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Self harm factsheets - What is it? Harm reduction, first aid, distractions, stopping, friends and family and mucho galore.
Thanks to everyone who helped me out
Susie
Thanks to everyone who helped me out
Susie
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its really good. well done susie
I'm dead observant I am! :hyper:
But I don't no matter what they do it won't beat the help and support thesite gives.. goverment places can't be as friendly..
T-shirt please
jokin:) I mean it..
and you done it again mod's... great case study..:) you never cease to amaze me:) [in a good way]
Which, in one sentence, proves just how little they DO understand self-harming. When I've been dealing with mental health experst you can tell that they don't always fully understand what it is that makes someone do it; sentiments like this are greatly counter-productive. It's a form of coping, but for many it's the exact opposite of drawing attention- it's trrying to make the pain go away again. Certainly with the dangerous ones.
I happen to agree with Hellfire, despite his obvious arse-licking. Peer support, anonymously, probably is one of the best ways of getting help- it certainly gave me the confidence to get more professional help. Depression is a very isolating illness, so anything that makes people know that they aren't alone and aren't a freak can only be a good thing.
"Studies suggest most youngsters who hurt themselves are not suicidal, but 'trying to cope' by drawing attention to their unhappiness."
Interesting though. I'm curious as to what these 'studies' are, which suggest the above.
To be honest, I think it more suggests a lack of understanding of the results. People do it to cope, but I don't think most people intend for people to notice.
It does make one wonder though...
i know about self harm cos i used to do it to cut out the bullying and take the pain of bullying away but it wasn't to get attention. i used to scratch my wrists and the area of the arm where you get blood from cos i got a vien very close to the skin there and i cut into itonce and nearly ended up in hospital but my older cousin find me cos i had fainted from the cut and sorted me out he never told my parents and it still is a secret between him and me.
now i'm on top of things and i have no scars from the ordeal and trust me it doesn't work cos i endede up in deep depression becuase of the self harm.
Yeah. And Phil Redmond has dealt with it very badly, because it isn't realistic. But as Redmond is a moron I can't say I'm surprised.
Channel Four's As If dealt with it much better.
But I think it is good that Self Harm is being shown on TV shows (if done well) as it makes people far more aware of this "tabboo" subject that effects so many of us.
People do really learn a lot about health issues from watching trashes tv programmes that we wouldn't consider educational or doctumentry programmes. Apparently when Peggy in Eastenders had breast cancer it gave a lot of women the courage to go to their doctors about that lump they'd had for months but were too shy to ask about. And it made women more aware and more women now examine their breats regularly as a result.
BUT
If it trivialises or denegrates something, like Hollyoaks did with SI, then that is a bad thing. It re-affirms the general perception that SIers are attention-seekers, something that the Observer article also did. That is dangerous as it means SIers won#'t get the help and the support that they need.
I actually felt rather uncomfortable sat with my family watching Lisa cut herself and my sister and Mum thought she must be a freak or whatever (although I don't think they actually said it) and they thought she was really "weird" and I was sat there watching their reactions to Self-Harm but neither of them know that I self harm.
BUT
People will get the ideas anyway. It's wishful thinking to think that if SI isn't in the media then people won't do it, so the "negative" is irrelevant. It being in the media means that people see it, my only worry is that they see it as attention-seeking and freakish rather than a symptom of pain.
I only saw the Hollyoaks episode because my sister, who knwos I used to SI, wanted an opinion on it.
That doesn't really count as SH, drug addiction is behaviour in its own right.
Ive done.. well do... both to cope, tho im tryin to stop now...
anyways yeh, when i start drinking when im depressed, i do it because drinking 1. leaves you in a state where you are easily distracted (from ur problems)... 2. Helps me sleep.... 3. hmm.. dunno how to explain it... i mean a lot of people have a stiff drink when they go through stress... it just loosens you up a bit... and your drunken mind works differently, so even though your problems are bad... its not soo depressing... err hard to explain number 3...
SI is totally different... it is a concious descision to hurt yourself for whatever reason that may be... i myself find it as a distraction from everything... i think about how bad it hurts instead of my other issues.... others do it for different reasons you all know from reading up on it... but yeh, when you drink you are not injuring yourself there and then... i mean sure in a few years your liver will be screwed, and sum brain cells might be lost... but its not the same.
My boyfriend is a self-cutter who thought he had overcome this problem before we met 14 months ago but has recently started cutting again. A recent incident landed him in the emergency room and in the psychiatric hospital overnight. All of this was the culmination of a very tumultuous month for us. We have both very hesitantly decided to spend time apart for sanity's sake. I know this is the right thing to do, but I am left with a maelstrom of feelings from this whole situation as I have never encountered anything like this. Will someone please give me some advice on how I can move on from this experience and overcome the mental anguish it has caused me? What about my boyfriend? I can't decide if he's using this "time apart" thing as a test to see how much I care. He's very manipulative. I don't want to leave him when he's so down, but I can't stay in his life if he doesn't want me there right now. If this emotional whirlwind sounds familiar to you, please share your story. Thanks.
Do you know what is up with him, beyond the fact that he self-hars,ms and is unhappy? I have been semi-disagnosed with a Borderline Personality, and people with BPD sometimes are prone to manipulatiave beahviour and a tendency to either completely love someone or think that they are completely hated by that person.
If you look at some of the factsheets on the MIND website you might be able to recognise osme of the symptoms he has and try to understand how to deal with them.