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How can I overcome this feeling?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey I'm new here, hope you can give me some advice.

Basically I've been in love with the same person for 5 years but it's always been bad timing between us. Either I had a boyfriend or he had a girlfriend. There has always been this connection between us, you know the one, eyes meet across a crowded room. My knees go weak when I see him he touches my hand and I feel tingles throughout my body it is so wierd. Now we have finally got it together and I've never felt this way about anyone, but I feel myself trying too hard to keep it perfect. The last relationship I had was such a disaster and I was treat like dirt for 2 years until I finally came to my senses and ended it, and I think it's rubbing off on this. I'm so scared he's gonna do exactly the same thing when deep down I know he's not like that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by girliegirlkh:
    <STRONG>Hey I'm new here, hope you can give me some advice.

    Basically I've been in love with the same person for 5 years but it's always been bad timing between us. Either I had a boyfriend or he had a girlfriend. There has always been this connection between us, you know the one, eyes meet across a crowded room. My knees go weak when I see him he touches my hand and I feel tingles throughout my body it is so wierd. Now we have finally got it together and I've never felt this way about anyone, but I feel myself trying too hard to keep it perfect. The last relationship I had was such a disaster and I was treat like dirt for 2 years until I finally came to my senses and ended it, and I think it's rubbing off on this. I'm so scared he's gonna do exactly the same thing when deep down I know he's not like that.
    How can i overcome this feelin? <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    All together now, fellow Siters....

    TALK TO HIM

    It really is the only way to stop all this worry. He's probably feeling exactly the same way. I mean, you've been dancing round the relationship for 5 years, and now you've finally managed to get it together, it will be dead weird.

    I think if you sit down, and tell him how you feel, then he'll probably open up to you as well. Then you can work from that to make sure that you don't put so much pressure on things, trying to make it perfect, that it will mess it up.

    Anyway, i feel i have blabbered on enough now. Hope that helps, and that you get things sorted. Good luck!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its true wat emmex have said...but i really dont know how brave u are in being the one who make the first move..but its doesnt really matter..if u are quite shy then u should just let nature takes its course...to speed up the things a bit...u should drop a few hints along the way..i know its quite hard for someone who had just fallen out of love and wanting to be in another relationship..u said that u might be afraid if he treat u the same like ur ex...but treat that as a learning phase...u will come out stronger from that..u will now when to move towards the relationship or back out from it...both ur feelings for each other have been hidden for the past five years...maybe its god way in saying that now its the time for u to start the relationship..so the time is now...in any case,the guy who truly loves u appreciate u for the way u are...hope it help. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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