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Her parents are sooooo strict

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My girlfriend and i have been going out for 6 weeks now and its going really well. But it gets me down sometimes of how strict her parents are. We cant get up to anything good in her house because of her annoying sister and nosey mum. and she can never go round mine. She never lets her go out. she gives her the option of going out on sat nights or during the day, and thats thw only time she is allowed to go out the whole weekend, maybe on sunday. is there a way of getting her parents to lighten up. she is on a revision course all week this week, its the hols and its from 8-5pm, then they expect her to revise in the evenings too! WTF! I never get her on my own, it really pisses me off. Im not gonna dump her or anythung cause she means so much to me and i could never split up from her. it just gets me down, but i lover her too bits so after GCSE's it will be different!


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You may find her parents are off your backs once she's got through the gcses! they may simply be worried she won't pass.
    You both love each other, so just remember you have lots of time in the future, gcse's will be finished by the end of June <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry dude, this sucks.

    a little change in philosophy might help though. instead of stressing over the time you aren't spending together, enjoy the time you are.

    and i can tell you from experience that anticipation can be a good thing. if you both have some pent up feelings that you've been built up during the week, the time you have together must just be amazing cause it's so intense.

    and even thought it's very hard right now, it sounds like this is temporary. i'm sure she misses you as much as you miss her. so support her as much as possible, and you'll be together soon enough.

    good luck dude.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know how you rae feeling. I'm in the same situation as your girlfriend. My boyfriend constantly goes on downers about it ever since we first started dating;16 months ago!!!Yep we're still together through all that. Just cope with it. My mum has eased off a bit. Try and get to know the mum better. She;s probably wooried you are bad. My mum became more easy going once she was pleased enough with my boyfriend but she is still strict.
    My dad's even worse!!!He doesn't know I've got a boyfriend. He lives many miles away. He would absolutely throttle my boyfriend.
    Last summer-6 weeks I only saw my boyfriend 3 times.I was with my dad. I just couldn't get out of it. I got out of it with my mum's help for one day.
    GCSE results for one day.
    Orthodontist for one day.
    Believe me, thats summer was not easy. My boyfriend went on several downers but we've coped and still coping now.
    Phoning helps!
    This situation is uncontrollable, what you've got to do is cope.It won't last forever.Don't l;et it split you up either,its not worth it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    gosh i thought i had it bad last summer, my bf went to ibiza 4 2 weeks, when he came back 2 weeks later i went away 4 2 weeks! i hated every minute of it.

    sounds bad but i thought my mum and dad were strict! my dad wont let us share a room 2 gether, and my mum just goes along with it.

    after months of persuation his mum now lets us share a room together, he has a double bed but he is ment to sleep on the floor. the other night i slept, we had just been up to a bit of hanky panky! and we both went down stairs 2 get a drink, he only had some shorts on and his mum went "u better noy be sleeping in the same bed" i mean both our parents know we r having sex and he has a double bed so we r hardly likly 2 sleep separatly!!

    but my mum cant be 2 bad cos she came to the family planning clinicwith me last nite 2 get my pill!!

    dont stress bout it i agree with cheeky u just gotta stick it out in the end things will be ok

    cheeky does ur bf live far from u??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree with everything calvin said <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    when ur in a relationship you just want more and more and more, and sometimes they can't give you that much, so just enjoy what you have till after exams.

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No he doesn't,just a 15-20 minute walk.
    You see my dad lives far away and I had to go away last summer(80miles)away so I couldn't see him but its great now except the odd strictness,just hope this summer wont be the same.But we will cope if it does happen again
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well some of ur situations sound bad, like 3 times in the whole summer, that is just terrible! I invite her over to mine 2day after her course she is on, and she says no, i mean im going away on friday for a week too, i get pissed off when she doesnt wanna see me. in the summer i wont see her for near on a month!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's not that she doesn't want to see oyu, she's probably just saying no, because she knows her parents won't le her, and it saves the dissapointment of her saying yes, then finding she can't!! Go easy on her, it's not her fault, and she probably feels the same way as you!!

    I thoud I saw a puddycat, I did, I did see a puddycat!!
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    god cheeky, i feel sooo sorry for you only seeing him a few times for just those short periods of time as well!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    last summer i was with my ex, he stayed down with me for 2 weeks ish and then i went to stay with him for 3 weeks, i was meant to be getting a job but he was useless about it and didnt find the info i needed till it was way too late so i just had to stay in his house every single day till half past 5, it was awful! and it was a really boring holiday too, i had the stress of needing to do my geog coursework but being hellishly behind and stuck and we didnt really go out.

    ive only seen y bf once ever coz i met him on here, i spent last half term with him and thats the last time i saw him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; but i get to see him for 4 days in 2 weeks time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; and at the end of may hopefully for a couple of days in half term but ive got tonnes of revision.. then after 20th june im all done with school and hopefully i can see him a lot more! although its not so flexible now because im working 3 days a week and at the mo he works weekends and 2 days during the week <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; ah well, im sure we'll work something out.

    so it could be a lot worse! but i can imagine how hard it is for you jolizzie so used to seeing your bf then going to not seeing him much at all.

    chris its a shame your gf's parents are so strict <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; luckily my parents arent bad now, they dont mind the idea of my bf sleeping on a mattress on the floor... well depends if we can both fit in my single bed or not <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; and my bf had a double bed when i went to stay, even though he agreed to sleep downstairs on the sofa at first we obviously ended up sleeping in the same bed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; my mum knows im on the pill though so shes okay about it really. she's cool actually, she lets me do what i like pretty much, as long as i know what im letting myself in for and she wont ban me from something like seeing my bf on school nights or something (well if that was a possibility which it clearly isnt!) hopefully your gf's parents will get better after the gcses, its not long to go now, hold on chris!!

    (fs this wont post, keeps copmplaining about my smilies, ive deleted fecking loads and i dont have 8 anymore!!!! grrrrr)

    I'm 18 and 5 months. :D
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