondly, it's too young for her to know the consequences and to really know what she's doing. Evidence of this can be found in the fact that she doesn't go and get tested.

    Yes, we;re harsh, but that's the reality of it. And if I, by being harsh, scare someone in to getting tested, and that sorts them out, then that works, ok?

    And another thing. Australian. Just so you know.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DJP:
    <STRONG>

    And another thing. Australian. Just so you know.</STRONG>

    Oooh iv been told! lol
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Indeed you have, young lady.

    I'm sorry if I came across harshly. While I have the utmost sympathy for the person involved, I have little sympathy for the situation in which she finds herself.

    If she's not old enough to know the problems associated, and the way to deal with them, i.e. taking a test, then IMHO, she shouldn't be sleeping with someone. Especially not at 14, which is 2 years younger than the legal limit, for heaven's sake.

    Apologies if I've offended anyone, but I call it how I see it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Come on DJP, how many people take any notice of the legal limit <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Plenty of people have sex below the age of 16 but are not fools (ie they use protection). The law is there to protect people, many people are capable of protecting themselves.

    You get plenty of people over 16 who behave like children when it comes to sex.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Am I very old fashioned, then, in believing that 14 is too young. Without question. Not, "it depends on who it is". Without question, in my opinion, you should not, repeat not be having sex then!

    I know laws are bent, but this is really not right, how I see it.

    Am I really that old-fashioned?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not really. I had sex at 13, and i regretted it so much that it put me off for two years. I think the legal limit is there for a reason, but i do think it's more of a generality - SOME people are mature enough to have sex under the legal age. The second time i ever did it i was 15, and was in a loving relationship that lasted a year, and as SOON as i started having sex i went on the pill, because i knew the consequences. Angelwings, you NEED to get a pregnancy test, walk in clinics are anonymoys(sp?!) and you never have to see these people again. But if you put it off, the ability to have an abortion (if that's what you'd want) is growing smaller by the day.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am old-fashioned. I must be!

    13, 14?

    Presumably the other people were the same age, right? Or am I being old fashioned again?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DJP:
    <STRONG>Am
    Am I really that old-fashioned?</STRONG>

    Yes!!!!!!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Okay, fair comment. Thank you.

    *Will leave sex forum now to younger people*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DJP:
    <STRONG>Okay,
    *Will leave sex forum now to younger people*</STRONG>


    Don't be like that! The sex forum is open to all! Old or young!
    Just cos your views r different to mine it doesnt mean you cant voice them!

    I'm sorry!!
    <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree, RNT, i was in no way condoning what i did. Not that you were making any point towards me, but i want another star! Post whoring here i come <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *looks up*

    Oh yeah, so I am.

    Thanks RNT....
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