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Do you forgive and forget??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
This is a very generalised question, I'm just looking to get a feel for the way most people would think.

Do you forgive and forget your partners mistakes?? By mistakes I mean anything that would hurt you that was not intended. I think that forgiveness is easy if you love someone, but do you truly forget what happened, or would you raise the issue again in the future??

Do you store these problems away for further consideration, or is it just water under the bridge to you??

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If it was unintentional then I probably would forgive.
    If it was intentional then I wouldn't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Always let it out me, no point in bottling things up cause they only hurt yourself. If it was a particularly nasty act i'll get my own back, but either way i'll finish it. There's too much hurt and anger in the world without me adding to it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's easy to say you have forgiven someone but have you really or are they just words?
    I often wonder that myself.
    I can "forgive" but i can never forget.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I forgive and generally forget, in that Im not bitter about it and always thinking about it, but I prolly would use it in a particularly bitter argument...easy points-scoring <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I forgive anything once, but I don't forgive the repeat mistakes. I guess that means I forgive but I don't forget.

    That said, I never throw things in her face that I've forgiven. If you do then you haven't truly forgiven those things as you are still punnishing her for them.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'll forgive if it was unintentional, and/or he was drunk or something, but if it happened again he'd be out the door. everyone deserves a second chance, especially if you love them, but it's not right to keep a relationship going if you're being cheated on or otherwise feel maligned.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it really depends on the size of the mistake, how many times the person has done it before and how well r you to forgive.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK, so how would you feel about someone who never forgot, never forgave and always brought up your past mistakes and/or ex's??
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tricky one, erm pass the shotgun <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ho hum, for those who haven't guessed, I am of course talking about my Lady. It seems to be an obsession for her, everything I've ever done is neatly filed away for further reference and/or analysis, and as for my ex's......sheesh. I'm the type of guy who likes to break up with someone on friendly terms, but apparently nothing short of me murdering my ex's and burying them under the patio would satisfy my Lady.

    For example, in my house we've got a load of postcards hung on the kitchen wall. While I was cooking my Lady was randomly looking through them and found one from an ex of mine, and for the next half an hour all I got was grief about "Do you want to fuck her again?" and "Was she better than me?".

    Of course I'm not perfect, I have fucked up a few times since we've been together, but is it unreasonable to think that once something has happened between two people who love each other, that those things would be forgiven and forgotten and not used for cheap point-scoring whenever we argue??
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