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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
ok, i gota situation, im in luv with n older man he's 13 years older than me. when we first met we lied to each other about r age, he said he was younger n i said i was older then wen we actualy found out each others age it didnt matter cus we liked each othe so much!!
A lot of people disagree but personaly i think age is jus a number right?!? wat you all reakon??? xx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Totally depends on the ages...

    How old are you?

    How old is he?

    Let me know and I'll get back to you :P

    Phil.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmmmmm, without any details, i cant comment. But with what i can tell, you sound uncomfortable with the age difference, otherwise you wouldnt have lied aboutit in the first place.
    But if you love each other, then it shouldnt matter.

    Hope this helps
    love
    jade
    xxxxx <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    why do young girl go with older guys? is it the money? or the sex? do they think they can trust them more?

    anyway your 17 and his(let me do the maths) 30??? WoW that is a gap

    to be honest with you i'd say its not going to last, but have fun with him while you can... his most likely be a better lover then boys your age.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i dont think it sounds that bad, your 17 and hes 30. if he was 40 id say it was a bit sus, im not sure what a 30 year old would have in common with a 17 year old, but its up to you?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he he he, i can guess what a 30yr would want with a 17yr old

    must do his ego the world of good, seem as you both gaining from it, as long as your Mum&Dad are cool with it. (which i bet they are not eh?) <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    have you even told your mum and dad???
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Personally, I think that is a very bad age gap.

    He's nearly double your age, a few years and he could be your dad.

    It's not so much the "13 years"..I think love can exsist beyond these boundaries, it just disturbs me that a 30 year old man would want to commit to a 17 year old girl..Just something I've always found personally disturbing..

    If my sister came home with a 30 year old man when she was 17, I would've battered him :P

    I mean when you're a 30 year old woman, can you see yourself seeing a 17 year old boy, one of your mates now??? I doubt it.

    Anyway, I think you should have a think about whether you are comfortable with this and why he lied in the first place.

    Keep me posted,

    Phil. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Who gives a fuck what her parents think? If youre happy and hes happy then I fail to see a problem. It could be that you will drift apart if all you have in common is sex, but stranger things have happened.

    Just be careful.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I do think you can have a good relationship where there's a significant age gap, but I would guess it doesn't happen all that often. If you really like each other then it's worth a try, but don't let it all get too serious before you're sure he's really trustworthy.

    See what your friends think of him too <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont really no im with a man thats 3 years older than me n im findin that weird,im 17 and hes 20,ive bin wiv him over a year and sumtimes i stil think its weird!

    but hey miss-flirt <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> if ur happy n u feel comfortable wiv it,id just stay wiv him,dont listen 2 ne1 else's thoughts listen 2 wot ur heart tells ya mate <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">,im sure u will no wot 2do ...take care x <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Awwww young love...(maybe not so young on his part)

    do know if this blokes got kids?, wife? how much you know about him. i mean he lied about his age, could he lie about other stuff his told you?????

    you should check him out abit, just to be safe
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you want to keep it going then carry on seeing him, but that is a pretty big age gap and someone is eventually gonna get hurt in the end. So like the Harmless said enjoy him while he's still urs to have. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya,

    If you're happy together then it really shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. When I was 13 my Dad (who was in his early forties at the time) got together with a girl who was 21/22 (can't remember which). It was a bit strange to start with as she was closer to my age than his plus her parents were a bit funny about the whole thing. *continues to walk all the way around the houses before coming to point* The thing is that they were happy for about 2-3 years. Obviously they had their differences and arguments but that's the same as any other couple. It didn't bother them and that age gap was even more than yours. It isn't common for couples with such a large age gap to stay together forever but who cares? Enjoy it while it lasts is my advice!!

    Loopi. xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thank you 2 evry 1 thats replied to me, sum of it has been great help I no its a rather large age gap but i am happy, ive been in the same situation b4 with n older man n it was a real real big mistake of mine i got heart broken! so as u can imagine ive gone in2 this relationship with my eyes wide open.i no his lied to me b4 but so have i 2 him and 4 me ill always trust sum1 untill i have reason not 2! thanx again
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why the guy would find you in the least bit interesting puzzles me!!!!!! Infact why anyone would puzzles me!!!!!

    <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That wuld b cus i aint like u mate! y the bitchyness all the time! no need is there! grow up darlin!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That wuld b cus i aint like u mate! y the bitchyness all the time! no need is there! grow up darlin!!

    Thank fuck your not like me cos that means am fucking nothing like you, if I was I would have ended my life a long time ago!!

    And why the bitchyness all the time, blame yourself with your pathetic PM you sent me!!!! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    why do young girl go with older guys? is it the money? or the sex? do they think they can trust them more?

    Trust, respect (you have to respect someone to love them), maturity (you take a look at teenage guys)... apart from that similar reasons to why anyone would love anyone.

    If you don't have a problem with it, go with it. And anyone that does have a problem with you are very superficial. As you quite rightly said, age is just a number.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I love my bf and he’s 6 years my senior, I've always gon for older guys, maybe its cause there more experienced with the world, it is maturity probably, most of the guys I know my age are dicks.
    My bf treats me like a woman and I love that he is a real man, not saying younger guys can’t be just in my experience.
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