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why do i do this???????????

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hello

ok i really dont know how to put this but.....does anybody know why i take everything out on my bf? i mean i am just so nasty to him for no aparant reason at all.

and i know this sounds wierd but sometimes i want him to be nasty to me instead of nice???????

any ideas would be helpful thanks <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dunno, maybe you can help out the guy who just posted asking why his girlfriend always takes things out on him.

    Any connection here...? <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Jade will be better at helping you with this than me, I'm the victim!! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Phil. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah its called PMS!!, no maybe its your way of not building things up.

    why do you want yor bf to get mad at you?

    need more details!

    have you been a bad girl and him being nice to you makes you feel bad?

    maybe you just don't like anyone getting close to you?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i understand exactly how you feel, i do the same sometimes to a boy im with. Sometimes when theres something worrying you, you'll take it out on him for no apparent reason, this is because you automaticallt take things out on the people you care most about.
    The reason you want him to be nasty to you is because you want to feel better for the way you treat him.
    If u talk to him and tell him why treat him the way you do then hopefully he'll be able to help you.
    you should start appreciating him cos if your like this a lot then he might not stick around and take it.
    I hope things work out
    Jade
    xxx <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nice one CheeseOnToast, i think there maybe something going on there as well

    do you say sorry for this guy after you go mad on him?

    do you make a lie's up as to why you do it?
    do you feel let don't or no trust with your bf?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It is common, but it is something you do need to change.

    You are building up the little frustrations of life and carrying them home with you, then taking them out on the person closest to you, and the one you trust not to take offence.

    You do feel guilty about it though, so you'd almost like him to be nasty to you too, so that you could feel justified or less guilty about treating him badly.

    You need to stop this, and the place to stop it is at the source. Don't let those frustrations build up in the first place. When someone annoys you, tell them about it, don't be cowardly and bottle it inside for later on. Deal with it, and dismiss it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey hun! Dont worry! Your totally not alone! I do it quite a lot as well and I am not sure why! I really look forward to seeing him and when I do I am nasty to him! Also, my bf never ever gets annoyed at anything! I have never seen him be nasty!
    You have to try and work out why your annoyed at him - if you are?! Is he the one for you? I think its just quite common and as long as its not affecting your relationship - its ok!

    Good luck! <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    there is no connection here at all! yes in the past i have been a bad girl and i feel bad for him being like a walkover, he has stuck around for 2 years.

    ok take tonight for example, he came round without me having to ask, and from the moment he came in i was awful. in the end i ended up tellin him i didnt want to be with him, there was nothing between us and for him to go. he rang me when he had gone and said he loved me etc.

    then after me putting the phone down he sent me this text "I WANT TO DO THINGS FOR YOU I WANT TO DO THINGS WITH YOU, I WANT TO BE WITH YOU".

    which really touched me, but i dont know what it is that makes me be such a nasty cow
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sounds like you have a good bloke there, you should stop this now, he may not stay around with you forever.

    hope all works out for you <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    P.S hope you find out why you do this to him
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i also really look forward to seeing him, and look 4ward to him ringin or texting then when i see him, im awful. i dunno things just cant seem to get ne worse
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