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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I am a very confused guy! Not in the way of sexual preference, but more in the sense of life. I consider myself slightly shy, and really lazy. I am a mix between an introvert and an extrovert, mainly depending on the day. I don't push myself hard enough, if at all. I am doing poorly in school, and in relationships. I stay at home all day and dream about myself with the girls of my dreams. Not a very good life as you can imagine, but!, yes there is a but! i want to change! I want to find out how you people get a boost in your confidence, what you say to yourselves, and what you do to get girls! I am LOST, and I need the help of girls and boys alike. I am an information freak, and would like to hear all of your advice.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    apparently pretending to have confidence is a good way of actually building up ur own confidence.

    Sounds like u need a bit of motivation, set urself some goals and go after them. Go out with ur mates and have some fun and meet new people <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was exactly the same, although i am much better now. There are still things that i would like to do but feel uncomfortable doing, but i have come out of my shell loads.

    I hated school, i didn't get bullied as such but taunted, which didn't do much for my confidence, and i thought that unless i was in the "in crowd" i would never get a bloke, not being big headed, i'm not that bad to look at, but ther personality didn't go.

    But i left school and went to college, where i mixed with great people, and when i got a job and mixed with grown ups, this was great, i could pretend to be who i wanted to be, and they wouldn't know, coz they didn't know me. If i tried this at school they would have sussed me out...or so i thought, but i will never know, i let them walk all over me. Don't you make the same mistake.

    How old are you? I think you should get out there and get that girl u r dreaming about, my motto now is "if in doubt do it anyway or live life wondering"

    Confidence won't come over night, but it will come gradually.


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Couldnt agree more with that stuff about confidence. But trust me, one day it WILL come.

    Three weeks ago I was unhappy, depressed, couldnt get motivated, and I couldnt see a way out. I seriously considered suicide becoz I thought it wouldnt get better.

    Now, partly due to the really good advice and support from certain people on this site, I feel soooo much more confidenet in myself, I got a gorgeous girlfreind, who has just txted me and said that she thought I looked and smelt wonderful tonite. I just realised, hey I got confidence, hey I am worth something.

    You might be feeling crappy now mate, but trust me, once you find your inner self, once you know that you are worth something, its the best feeling in the world.

    Its a good idea to set ureself little goals and targets in yer life, and once u acheive them, u will feel great.

    Hope i've helped

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; brian

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ConfusedMale:
    Couldnt agree more with that stuff about confidence. But trust me, one day it WILL come.

    not necesarily. some people are just shy (me) and will never have confidence.

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
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