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Libido????

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
First i hope that i have spelt that right??

Ok , i am 21 years old and in a loving 4 year relationship. But i have NO Libido , none what so ever , i wouldnt be bothered if i didn't have sex for the next 6 months.

My B/f is the one that instigates it, never me. I hear of mates of mine that have sex 3-4 times a week , and i think , no ways , i just couldnt be asked. 3-4 times a month maybe.

It is not that i dont enjoy it , i do , and have no problem reaching orgasam , or climaxing. I actually Have multiple.

I have changed pills to a lower dose , and that has not worked.

Any Help PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:confused:

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    littlemissylittlemissy Posts: 9,972 Supreme Poster
    Re: Libido????
    Originally posted by slinkyGirl1
    First i hope that i have spelt that right??

    Ok , i am 21 years old and in a loving 4 year relationship. But i have NO Libido , none what so ever , i wouldnt be bothered if i didn't have sex for the next 6 months.

    My B/f is the one that instigates it, never me. I hear of mates of mine that have sex 3-4 times a week , and i think , no ways , i just couldnt be asked. 3-4 times a month maybe.

    It is not that i dont enjoy it , i do , and have no problem reaching orgasam , or climaxing. I actually Have multiple.

    I have changed pills to a lower dose , and that has not worked.

    Any Help PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    :confused:

    i can completely understand the frustration. i have none at the moment either due to different reasons. maybe you need to do something to spice up your sex life. if its the same mundane (sorry) thing over and over it does get a bit boring after a while. maybe introduce new things??
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Stress and worry can affect your sex drive. Might be that something is bothering you and thus affecting you.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Read the thread about spicing up your sex life
    Should be a few pointers in there.

    Why dont you instigate it?
    Or at least try make a moment out of it.
    Why not take a scented bath together with candles-
    Cook him a meal or try dress up!
    I love controlling women who are spontaneous

    :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't have any suggestions, appart from read info on this site, and search for other sites (health sites usually have a sexual health section) to see if you can find any advice. All I can do is sympathise (for both you and your boyfriend).
    It's strange that you don't feel horny at all for months on end (I assume by reading between the lines of your post). Is everything ok with your life. You're not down, depressed, or stressed? Anything happened, or changed, that makes you feel like that, or have you always been like that?

    Everybody has a different libido though, and it ebbs and flows. I find that every few weeks I'm incredibly horny to the point where I'll rub myself raw, and then other weeks I just can't be bothered.

    Mr_Wobble ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well we have decied that we are going to try a tonic , made by a popular vitamin company and approved by doctors called....................

    Libido tonic , containing Horny Goat weed.

    Yes , this is true, and i am not making it up , in the some range they have Mood Tonic , that is great for the morning after the night before , especially when you have had pills and other narcotics. It boosts your seratonium levels and keeps you happy.

    So wish me luck with the Libido tonic.

    ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    perhaps you need to think about sex more, like think about what you want him to do to you, or you do to him. remember how good it feels when you have those orgasms. if you spend time thinking about it, like a day dream or something then you'll probably want to do it. or maybe watch some porn?

    libido is in the mind. if you imagine yourself getting horny, you will.

    and good luck on the tonic!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by NinjaMaster
    Stress and worry can affect your sex drive. Might be that something is bothering you and thus affecting you.

    really? oooh wkd i thought there was something really wrong with me for going off sex, now i know why :)
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