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Gay Experiences

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Has ne one else had any gay experiences ??

Last october, a guy I knew for a few years told me that some other guy at his work grabbed his testicles in the toilets and kissed him when no-one was looking. He was fine about it he said, but a relationship didnt develop, whcih was also cool.

My mate eventually said he wanted to grab my balls, which I was dead agaisnt to start with, but as time went by he melted me down, and i agreed. He did it, and to b honest, it was a bit of a non-event, because there was basically no sexaul chemistry at all, and to b honest it felt a bit disappointing, i thought i would feel more.

The whole point of this post (yes there is one), is to say that, yes it is okay to experiment, as long as both parties are comfortable with it. Okay, it wasnt my cup of tea, but I feel more sexually whole, now it has happened to me.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My friend thought he might be bi at one point because he got off with another guy while he was drunk and quite enjoyed it. Although he's now decided he wouldn't do it again, he's glad he tried it.

    I think it's fine to experiment if you're at all curious, and like you say Confused, as long as both parties are happy with it. I wouldn't ever want to, but I think maybe guys think about their sexuality more than girls....
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i agree that its okay to experiment if both people agree and are comfortable.

    personally ive not had a lesbian experience.... but i wouldnt rule it out. i know im not gay, im pretty sure that i like blokes!! but then im not ruling out anything... as my friend in school says, hes keeping all his options open. and why shouldnt we? we're only young after all, if the opportunity is there and you want to take it then why shouldnt you? i dont see theres any harm in trying everything before settling down to being one way or the other or whatever.

    lol this reminds me of a conversation i had with my friend when she was trying to decide between the new, exciting bf who was also her friend, or her bf shed been with for a long time and we used examples of plain crisps and prawn cocktail and salt and vinegar and not wanting to settle for the plan without trying the salt and vinegar! lol thats totally not relevant i know so ill shut up now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wildchild:
    My friend thought he might be bi at one point because he got off with another guy while he was drunk and quite enjoyed it. Although he's now decided he wouldn't do it again, he's glad he tried it.

    I think it's fine to experiment if you're at all curious, and like you say Confused, as long as both parties are happy with it. I wouldn't ever want to, but I think maybe guys think about their sexuality more than girls....

    I think it is because in society nobody is supposed to go to the wrong side but in theory blokes are more explicit over their sexuality and being GAY is more acceptable than being LESBIAN.
    I know that girls supposidly talk more emotions..... that true but it relies on trust.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i think its difficult for anyonee to talk about their sexuality, not just blokes. i think if any girl told their friends she was a lesbian it would be as hard, if not easier, than it would be for a bloke totell his friends he was gay. if thats what you mean.

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kat:
    I think it is because in society nobody is supposed to go to the wrong side but in theory blokes are more explicit over their sexuality and being GAY is more acceptable than being LESBIAN.
    I know that girls supposidly talk more emotions..... that true but it relies on trust.

    Society thinks its worse to be a lesbian, does it Kat?

    When was the last time a gang of lads gave a lesbian a good kicking for being a "freak"?

    Most lads would cum in a heartbeat at the thought of going home to watch two lesbians go at it.

    If lesbians are the evil ones, why is it that its gay men who are constantly beaten senseless?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And in response to 'Confused Male', you just need to tell your mate that your not gay and that you only let him touch you up because he went on at you for so long.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ConfusedMale:
    My mate eventually said he wanted to grab my balls, which I was dead agaisnt to start with, but as time went by he melted me down, and i agreed. He did it, and to b honest, it was a bit of a non-event, because there was basically no sexaul chemistry at all, and to b honest it felt a bit disappointing, i thought i would feel more.

    The whole point of this post (yes there is one), is to say that, yes it is okay to experiment, as long as both parties are comfortable with it. Okay, it wasnt my cup of tea, but I feel more sexually whole, now it has happened to me.

    Confused, it doesn't sound like you were in an ideal situation to try a bit of experimentation. Had you ever been slightly attracted to a male before this incident? What "more" were you expecting to feel out of it? Did he just grab your balls or did you go further? Did you kiss? Were you and he sexually aroused? Did you both cum? What I'm trying to say is that if some bloke, who you don't even fancy, just grabs your balls and there is no chemistry between you, it's bound to be disappointing. Experimentation for experimenation's sake would be quite an empty experience.

    I've only snogged a few guys before but, with the right one in the right circumstances, I'd like to take it further. I find some guys very attractive (some willies too for that matter) and it's because of this, I'd like to try a sexual experience with another male some day. But I'm happy with my girlfriend at the moment so it's not a burning desire for me although she knows how I feel and she is quite curious herself.

    Basically, if you never felt an attraction to another male, it doesn't seem like it was worth the experimentation for you. For a more complete view of the experience, I think some previous curiosity on the subject would have given you a better understanding of your sexuality. It doesn't sound like it enhanced yours much because you never had the desire for it in the first place. Another reason to only do what you want to do - not what someone else wants you to do.

