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How to make her leave me alone.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Alright, so I was going out with this girl (anna) at the start of the year. it lasted about a month, and it was complete crap. as i got to know her, i realised she was a manic depressive, and since i was (and am) still relatively fragile from my parents divorce 12 months ago, i decided that it was unfair on me to be pulled down into the doldrums again. so i ended it with her.

and periodically since i dumped her, i've recieved messages from various different numbers saying stuff like "this is someone you want to get to know more" and "how're you?" then continuing on until i start insisting she tell me who she is (i'm assuming its a she), at which point i always recieve a message saying stuff like "this was a mistake, who are you again? i have to go"

i'm figuring it's anna, always by the way the person backs out of it.

i'd rather not make contact with her at all, but i need to find a way to tell her to fuck off, but tell it to her nicely and preferably not face to face.

And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    Alright, so I was going out with this girl (anna) at the start of the year. it lasted about a month, and it was complete crap. as i got to know her, i realised she was a manic depressive, and since i was (and am) still relatively fragile from my parents divorce 12 months ago, i decided that it was unfair on me to be pulled down into the doldrums again. so i ended it with her.

    and periodically since i dumped her, i've recieved messages from various different numbers saying stuff like "this is someone you want to get to know more" and "how're you?" then continuing on until i start insisting she tell me who she is (i'm assuming its a she), at which point i always recieve a message saying stuff like "this was a mistake, who are you again? i have to go"

    i'm figuring it's anna, always by the way the person backs out of it.

    i'd rather not make contact with her at all, but i need to find a way to tell her to fuck off, but tell it to her nicely and preferably not face to face.


    Are these text messages on your mobile Turtle, cos if they are, if I were you, I'd change my sim card.

    Sounds like it could well be Anna

    j9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    changing sim card is ok, cept a) i just got a new one and b) i'm on a 12 month contract.

    so not really possible

    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, but I always think its unfair to change ure sim card just for one annoying person, its not sumthin u really wanna do.


    I would just message her tellin her that u know its her, and that you want her to get to f*ck, you dont want to b with her, and its seriously pissing you off.

    I say this becoz usually I'm the one who cant let go, and when the girl tells me straight out to get to f*ck, then I know its time to leave her alone.

    One things for sure, she still likes you and she doesnt wanna let go.

    My advice is just to be firm with her, hopefully she'll get the hint...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dude. that's terrible.

    one option is to just not respond. it's a passive solution and it definitely isn't as direct as telling her specifically to stop, but people like this feed off of drawing a reaction from you.

    if you just let him or her be, more times than not, they will grow tired of the game and stop bothering you.

    not the most effective way, but one that less painful than direct confrontation.

    downside is they start to text u constantly and become more abusive. then u may have no choice but to change sim cards or confront her. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    good luck.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u shud get a female friend to ring her up and ask who it is, and then to simply say "fuck off and leave me and my bf alone".
    That'll stop her, it worked for me.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When my ex was a complete bastard, i told him that he was a complete wanker and i hoped he died. Believe me, thats the only time i have said something like that and don't intend on repeating it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    But he's left me alone ever since.

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    When my ex was a complete bastard, i told him that he was a complete wanker and i hoped he died. Believe me, thats the only time i have said something like that and don't intend on repeating it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    But he's left me alone ever since.

    good plan, just change the insults a bit (since she wasn't a wanker, just someone I couldn't cope with)



    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
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