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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi everyone! So i'm new here, but i need some advice!! I was talking to a guy that i work with last night, and i happened to mention something about an ex-boyfriend. He kind of looked at me funny and said "you had a boyfriend??" He said that he never would have considered me to be girlfriend material, because i'm too intellectual. Not that i really value this guys opinion, but that sort of hurt. I'm 18, and i've had 2 real boyfriends so far, but i haven't been seeing anyone for about a year now.

So i guess what i'd like to know is, do most guys not want to date smart girls, and if not, why? It's not like i'm a geek or anything, i know how to have fun, and i do like to party. But i also have priorities in life. I dunno. I'm just confused.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He may well mean that he considers you too intellectual for him, indicating more, I think, about his preferences for women, than your attributes as a potential girlfriend. He may prefer dizzy blondes, or women who will just obey and adore him, rather than a girl who can think for herself, y'know?

    Don't worry about it, essentially, smart girls will always get on.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I believe if it’s a one night stand (or something along) those lines it doesn’t matter if the girl’s cognitively challenged. However, for a serious relationship intelligence is a must.

    Obviously personality, looks, sense of humour etc. are all very important, but for me intelligence is the most important attribute. I’ve even gone as far as breaking up with girls because

    Before some of you get angry, that doesn’t mean I would break up with someone if they can’t tell me the capital of Kenya or the square root of 16 - and it certainly doesn’t mean I only go for people for red-brick Universities. It means I want a girlfriend to stimulate me intellectually, not just physically.

    If she can’t conduct on the occasional semi-serious conversation then things are not going to last.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I get on pretty well at college, on for at least BBB I hope, and that sometimes does cause friction in my relationship, as I'm quite strong willed and I'm happy to argue my point. Some blokes would run a mile from someone with a brain, quite a few men wouldn't be happy about their woman earning more than them. In high school I got A*'s and A's and the 'high school' boys avoided me like the plague. All my boyfriends have been a year or two older than me. I think you'll find the more secure and mature men are the ones who'll find you attractive, and let's face it, that can't be bad!!

    [Edited as all this stuff about intelligence is obviously lies - I can't type to save my life!]

    [ 16-04-2002: Message edited by: Gems ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it may be the guys problem!

    I really couldn't ever go out with someone who isn't at least semi-intelligent.

    I don't mean that in a nasty way, but I need to be able to hold a serious, sometimes intelligent conversation with people if anythings going to work.

    Anyway, I'm in love and I'm all happy so I'm skipping off now! lol <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Ta ra!

    Phil <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you ever wanted to have a serious relationship with someone, you need to be able to get past the initial, "damn she's hot phase" and move on to the "damn she's hot and smart too" phase. Otherwise, the relationship goes no where. It just becomes a friends-with-benefits type relationship which, at times, may be nice, but when you are really looking for a relationship, you will get nothing from it.

    Personally, I need the girl who is as intelligent as me for me to carry out a relationship with her. I just can't stand not being able to talk to someone because she's an absolute ditz or absolutely stupid.

    my 2¢
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's an acknowledgement of his own stupidity, take it as a compliment. Thick blokes go out with thick girls. And when they breed, they have thick children...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he is obviously not worth it! i think you ought to find some1 who likes you 4 who u are and is not just after one thing!

    im sure you'll find someone tho. there are plenty of nice men out there, im sure (and nice women <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> )

    gud luck mate

    xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm fairly intelligent myself, and I can see why many guys find that intimidating. A few of them of a girl who- shock horror!- might not agree with every word he says. Mind you, I also know some guys who find the idea of a 'nodding dog' girlfriend repulsive, and want someone who isn't afraid to put her opinions across.

    But some people hate the thought of someone being cleverer than them. Some people are just like that.

    Don't act dumb... people respect you more if you're intelligent and you'll be the winner in the end. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't mind him girl, Just because you have priorities, it does not mean you can't have fun. If you were not been smart about your life, then probably you'll get walked all over, so go and do your thing and don't let what others say put you down. Okay. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Intelligent women are fantastic.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There's no way I could go out with a girl who isn't intelligent. I'm a smart guy and I like to have serious conversations from time to time - a girlfriend should be able to have them with me. Smart girls definitely have the edge.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DJP:
    <STRONG>He may prefer dizzy blondes</STRONG>

    Not all blondes are dizzy :P In fact, many successful women are blonde... <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't worry bout being clever - it won't stop anything. I don't mind being clever for my age (7 As, B and C predicted GCSEs) and have never had a problem. OK admittedly you wouldn't think I'm clever if you met me and if I get the choice I don't let people know I'm clever.

    Like someone else said I like to have intelligent conversations now and again and I need someone I can have those with. What happans when you're both old and only have each other for company?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    intelligence is one of the most attractive features in women i think - never fancied a girl for more than a few days who wasn't intelligent
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The (Gentle)man in question is a nodge.

    Plain and simple...everyone's different.

    People that are 'slow', for instance, irritate the hell out of me, as do people that are *too* know-it-all.

    But, at the end of the day, some people are suited to intelligent people, some aren't.

    He's not.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *has knife block handy, just in case*

    *yes, with knives in it*

    *wonders what can be used as a spoon shield*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hello again. I just wanted to say thanks so much to everyone for the replies. It's actually helped me a lot, and i do feel a little better about myself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Totally know what ur sayin angel.
    Not sayin i was really clever in school but i was quite studious and a bit shy, so although i had many friends, the lads always used to think i was too quite and smart to go out with!
    I know how to ahve a real gud time and people are still suprised when they see me out gettin rotten drunk, but i love proving people wrong!

    I think most lads do feel intimidated by studious or quiet people, duuno y cos i like lads that are quiet and smart and never feel intimidated buy them, maybe its a male ego thing? <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    SO true Crazy_Gal.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I consider myself to be relatively intelligent. I deem my girlfriend to be more intelligent than I am. But this is ideal, as it enables us to have meaningful conversations on, for example, the law (we are both law students) or politics. If we were unable to do this, our relationship would quickly pass its use-by date.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I´ve been looking for a really smart girl for a long time, and haven´t found any (not being macho, I know there are some out there, I just haven´t found her yet). It seems like I can´t really relate to people because of it. I´m just sorry that no one can appreciate you, because I certainly wouldn´t mind meeting or being around someone like you.
    John
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I like to think men like intelligent women. I know some men find it sexy <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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