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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
IVE BEEN MARRIED FOR THREE YEARS AND I STILL LOVE MY WIFE VERY MUCH BUT I STILL LIKE LOOKING AT PORNO VIDEOS AND MAGS BUT MY WIFE SAYS ITS LIKE CHEATING ON HER BUT I DONT AGREE......ITS CAUSING ARGUEMENTS AND IM NOT HAPPY ABOUT THIS,,,,,I LOVE HER VERY MUCH BUT WHATS WRONG IN WHAT IM DOING?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    doesnt she watch them with you surely if she done this then how can that be cheating on her???

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some people just don't like pornography, maybe she feels it demines women, I'm not 100% sure.

    On the cheating side of it, I wouldn't say you where cheating, ok so your watching people go at it but its not like your joining in or going behind her back...

    I can understand where shes coming from tho, I guess you just need to talk to her about it, maybe only watch stuff when she isn't there...

    Perhaps shes concerned that she can perform well enough for you and you need to mags/videos to pleasure yourself.

    Just talk to her about it, I hope thats helped in some way. Good luck! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think you have to worry about yourself at all, as long as you don't substitute watching pornos for real sex. Try to explain to your wife why you enjoy watching pornos. Ask yourself if you watch them because you would like to spice up your own relationship. Maybe you can get your wife interested. For her pornos are probably a taboo because of a rigid upbringing. If you can't convince her that watching pornos means in no way cheating on her and that it would be fun watching together, then try to curb your habit a little and do it when she's not around. However, I believe you should be honest about it and tell her that you still watch porn every now and then. She should be able to accept that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DR LOVE:
    IVE BEEN MARRIED FOR THREE YEARS AND I STILL LOVE MY WIFE VERY MUCH BUT I STILL LIKE LOOKING AT PORNO VIDEOS AND MAGS BUT MY WIFE SAYS ITS LIKE CHEATING ON HER BUT I DONT AGREE......ITS CAUSING ARGUEMENTS AND IM NOT HAPPY ABOUT THIS,,,,,I LOVE HER VERY MUCH BUT WHATS WRONG IN WHAT IM DOING?

    easy on the caps lock mate......

    I can see both points of view, maybe your wife has an issue about the way she looks or feels about herself. Maybe she feels threatened by your mags and to an extent I can see where she is coming from.

    Maybe she needs to feel wanted by you, and by "reading" your mags, then she might feel inadequate to you in some way. Its a bit of a toughie, but marriage is all about compromise I guess.

    Let us know how it goes

    Brian



    Mama I love you, Mama I care.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There is nothing wrong with what u r doing but if it upsets your wife u should consider her feelings. Instead of arguing talk and try 2 reach a compromise, try doing more stuff together.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree- maybe she worries that you are fantasising about other women, rather than about her.

    Probably best to find out from her what she finds so objectionable about the pornos...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    I don't think this is an uncommon situation, and as Dagwood says I think it may have something to do with you fantasising about other women that is the root of the problem.

    Only users lose drugs
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DR LOVE:
    IVE BEEN MARRIED FOR THREE YEARS AND I STILL LOVE MY WIFE VERY MUCH BUT I STILL LIKE LOOKING AT PORNO VIDEOS AND MAGS BUT MY WIFE SAYS ITS LIKE CHEATING ON HER BUT I DONT AGREE......ITS CAUSING ARGUEMENTS AND IM NOT HAPPY ABOUT THIS,,,,,I LOVE HER VERY MUCH BUT WHATS WRONG IN WHAT IM DOING?


    Maybe you could both use the porno vids in a more constructive way.............???
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