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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 3months now and its going really good. To begin with all we did was text each other tho now i sometimes wanna spk to him so i call. However he is just sooo moody on the fone-he doesnt say much and i feel like im wasting his time or sumthing! when we r face 2 face its fine. If he doesnt enjoy chattin on the fone then shud i jst leave calling him coz wen we end a convo i jst feel depressed n think he doesnt like me nemor <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Do u think i shud give up on calling him?!r all guys like this?i have loadsa guy mates who i can chat 2 4hours!Plz help me! xxx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, most guys usually don't go for mindless chatter.
    Talking about endless shit is one of the most boring things in the world. Yes, we like to hear about what sort of day you've had, but mindless gossip about other people sickens us.
    If you get on fine in person and thru text there isn't much point in ringing anyway.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some people are shy on the phone. I know a couple of them. Don't feel depressed. he isn't moody, just donesn't know what to say.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A bloke told me once, all you actually need to say on the phone is.... "pub 10 mins" wheras girls will go "He said, this etc.... then repeat it all at the pub 2 hours later"

    I don't think it's you it's just the nature of blokes.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Trust me, it ain't you & it ain't him doin it intentionally, it's just blokes for ya, it's like tryin to get blood out of a stone, keep txtin him & don't stop ringin him cause if he ain't hangin up then he obviously doesn't mind you ringin him (although you may not want to waste ur time tryin to talk while he's entralled in computer games), anyway, good luck and KEEP RINGIN HIM, it's just lads for ya!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it saves your phone bill <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, blokes and phones are not always the best combination. Perhaps tellingly, the only male I know who can quite happily natter randomly for hours on the phone (to the detriment of my phone bill!) is my best mate, who happens to be gay....

    Maybe it's just something you'll have to accept, that decent phone calls with your b/f are going to be a nonstarter, and to him, the phone is simply an instrument through which he can arrange things. If you see him regularly enough it shouldn't be a huge issue.

    It's where the relationship is long distance that things get trickier and blokes have to learn to chat to make up for long absences! When my boyfriend graduated and moved back to London, phone conversations were stilted at first, and I used to worry a bit about it, wondering how the hell we were going to remain together when our main method of communication was so crap, but things improved and we now are able to have a decent 25 minute conversation every few days. With perserverance they can be trained <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys,uve really reassured me!
    <HUGS>
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