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Hi. Im 17 m, and i have a really good friend, who is also a guy (we are just friends, not sexual or anything, i am not gay or bi, just a normal straight 17 year old guy) and our friends dont get along with each other.
So usually i hang around a group of people and he hangs around another group, and our groups hate each other. Well anyways i started going to nightclubs and stuff with him and his friends, and so i started to get different clothes and all, and at the time he was saying that yeah i looked alright and all, but now everytime i say that i will buy a new shirt or that i will be going to some nightclub, he says that all i am trying to do is be like him. i dont know what is goin on, since we have been friends for a really long time and these comments are making me feel really out of place. I thought for a second that maybe his friends are resenting him letting me join in, but i am friends with most of them anyways...
whats going on, should i just ignore his comments and keep going with them, or should i just take a hint, and go with my other friends instead???
So usually i hang around a group of people and he hangs around another group, and our groups hate each other. Well anyways i started going to nightclubs and stuff with him and his friends, and so i started to get different clothes and all, and at the time he was saying that yeah i looked alright and all, but now everytime i say that i will buy a new shirt or that i will be going to some nightclub, he says that all i am trying to do is be like him. i dont know what is goin on, since we have been friends for a really long time and these comments are making me feel really out of place. I thought for a second that maybe his friends are resenting him letting me join in, but i am friends with most of them anyways...
whats going on, should i just ignore his comments and keep going with them, or should i just take a hint, and go with my other friends instead???
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Perhaps you should be open with your friend, explain how you are feeling because of his actions, see what his response is, see how much he values your friendship.
I guess that your friend may be being influenced by his peers (the group of friends he is hanging around with). If they are putting pressure on him to distance himself from you,(therefore your group of friends) then this may explain his behaviour.
See how it goes,
derby
hope you sort things out either way
london_brunette
xxx