    On the upside, at least you haven't landed up with any feelings of guilt, recriminations or regret and handled the experience very well - that has to be character building at the very least!

    [This message has been edited by J@ke (edited 04-04-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was unsure about my sexuality from a young age mate... I did the gay thing just before I went in the army and it screwed my time in there big time when one of the lads managed to find some shit about me from people who knew me at college.

    I've slept with members of both sexes, I'm not ashamed, but one piece of advice I can offer you is don't rush into telling people what you get up to. I told about 3 people what I was getting up to and within about a month everyone round town knew, even my next-door neighbours, people seem to regard you differently when they know about things.

    Having same-sex experiences is a perfectly natural way of growing up, its a time when your hormones are high and your not sure whether your gay, straight, bi or whatever and you either go through a stage or perhaps just decide on the one which suits you. Just because you have experiences doesn't mean you are nessesarly gay or bi.

    If you want to go and do that sort of thing then don't rush into it and don't let anyone force you into doing what you don't want to. Its sometimes a good idea to tell a friend your close to, they might act a bit weird at first but can be very supportive (just make sure they are not a shit-spreading arsehole)....

    Experiences can help individuals to be more understanding and open-minded about other people and walks of life.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    do u think having same sex experiences when ur 10 or 11 is too young to tell ur sexuality. i've never questioned it, just me n mate started fooling around when he was sleeping over, and it was something i immediately forgot about, but it happened a few more times when he slept over.

    i guess i just sorta accepted it and didn't think about guys or girls all that much until i moved here, at which point i grew up so to speak and girls became a minor obsession

    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't say so, thing you've got to remember is when people are that age these experiences don't exactly fall into the catagory of 'sexual intention', they are usually linked to 'curisocity', kids like to explore and learn and thats what most things like that mean....

    Some people link these pre-teen experiences in adolesence to possible gay behaviour when they are unsure about themselfs, things you did back then probably have nothing to do with what your doing now, your brain is probably trying to explain your own thoughts and using these old examples as a explaination.

    I do believe that that age 10/11 is too young to make a decision about what sexuality you are, it was probably down to curiosity, give it a few years, if you still feel strongly when your older then fair enough... hope that helps <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    do u think having same sex experiences when ur 10 or 11 is too young to tell ur sexuality?

    I'm sure it was too young, Turtle. I'm not obsessed with guys by any means but I have a real interest in an experience with one - so if you don't feel the same then it was likely to be just a "curiosity" thing, as Justin says.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's perfectly fine to experiment, a lot of people in this day and age are very small-minded and think it's "gay" if for example, two confused, drunk blokes kissed and would call them disgusting freaks, poofs etc. When in actual fact, how does this stop you from being 100% hetereosexual!?
    Part of growing up and adolescence is experimenting and finding your true sexuality etc. All those hormones are working overtime let's not forget!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My best mate has told me she had a threesome with another mate and her boyfriend. At first i thought it was funny, and i suppose if it was amongst friends and a fantasy they all shared and no one got hurt its ok.

    But one night, just for a laff i know, she kissed another girl we worked with. THis other girl is married and her husband was right behind her. THis was in a pub on a saturday nite and it ws so busy, and so embarassing.

    Her mum has a video of Angel (in buffy the vampire slayer)coz her mum likes angel. My mate openly admitted she liked buffy!!

    I don't have a problem with gays/lesbians, but i now see her in a different light, we go swimming a lot and i feel like she's looking at me. SHe has a boyf, but if she is bi i'd rather she was just open about it than just have these occasional outbursts in public, so i can deal with it better!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by mandi7810:
    I don't have a problem with gays/lesbians, but i now see her in a different light, we go swimming a lot and i feel like she's looking at me. SHe has a boyf, but if she is bi i'd rather she was just open about it than just have these occasional outbursts in public, so i can deal with it better!!

    I would agree that this would be quite unsettling - perhaps she is hoping someone will bring the issue up almost as a symbol of approval? She's probably quite confused herself ... and her little "outburst" are her way of sorta telling you without being direct.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know a couple of women who just pretend to be lesbians in public in order to get male attention. I think it's a bit sad, actually. I mean, how hard is it to get male attention anyway.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Karla:
    I know a couple of women who just pretend to be lesbians in public in order to get male attention. I think it's a bit sad, actually. I mean, how hard is it to get male attention anyway.
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    Oi! Cheeky.

    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i have kissed a girl but it was a dare, if u watch As if....it was like that!im deffo not lesbian it was 2 get sum guys goin we both have b/f's! i atually thought sum1 had solded our story 2 the writers of as if! - it was a funny experience

    a stroke of luck or a gift from god?the hand of fate or devils claws?from below or saints above?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oi Karla i hope u arnt intendin im "sad"!!
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