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Hi, newbie after some advice, am i paranoid?...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have been going out with my new boyf since boxing day well, i like this one and whenever i like them i stress!

ive been going out with him a few times a week since boxing day so weve had lots of dates, then gradually moved into "couple" mode. i didnt sleep with him til wednesday cos i wanted to wait. Since then, this weekend, not sure if im paranoid but it felt like he wasnt as bothered about me - ie until i slept with him, when we went out he was always kissing me, cuddling me etc and making sure i was ok saying nice things, but we went out on saturday to an engagement do and he didnt really bother, not sure if its cos i was sitting with all the girls and he was with the boys but i kept thinking it wasnt the same as it was before, once i got this idea in my head it was really bugging me and i was analysing everything he did/said I dont think hes a bastard or used me or anything as he waited for me to be ready for so long but it seems like now he doesnt need to chase me now or pay attention - feels a bit like now we are starting to settle into boyfriend/girlfriend mode he is starting to take me for granted and thinks all his work is done!!

1. Am i being paranoid

2. How do i kick him up the bum and stop him from taking me for granted Any advice appreciated!!

Thanks alot
xxx

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi, welcome to thesite!
    to be honest, i dont think that you should be thinking the worst right now - maybe he is not into public displays of affection
    i think that the best thing you can do is just talk to him and tell him that youre feeling a bit insecure - psychoanalysing his everysingle gesture towards you wont help things!
    hope this helps <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe it was just a one-off night of bad performance... give him a chance to see if his behaviour has really changed. Perhaps he was just tired or had something on his mind.

    If his attitude has changed, either have it out with him and out him straight. Or, don't give him anymore until he bucks his ideas up.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya

    Thanks for the reply, I know I shouldnt stress right yet (in my nature i think) BUT one thins is that he never had any problems at all with public shows of affection before this weekend, hence the paranoia!
    xxx
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