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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok Im 18 nearly 19 Ive never had a girlfriend, Ive had one 1 night stand but thats it(she aproached me). is there something wrong with me or is it just I lack the self confidence to approach or speak to girls.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nah, ur not a freak mate, dont worry- its not unusual.

    You prob do lack some self-confidence; try to talk to girls as mates and not as dates and take it from theer.

    It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Try making a few female friends, find out what the ladies like and take it from there.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, if you really feel that a g/f is what you need then by all means go for it.

    But be warned, somtimes when things get serious, and not work out, if she says that its not working when you KNOW you can do something about it, then it makes you sick. being with a girl isnt all its cracked up to be.

    Mama I love you, Mama I care.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dan-:
    is there something wrong with me or is it just I lack the self confidence to approach or speak to girls.


    There is nowt wrong wit ya, young man! It just takes time to find a person you really enjoy being with - whats the point in rushing out to find a girlfriend who might not be right for you?
    My bloke hadnt had a g/f b4 me, and i'd had about 4 b/f's, but my guy is the best b/f in THE WORLD!! He treats me better than any of the other plonkers coz he had time to learn about what girlies *really* want rather than jus gettin into relationships with every pretty girl he saw! And, no, he's not some ugly munter either - he is fuckin lush *every* girl i know fancies him - he just has his head screwed on! Don't worry, just be *PATIENT*!

    ...........................................

    PATIENCE is a virtue! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; :P


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've just turned 20 and am yet to have a serious relationship with any of the girlfriends I've had. To be honest I probably couldn't handle one at the mo so I'm not worried. The time will come .

    Get some good femail friends and your confidence with the opposite sex will get better. Go out clubbing at weekends coz it's an excellent way to meet girls. Don't get too wrapped up in any girl while your young. Go out and have somke quality times and fun, your still young mate.

    - Skive
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    [This message has been edited by Skive'n'Dive (edited 09-09-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol. i know how u feel.......i'm only 14 but its part of my personality that i feel the need to b close to sum1 other than family n friends ALL the time. which basically means that i'm often really upset bout the fact that i avnt got a bf n shit like that. A few months ago i went thru a really bad time n i just used 2 stay in my bedroom all the time. it got to the point where i almost had no social life at all. neways, i avnt had many relationships (bout 4) and they probably lasted no more than 1 week! my bezzie m8 beat me on the short-term relationship wen 1 of hers lasted aboot 45 mins!LMAO! well i spose we shudnt be worryin bout it cos we r both still young but then again it aint that easy wen it seems all ya m8s r cin sum1 is it?!

    i am the emotionless freak who dusnt make sense on a good day
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I`m 18 this month and only had my first gf a few months ago.
    It was nothing special and I think the only reason I went out with her was probably cos she was the first to offer.
    And that`s why it didn`t last.
    Basically the message is not to rush into getting a girlfriend until there`s someone you really like cos it`ll never work otherwise.
    And yeah, try to socialise with women a bit more. That`s what I`m doing after about 16 years of barely speaking a word to the opposite sex (except for my sisters, but they were mostly insults <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">)
    Take your time, wait til you`re ready, and basically just do what every1 else has said.

    "Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know how you feel.I'm 18 also and I've never had a boyfriend.I've had one sexual experience and thats it. I tell myself patience is the key but i find myself getting impatient sometimes. E-mail sometime Dan, its :sexkitin1@excite.com
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