If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
chica chica chica
BillieTheBot
Posts: 8,721 Bot
Chica, any updates on you crisis, we are worried about you, daze has turned to crack and Im smoking 5 rollies each break.
Beep boop. I'm a bot.
0
Comments
My step-dad has really adjusted well to it, and my mum has totally lost it. They're rowing all the time know. My little sister overheard them and know hates both of us. My boyf/stepbrother got in a fight with Satan in a club because he said that I still wanted him and I would have slept with him if he'd tried a bit harder. Satan got a black-eye. Paul's little brother hates both of us as well. My grandma called me a homewrecker and slapped me. Roll on Crimbo.
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Chicca had a very unusual and difficult situation. It was brought to a head by "satan" her ex-b/f who we all wanted to beat up (even the mild mannered of us).
The story started here http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum4/HTML/000073.html
continued here http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000266.html
and here http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000288.html
Time is a great healer Chica, but I hope that it doesn't take too long <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
j9
Does your mum really believe he was bringing it back to be kind???
This satan guy really is a piteous character isn't he.
Hows it going with Paul now though? are you "allowed" to be together? & how's he coping with it?
j9
That just shows what a thoughtful person you are. You're more concerned about your brother and sister's needs than your own.
I do hope that you manage to get talking with your mum. I know it sounds corny, but you could suggest, to your mum, that you go for family counselling, or get your step-dad to?
j9
"Oooh, isn't that boy such a sweetie?" God. Paul wants to kill him, I think. I just want to know what he's after. Any ideas?
I don't think I can give you any advice Chica, I already feel guilty enough for suggesting that you *go for it* in the first place. I made the mistake of assuming that there are more understanding people out there than people with cloesd minds & selfish emotions <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
Having said that, I would probably ignore satan & remind my mum that satan tried to blackmail you into bed & that if it hadn't been for him doing that, then you & Paul would probably have fizzled out due to not wanting to upset the family.
I'd say to her "would you rather I'd have been blackmailed into sex against my will and kept my real life and emotions a secret from my own mother, who I assumed would be there for me to help me through this difficult time?"
I'm sorry Chica
J9
<bitch>Does she have some kind of hangup about this sort of thing from her past?</bitch>
I feel like going and shouting at her for you.
And Satan's obviously insane (or satanic) and needs treatment (or exorcism).
If this was real life we'd all come and give you a big group hug now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.
BTW I reckon that what j9 said above in her previous message (about stuff to say to your mum) is a good idea and could work. On the other hand, it might just make her see red again (don't know your mum, but some are like that and would rather ram all their confusion back down your throat as pain than listen - not mine BTW). Only problem with it is that while it's correct and fair, it places blame on your mum for all the pain and confusion you've all been feeling. This is fair - she should have supported you more and it PISSES ME OFF - but cos she's confused too she might only see the conflict / anger in it and lash out again instinctively at you.
The other thing that might work is to try and just tell her how much you needed her and still do and how much you miss her friendship/approval/love/whatever and ignore the basic problem at that point. If you can get her to give you a big hug and maybe a cry, then it opens the emotional barriers to allow you to start communicating properly again.
I dunno, it depends on her, you and your relationship in the past, but I hope you can find a way through to her - no matter what parents do to their children the children will always want their parents to act like parents to them, and will always love them on some level.
Sounds like Paul can protect you from Satan anyway. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">