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Chica, any updates on you crisis, we are worried about you, daze has turned to crack and Im smoking 5 rollies each break.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Naaaw, I didn't know you cared, Harry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    My step-dad has really adjusted well to it, and my mum has totally lost it. They're rowing all the time know. My little sister overheard them and know hates both of us. My boyf/stepbrother got in a fight with Satan in a club because he said that I still wanted him and I would have slept with him if he'd tried a bit harder. Satan got a black-eye. Paul's little brother hates both of us as well. My grandma called me a homewrecker and slapped me. Roll on Crimbo.

    *|* Chica *|*


    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry to pry but I just wanna say, I hope things get better for you chica. I dont know anything about you but sounds like your having a bad time.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Spirit:
    Sorry to pry but I just wanna say, I hope things get better for you chica. I dont know anything about you but sounds like your having a bad time.

    Chicca had a very unusual and difficult situation. It was brought to a head by "satan" her ex-b/f who we all wanted to beat up (even the mild mannered of us).

    The story started here http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum4/HTML/000073.html

    continued here http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000266.html

    and here http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000288.html

    Time is a great healer Chica, but I hope that it doesn't take too long <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    j9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx for the thought J9, at least I know someone's on my side. Him upstairs certainly isn't. (God, not Paul!) Satan came a-knocking on Saturday night. Gave my mother a bra I'd left at his place one night. She thanked 'that nice boy.' Dear Gawd!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica:
    Thanx for the thought J9, at least I know someone's on my side. Him upstairs certainly isn't. (God, not Paul!) Satan came a-knocking on Saturday night. Gave my mother a bra I'd left at his place one night. She thanked 'that nice boy.' Dear Gawd!

    Does your mum really believe he was bringing it back to be kind???

    This satan guy really is a piteous character isn't he.

    Hows it going with Paul now though? are you "allowed" to be together? & how's he coping with it?

    j9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    At the moment, my mother would believe that John Prescott would good-looking if it meant it undermined me and Paul. She's just refusing to deal with it. Things haven't really changed much, we still aren't 'allowed' to be together, if you see what I mean. My stepdad accepts it though he's uncomfortable, but my sis and his bro still are pretty screwed up and the last thing they need is us having an 'open' relationship. Paul's been pretending he's OK and that he's not bothered by what my mum's saying, but I can tell it hurts. It's sort of understood between us that it's wrong, even though it's not. I can see he feels really guilty. And, we haven't slept together since the 'revelation', he just hugs me all the time while I cry all over him. I don't know if he thinks that I think that us being 'close' would be making the situation worse or if that's what HE thinks...god knows, it's all so bloody complicated. And Satan is telling everyone that he still loves me and that we're just 'keeping it quiet' until everything blows over, for some bizarre reason. He really does deserve a good kicking. Thanx for the concern J9 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica:
    My stepdad accepts it though he's uncomfortable, but my sis and his bro still are pretty screwed up and the last thing they need is us having an 'open' relationship.

    That just shows what a thoughtful person you are. You're more concerned about your brother and sister's needs than your own.

    I do hope that you manage to get talking with your mum. I know it sounds corny, but you could suggest, to your mum, that you go for family counselling, or get your step-dad to?

    j9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, I don't know about the thoughtful thing, really. Thoughtful would have been not sleeping with their brother, at least I s'pose that's the way they look at it, and I don't blame them. Satan really is turning into a major problem. He sent 12 red roses to my house this evening. Bizarre, when you consider that the most romantic thing he did when we were together was stay awake for 5 minutes after we had sex. My ever-naive mother said:
    "Oooh, isn't that boy such a sweetie?" God. Paul wants to kill him, I think. I just want to know what he's after. Any ideas?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica:
    Well, I don't know about the thoughtful thing, really. Thoughtful would have been not sleeping with their brother, at least I s'pose that's the way they look at it, and I don't blame them. Satan really is turning into a major problem. He sent 12 red roses to my house this evening. Bizarre, when you consider that the most romantic thing he did when we were together was stay awake for 5 minutes after we had sex. My ever-naive mother said:
    "Oooh, isn't that boy such a sweetie?" God. Paul wants to kill him, I think. I just want to know what he's after. Any ideas?


    I don't think I can give you any advice Chica, I already feel guilty enough for suggesting that you *go for it* in the first place. I made the mistake of assuming that there are more understanding people out there than people with cloesd minds & selfish emotions <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Having said that, I would probably ignore satan & remind my mum that satan tried to blackmail you into bed & that if it hadn't been for him doing that, then you & Paul would probably have fizzled out due to not wanting to upset the family.

    I'd say to her "would you rather I'd have been blackmailed into sex against my will and kept my real life and emotions a secret from my own mother, who I assumed would be there for me to help me through this difficult time?"

    I'm sorry Chica
    J9
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't feel guilty j9, the truth always comes out in the end, I s'pose. I mean, if I hadn't have told them, Satan would have <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; I guess it was always going to be a Catch 22 situation anyway. I lose someone either way. As for talking to my mother about the blackmailing, she doesn't seem to class that as relavent compared to what I've done (apparantly falling in love is a crime these days) and actually invited the bastard in for coffee this evening after she found him sitting on our front lawn in the freezing cold. They're both bloody crazy if you ask me. Thanx j9, it's nice to know someone cares <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can't believe your mother's being so insensitive to you.

    <bitch>Does she have some kind of hangup about this sort of thing from her past?</bitch>

    I feel like going and shouting at her for you.

    And Satan's obviously insane (or satanic) and needs treatment (or exorcism).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    JB, I don't know what's up with her. All I know is that she sees what I have with my stepbrother as incestuous, which is crap seeing as I was with him before he WAS my stepbrother. I would defend her but it's really beginning to hurt now. As for Satan, God knows (no pun!) He sits outside my house for no apparant reason, and sends flowers and chocolates. I'm afraid to ask what he wants now. Thanx <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chica:

    I would defend her but it's really beginning to hurt now.

    If this was real life we'd all come and give you a big group hug now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">.

    BTW I reckon that what j9 said above in her previous message (about stuff to say to your mum) is a good idea and could work. On the other hand, it might just make her see red again (don't know your mum, but some are like that and would rather ram all their confusion back down your throat as pain than listen - not mine BTW). Only problem with it is that while it's correct and fair, it places blame on your mum for all the pain and confusion you've all been feeling. This is fair - she should have supported you more and it PISSES ME OFF - but cos she's confused too she might only see the conflict / anger in it and lash out again instinctively at you.

    The other thing that might work is to try and just tell her how much you needed her and still do and how much you miss her friendship/approval/love/whatever and ignore the basic problem at that point. If you can get her to give you a big hug and maybe a cry, then it opens the emotional barriers to allow you to start communicating properly again.

    I dunno, it depends on her, you and your relationship in the past, but I hope you can find a way through to her - no matter what parents do to their children the children will always want their parents to act like parents to them, and will always love them on some level.

    Sounds like Paul can protect you from Satan anyway. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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