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please help me.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
im wondering if anyone can possibly help me in a situation i dont think that ill ever be able to get out of.

four years ago i met my best friend,and ever since we have done eveything toether.eight months ago i started going out with her and at first i was sure that this girl was the girl i was going to be with for the rest of my life.we talked about the future and i could say i love you and mean it with evey bit of my heart.

my problem occurs when i dont feel the same way about this girl.i still love her-but not as a girlfriend,just as a best friend.i dont act the same way around her and she's said that i have changed(and i have to agree).when we first started going out,we made the'agreement'that if we were ever to split up we would still be best friends.

I really do not understand myself-i want to try and work things out with her but i still want to be her friend-but now im worried about committing to her and missing out on what i want to do which is go out with out the worries of a girlfriend.

its wierd.i love this girl like a sister.I tried to tell her that i want to go back to being like we used to be(the first months of 'us' was amazing)but she thinks that i want to split up and that everytime i told her i loved her i was lying.she even said that she didnt think i was good enough to be her best mate when we have always been with each other for four years!

i was just wondering what to do.should we have a break and see how things work.should we just call it off.should we work it out while still with each other.

all i know is that if i cant change the way i feel at the moment and go out with her for another couple of months well end up hating each other and ill loose my girl friend my bestfriend and soul mate all in one bang.i want to work it out so i at least hold on the being best mates if not all three!

to make things worse i have no one to talk too because she really is my best friend.

please can someone help me,i really am about to break down.adrian/17/male.


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is just one of those situation that i think you have to sort out yourself! It sounds like you wanna split with her but your scared you won't remain best friends because how often do you????? but theres nothing saying you can't either. I think you explain this situation or even just post her this link: http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum4/HTML/000887.html
    That way she can read it for herself.
    Adrian i hope that helps!!!!!!
    Kate x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ulp... Not a nice situation. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    All I can say is, think about it for a while, then try to talk to her. I'm a great believer that 'love' can take many forms - you can love someone sexually, as a friend, as a member of your family... It's not like any given form of love is more 'right' or that one form has to be 'stronger' than another.

    Think about it, talk it through, and it'll come out straight in the end. It's a cliché, I know, but often true.

    Hope this helps,

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