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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I know this has probably been done loads of times before but i really need help. ive just started going out with a girl and she is the only serious girlfriend i have ever had. i really want to kiss her but im so worried about doing something wrong cos i have never really kissed someone before, what the hell should i do, and does everyone feel like this.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it would be my guess that you should bring it sometime. just some day, like you know that the first kiss is always the hardest, and that it usually just happens in the middle of a sentace, like: wow, its great weather we are having today *bam*.
    (forget what film i got that frm, but it works <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">).

    remember too, that she is probably feeling the exact same thing. so be the man, man. hmm
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My suggestion is to not think about it too much (easier said than done I know).

    Take it easy and slowly and be gentle, don't go shoving your tongue down her mouth.

    And try to enjoy it, you sound nice and a first kiss is a memory that will never leave you!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It is a common occurrence to be anxious and unsure of what your first kiss will be like. But kissing, like everything, takes practice, and once you learn how to do it, you will never forget it. Remember that every kiss will be different, so there is no right way to kiss.

    I am suggesting that you start with a peck on the cheek. Simply tilt your head to one side, gently plant your lips on your girlfriend's cheek, and following through with the puckering motion. Once you are comfortable with this, consider kissing on the lips. This form of kissing is similar to the first one, but perhaps easier because you have your girlfriend's lips involved, too. Remember when doing this not to open your mouth until your lips have reached your girlfriend's lips, try to avoid bumping teeth, and ensure that you don't have any food in your mouth (come on, I see it. Spit it out...).

    Once you have mastered kissing on the lips, you can move onto 'snogging' or 'French kissing'. This involves your tongue and your girlfriend's tongue in each other's mouth. Approach snogging gently, with no quick or sudden movements of your tongue. Try to avoid sticking your tongue all the way down your girlfriend's throat. Your tongue will almost certainly be met by your girlfriend's, and so you should have a very passionate and pleasurable kiss.

    Why don't you practice the above before trying it out on your girlfriend? You could do this on your arm or your hand (by making a pair of lips using your thumb and index finger), or on a pillow. This would allow you to see how it feels and to improve your technique. In addition, watch when people kiss in television programmes, as they should help.

    Good luck, Grimmy_D! Always remember that practice makes perfect, and if you do mess up, don't worry about it! Just enjoy yourself!
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