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What SHould I Do!?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey this is my first post, so be nice.

I'm having trouble telling my best friend how i feel. I tell her how much i care about her, it honestly does feel like i love her, i'd do anything for her. but recently i've started to fancy her, and ive told roughly how i feel and she says she feels the same but she's missing this "thing between the 2 of us", i dont understand what she means by the "thing between the 2 of us". please help. how do i get her to feel this thing!? i need her!

I do everything with her, im her mest friend and she's mine. would i ruin our friendship if we became more than friends? we keep trying to set each up and stuff. we've been "touchy/feely" friends for ages and i'd like to know what the signs are, i mean how can i tell if she wants me?

Mark

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Drag her round a back ally mate, dont be shy. All lasses love a bit o rough and dont let them tell you anyotherwise. She'll be frothin at the gash waitin for that special day when you rip her pats off and kick her doors in. Obviously if she stuggles, dont go there. Wouldnt want you to get into trouble or anything. But.... You go for it mate, if your that close and she knows you like her, she'll be creamin. <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by [SpArKo]PhAtSo:
    <STRONG>Drag her round a back ally mate. She'll be frothin at the gash waitin for that special day when you rip her pats off and kick her doors in. if your that close and she knows you like her, she'll be creamin. <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="wink.gif" border="0"></STRONG>

    erm, yes. right. <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">

    this comes up sooo often - if u try doing a search through past threads then u should find plenty on the issue. personally, i find that if i fancy a girl, then if i wait for a while (few weeks/months) and do nothing then eventually the feelings fade and ur out of the whole sticky situation. but then if this girl is ur best friend then i suppose u know her better than that. how long have u fancied her? she sounds like she'll be around for a while, so why not just leave it for now and see how things turn out?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That "thing between us" you speak of could quite simply be that you are too good a friend to her for her to think of you sexually, which is what it partly needs for a relationshiop to work. You can care for someone as much as you want, but if you dont fancy them then nothing will happen.

    Just talk to her about it, say youve got her as your best mate but you like her in other ways too. Dont blurt out that you love her and want to shag her, but talk about how you feel and see how she feels. Even if nothing comes of it, at least you will both know where you stand and not have a great friendship ruined.

    Good luck, but you gotta talk to her. Do a search as well, as plenty more people have given great advice about this same problem. Welcome to TheSite <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i was in a situation liek you not long ago. My friend and i admitted we faniced each other & we had a touchy feely relationship.
    When i told him i liked him - he went funny with me but when he told me nothing changed - MEN!
    But now he likes someone else and im happy with my boyfriend.
    I think when you try and set each other up it shows that you care a lot and do anything to make them happy <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She says she does fancy me, but in a different way to she has other people. Apparently sometimes she just wants to put her arms around me and kiss me. thats how i feel about her too.

    She can be very unpredictable at times, because sometimes she's really honest and open about how she feels about me, but most of the time we speak as friends. recently she's been asking me a lot if i still fancy her. Does this mean that she wants me to and she wants to make something from it?

    What are the signs that someone fancys you? im not very good at signs, i can read like her a book but i just cant tell if she fancys me.

    if i was to ruin our friendship id hate that, thats why im gonna wait for her to make the first move. is that a good idea?

    Thanks
    Mark
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She says she does fancy me, but in a different way to she has other people. Apparently sometimes she just wants to put her arms around me and kiss me. thats how i feel about her too.

    She can be very unpredictable at times, because sometimes she's really honest and open about how she feels about me, but most of the time we speak as friends. recently she's been asking me a lot if i still fancy her. Does this mean that she wants me to and she wants to make something from it?

    What are the signs that someone fancys you? im not very good at signs, i can read like her a book but i just cant tell if she fancys me.

    if i was to ruin our friendship id hate that, thats why im gonna wait for her to make the first move. is that a good idea?

    Thanks
    Mark
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u cant wait for her to make the first move because she might be waiting for u to make the first move and you'll never get anywhere! It sounds to me like more than a friendship, u should get in there. Just think to yourself, how would you feel if she met someone? would u be upset? or would you be happy for her? how do u think she'd feel if u met someone? You should ask her how she truly feels about u...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have a female friend and she is prob my best mate we used to do loads together, and when she fell pregnant i was there for her and i have helped her thorgh a lot of stuff. on new years eve this year, she sends me a text message confessing her undyoing love for me, i am currently the happiest i have ever been with my current girlfriend, i really love her, and would do anything for her. As to my friend we just decided to stay best friends, if it has done anything it has probably made us better friends! Hope this helps

    Cae9
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If she was to meet someone i would be jealous so very jealous. i was about her last boyfriend, my best friend! she never knew i was jealous, but it hurt. it really hurt. i was there for her when it ended, to be honest i was glad it ended she never knew it.

    If the time seems right tomorrow i will make a move on her, depends if were flirting. If she's not in the mood for flirting is there anything i can do to make her a bit more flirty? help!

    Thanks

    Mark
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    compliment her in a nice way! that usually gets the chicks going! <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When i do compliment her, she sometimes gets embarressed and goes all red. but sometimes it does work, thanks i'll try it. do you think it is possible to love someone so much you would do anything for them? it is how i feel, but could it be because i want to love someone that much?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi
    if u really feel that way about her then just tell her then if she wants it to be b/f g/f go ahead so be honest for her sake and yours.
    night ryder.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so i should just blurt it all out? should i do it face to face or some other way? i really dont know what to do.
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    the_Paranoid_bunnythe_Paranoid_bunny Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    Originally posted by Mr Nice Guy:
    <STRONG>should i do it face to face or some other way? </STRONG>

    whatever you do, do it face to face. always.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Or just a single red rose! ----{@ that usually does the trick! get her a card, sign t with your name! put it with rose and leave it for her to get. possibly at her house, put in the card how you truely feel about her!

    hope this helps!!

    Cae9
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok, so i should tell her how i feel about her, exactly how i feel about her to her face. sounds hard but hopefully it will be worthit. atleast i know where i'll stand, but how will i know if she's being honest?!?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    FUCK HER OR I WILL
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