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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My boyfriend of 7 years came home 3 weeks ago and tld me he didn't love me anymore and that he didn't want this relationship - eventhough everything had been fine between us and as happy as always. It came completely out of the blue and am finding it difficult to come to terms with it. People keep telling me it will get better but I feel as if my whole world has caved in.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my soon to be husband (this was last year) came home after 6yrs and told me he wasnt going to marry me, and that he was going to make sure i never got to see my daughter.. this was completely out of the blue, and i felt as you are probably feelin now, like my world had caved in.. but with help from my friends and family, I came thru, and i now have a new boyf and my daughter is well adjusted and sees both her parents. Nothing anyone can say will make u feel any better just now, u need to greave for him first, then when u feel better.. get out with your mates and have a laugh.. love will come lookin for you when u least expect it.
    Chin up chook! xxx kash xxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That's right...allow yourself to feel the pain and anger....don't run from it. This is the best way to get through it. Friends and family will be supportive....turn to them when you need to and remember that the pain won't last forever.


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You know what the hardest thing is ? The fact that you find out exacly who your friends really are. The two people I thought were my best friends, and whom I have been there for in the past, have given me such little support. I don't know whether they can't handle the situation but it has made me feel so lonely. People say go out and make new friends but it's not that easy, is it ? I'm quite shy and can't just go out there and meet new people. It's hard when you lose not only the person you love most but your closest friends too.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i went through divorce 7 years ago and 2 of my closest friends never even visited and we haven't spoken since.

    but believe me YOU WILL find new friends and they'll be better friends. mine are.

    i agree, take this time to feel the pain and this'll probably manifest itself into anger. feeling anger has helped me in the past. i've taken the attitude that OK if they don't want me for who i am, then tough, it's them who are gonna miss out.

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