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Forgiveness

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hello everyone

first time here so bear with me please!!

Could you all give me your *honest* opinions on what you could forgive someone you're in love with for?

I mean as in if they kissed someone else? Lied to you? etc. etc.

thanks a lot, i hope i get some good replies soon!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hia, Jade here

    i dont really know what the situation is here, it sounds like the girl/boy your in love with has kissed someone else and lied about it.
    Well to be honest ive done exactly the same thing to someone who loved me!! He forgave me, it made me realise how lucky i was to have him. Im still not really sure what advice to give because i dont know the whole story, so post back and explain.
    Lotsa luv
    Jade
    xxxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah yu pretty much got it.

    i guess thats basically what happend its just other things that have happend before that still influence the decisions i make.

    I really do want to let all these things go but im still getting paranoid and feeling hurt by it all..i dont know, maybe time is what it needs??
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so how long have u been with this girl?
    are you truly in love with her?
    If u are then u need to give it another go and put everything behind you.
    by the way
    asl?
    lotsa love
    jade
    xxxx <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i forgive my ex but the trust was gone so we argued quite a bit
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thats why im confused.

    I really do want to just forget about all this crap literally but it just wont get out of my head.

    thing is everytime i think nothing like this will happen again..sooner or later..it does..this is the second (nearly third) time something along these kind of lines has happend.

    Jade - Yes I am truly in love with her.

    Beatnu - But what if she had slept with someone else, wuld the forgiveness b there then?

    It's not i dont want to believe it wont happen again its just i need something to convince me and i dont know what <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I'm in a _suprisingly_ similar situation and I can't give you much advice because I am very confused and very, very *scared* myself.

    All I can suggest it give it a shot and try to work through it..other than that, I have no idea right now..

    Sorry mate, hope you work things out,
    Phil <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    like a few others have said i dont know the whole story. But sit down with Him/Her and talk just say be honest and truthful ask them if there is anything wrong and if so can you make it right. if you love them and if they love you then you can both sort it out. if it was a one off kiss then it is nothing to worry about as long as it isn't a regular occurance best thing you can do is trust them. belive me if you dont you wont get nowhere. if you need to talk you know where we all are. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My ex just snogged someone else. I took her bk almost straight away then it sunk in and i dumped her then took her bk. But the trust was gone and for the next 6 months we were together the trust never came bk but maybe it will for you. i hope it does if you decide to take her bk. Although never again if a girl cheats would i look at her twice
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess there has to be some give and take if some one cheats, but if you can't let it go and its driving you mad maybe best if you two had a cooling of time, where you can think about what you want to do

    i myself have kissed another girl when i was going out with someone else,looking back now i wish i had not, my girlfriend wouldn't have found out, but i told her. it was the end of us. but at least i was honest.

    anyway if i was you i would have it out with them as to why they did it, and why they didn't tell you!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I cheated on my blokie a few years back. Was gonna tell him but his mates got there before me. He agreed to take me back immediately but I said no. I figured that I had a problem with the whole commitment thing and that I didn't want to hurt my bloke again. In hurting him I was hurting myself so to speak cos I liked/loved him so much. We spoke about the situation on numerous occasions and he later ended up cheating on a girlfriend with me. It was only ever a snog though .... and nothing more. Basically my reason for cheating on him was because I wasn't ready to settle down ..... speak to your girlfriend cos that is the only way that you're gonna know why she did it and if it's likely to happen again.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I'm in the same boat, so Jade..Why didn't you tell me about Nicky?

    By the way hun I'm not stressing out about this much you know that, but maybe it will help settle things in my head?

    You don't have to answer if it will upset you, it's not a problem. I still love ya like mad <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Phil. <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You know i dont want to answer that as it will only upset me and i already have a lot on my mind.
    Dont worry about it
    Luv u too
    Jade
    x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    see

    if i ask the girl i love that question and she replies like that. what then?

    ill feel stupid because ill think ive asked a question i shouldntve and it will also make me think she is more selfish for not helpin me sort things out since i dont have them easy either (no offense to angelface)

    oh well stayin confused i guess unless anyone else has some input?

    ta.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry for using your post to answer Phil. But were in a completely different situation here. For 1, we werent together when i went with this other boy (Nicky), we were just friends, the reason phil was so pissed off was cos i didnt tell him when we got back together and i really understand that, but your girlfriend was with you at the time, thats why the situation is different,
    i still think you should confront her and ask her how she really feels.
    Sorry for confusing you
    Hope things go well
    Love
    Jade
    xxxx <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know you understand Jade I just wanted to know _why_ you didn't tell me.

    I mean yes, 50% of it is because you didn't tell me when we got back together....but 50% of it is because I dont know WHY, I find it hard to understand _how_ you could lie to me all day on the phone and everytime I asked you after that <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Honestly babe don't stress about it, it's done now and I don't hold the fact it happend against you...Just if you can bring yourself to, tell me in your own time, *please*.

    Thanks,
    Phil. <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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