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this is a friendship problem

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey all...i didn't really know where this should go but...
we've been best mates for about 4 years, and during the past year we haven't really been that close as my mate has got into drugs etc...n found different interests. Anyway, we still have been quite close but i have just found out that she has been lying too me about almost everything...

She has not been at school for about 4-5 weeks now and she told me that she had been ill. I have been really concerned for her and been ringin her and stuff in an attempt to cheer her up. About an hour ago, i got a viusit from her mum, who came round my house looking for my mate. Apparantly, shes been pretending to go to school but been going to see her new boyfriend ibnstead. During these few mion ths shes been caugfht for dealing, and shes been blaming kloads of stuff on me, and usin me as an excuse without even telling me.

Anyway, without realising whjat shes been up to, i tolds her mum she hasbn't beena t school..and now i'm worried that my mate aint going to sopea\k to me again...i've got her into so much trouble?!?!?!

i dont really know the point of this post... just really angry at my mate, and really worried about her

any advice

(p.s, sorry is so long)

[ 31-01-2002: Message edited by: amz ]

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You haven't got her into trouble - she's got herself into trouble by bunking off school and lying. She's abused your friendship big time - and if she doesn't come to you & apologise than I doubt there's a future for your friendship at all.

    I know you want to help her out, and it's great to help someone out who's going through a bad patch, but there's also a point where people have to take responsibility for their own choices in life.

    It's sad, but sometimes it's best to let friends drift away - it may be the wise thing to do in this case. And you sound like a caring person, so I'm sure that you'll soon start making friends with people who value you more. <IMG alt="image" SRC="cool.gif" border="0">

    [ 01-02-2002: Message edited by: PK ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Any mate that blames things on friends aint a mate, they are a waste of space. Shes only doing things to make herself happy and wouldnt care about you at all!!

    Do you think she would come running to help you, if you caught for one of the things she blamed you for. I dont think so!!!!

    Your to good for her, you should stick with your other mates or try and make new ones that will appreciate you for who you are.

    Anywhos, I hope your ok and that things work out whatever you chose to do <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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