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Am I being bloody stupid?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Last nite I went out for dinner with my man (been together a year) and we got on the subject of sex, and then hand jobs. He goes "you're really good at that, but you were absolute crap to start with" and starts going on about how shite it was. Anyway, I got kinda upset cause thats one of the things I get worried about (ie if I'm any good in bed) and went all quiet. Am I being hormonal and over reacting or should I have been upset?!!! Any reply would be good - ta <IMG alt="image" SRC="redface.gif" border="0">)

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what he thought was crap many other males might have loved. Its all part of learning what your partner likes. He obviously said it in a way that would annoy anyone. But its nothing to be worried bout.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    don't start to feel sefl conscious of what you are or aren't doing and dont let him make you feel that way. you have adapted to what your partner likes, dont take it personally but it wasnt fair of him to belittle you. prove him that you are seriously good and blow him away big time... then he'll forget he ever said it!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would have been upset too... I don't think that you're over-reacting at all. Probably the best thing to do would be to tell him how you feel about it. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you by his comments.

    Also I'm sure he wasn't complaining at the beginning which meant it couldn't have been that bad at all. And the whole comment could in some weird way be his idea of a compliment... how much he likes what you do now. But as I said, if you talk to him about it without making it a huge deal, he should probably be able to explain himself.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would have reacted the same way that you did. I worry about whether I'm doing things right all the time, but it was unfair of your boyf. to say something like that. I don't think you should worry about it though - every guy has his own set of likes and dislikes, and you can't be expected to be a mind reader first off. <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh i'd be upset too, if he didnt like the way you were doing it it's not your fault, you dont know what he's feeling as you do stuff to him, only he does, so youre not gona get it right unless he helps you by saying what he prefers you to do etc. then you'll never get it wrong.if he doesnt help just ask him yourself <IMG alt="image" SRC="cool.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what he was probaly sayin was at first he enjoyed it and felt really 'nice' but now it is alot better and makes the first few times seem not so good! cant expect to be goos at everything first time!
    i dont think your over reacting but maybe should look at is a compliment because he is sayin its really good NOW!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's crazy how much better a bunch of people you've never met can make you feel <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> Thanks to everyone who replied xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell you what... drive up to yorkshire, give me a hand job and i will tell you how good you are! and i will be honest!! he he he <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

    Cae9
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