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why so shy around him?!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
HELP - i like this guy and have liked him for ages, we went out about a year ago and are mates now.... i know i should just go for it and flirt with him etc or otherwise how is he supposed to know i like him but when i am around him i get so nervous and completely don't act like i am interested in him...anyone else have this problem..anyone got any advice?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Simple, you are scared he might say no, or reject your advances so you close yourself off from that potential pain by not risking asking at all.

    To solve it, you really just need to sort out your own feelings. The only way to guarantee you'll not suffer rejection, also guarantees that you'll never gain acceptance. You are closing yourself to pain, but also to pleasure. Think about it, and then decide if the risks are worthwhile, and just go for it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u could just down a few pints and go 4 it, that losen u up a bit, there be no stopping ya chatting and flirting then, but just ave the 2 or 3, don't want be all over the place now. and who know he maybe feeling the same 4 U

    good luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Black_Knight:
    <STRONG>Simple, you are scared he might say no, or reject your advances so you close yourself off from that potential pain by not risking asking at all.

    </STRONG>

    thanks for your reply - and i know this is my problem...but i don't know how to overcome it, should i just start flirting abd talking to him more and get closer or should i just cut my losses and move on?

    *in regards to HARMLESS's post.... i will be sure to try the drunken one don't worry - lol *
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well its a case of getting a perspective on it.

    After all, isn't the hurtful bit of rejection that you don't get what you want - his company/companionship? Well, if you ask him then that might happen. If you don't ask him, it is guaranteed to happen.

    Really, what have you got to lose?

    Don't bother flirting if you are unsure about how to. Just be straight with him and say: "You know, I really like and respect you, and wondered if we could spend more time together" or something that is simply true.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    whooa i soooooooo know what you mean, about going shy, i have that problem, i sooo fine when im out and had a couple if drinks down me, but other times, like date and seeing them at college is hell!

    just think about it! breathe, and just say hey, how are you?, been out lately? dont go for the whole, wow u loooook so sexy appraoch, it can be sacry, be subtle, then you dont have to worry about what you have said if you are just being friendly! good look hun!
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