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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi, I'm a 17 year old guy but that probably doesn't matter. (this is my first post if you haven't already guessed).

OK, well it goes like this: I have a mate (female) who I've only known for a few months. I have fancied her for quite some time. I also know her best mate, and she knew I did, so was tryin to gte me to ask her out for a long time but I kept saying no coz I'm too shy. Her mate told me that she fancied me aswell and so I didn't have to worry about her saying no, but stopped trying to persuade me a few weeks ago, and instead, asked if I was gonna ask her out and when i said no, she said "ok, I understand since your shy".

About a week or 2 weeks ago, we all went out in the day and got I got drunk. When she was drunk aswell, she asked if I fancied her and I told her I did. By late evening I was sober and remembered it so was worrying about it.

The next day, my best mate said he was talking to her best mate and found out that she doesn't fancy me, which I am now quite gutted about and haven't been able to get over. I'm pretty sure she did used to like me, so is there any way i can "get her back" to liking me in that way again? If this happens, I probably will ask her out as I now know what its like to lose a chance of going out with someone. So if its a guy replying, say what you do around them to get a girlfriend, and if its a girl, then what kinda things girls like in guys.

Thanks a lot to anyone who takes the time to reply. From Chris.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dude, you are WAY too wired over this whole thing. Just relax, take a few deep breaths, and go talk to her. Yes, I said TALK. It's a magical little word, and it does magical things. Tell her (not your mates etc) how you feel, tell her what you heard, and ask her what she thinks. It really is that simple. Things will sort thmeselves out, so just chill bro. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK, thanks for replying toast and it did help, now I'm probably just getting wired up again when I say this, but I seen her for the first time since I was drunk lat saturday and we both acted like nothing happened. Wouldn't she have said something if she wanted to go out with me? But she is a shy person aswell so that might have been why.

    I think I am being a bit wired up above, but its just ncase. I've never been out with anyone before so I don't know much about this kinda thing. From Chris.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The only way to find out for sure is to speak to her. Even if the answer is no, as long as you do it sensibly, you haven't lost anything have you?

    That's probably not what you wanted to hear, but what are you gonna do? Life's a bitch <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kentish:
    <STRONG>The only way to find out for sure is to speak to her. Even if the answer is no, as long as you do it sensibly, you haven't lost anything have you?

    That's probably not what you wanted to hear, but what are you gonna do? Life's a bitch <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    i agree
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi there chris, if you don't ask her you will probably go mad with frustration! she sounds nice and so do you. (if a little mental.) go for it! girls love being asked out.

    PS. do it sober.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ask her out and dont stress about it. Try and keep calm and im sure things will go well. Good luck! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can encourage you to do what I didn´t... Talk to her before it´s too late... I didn´t for more than a year and that caused me a lot of pain so I wouldn´t recommend the silent way... If she says no, you´ll be able to get over it once you have talked the matter... If you don´t say anything the pain will be longer.
    Good luck from Buenos Aires!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Chris61119841:
    <STRONG>I got drunk... By late evening I was sober.</STRONG>

    Oooooooh! Obviously you were really totalled.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey chris. You sound just like my b/f. Hes really shy and never had a G/f before me. Anyway, the truth is I liked him too but because I'm shy and he is shy we didn't know that we like each other.
    One night he got V.drunk and blirted out that he liked me (i wasn't present, it was to his mates) i found out and because of this he took the plunge and asked me out on a casual date.
    Anway, were still together and id just say to talk to her and if it doesnt work out at least you've had a try!
    This probably doesnt help but i just tought you'd like to know that I to have been in this situation.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok right now im confused!! (yes i know im a bloke and get easily confused!)

    you fancy your mate right? and you DONT fancy you mates best mate right?

    what i would do is talk to your mate and make some hints or passes to see what she does. i know you might be shy but try not to be coz i am sometime!!!

    just be yourself ok if you need any help email me!!
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