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Forward girl

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Just thought I'd post about something unexpected that happened last night. A friend of a friend saw me in the club and asked for my phone number, then asked me out by text when I got home. I don't even know the girl - how forward is that?! So we're going for a drink tomorrow night. Only thing is, I've heard she's just come out of a relationship so this may well be rebound. Just gotta take it easy and play safe I reckon. Still, it's weird and pretty cool!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why do you say "forward" like it's a bad thing? And if it IS a bad thing, how could she have asked you out without being forward?

    I know a lot of guys who complain that they are still expected to make the first move, and most of my female friends are quite shy, but when they do work up the courage to approach a guy they like they are criticised.

    So lads, how do we find a compromise here?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think that she is actually all that "forward". She asked you out by text which could show that she has possible insecurities about asking someone out face-to-face. Have you actually seen/spoken to her before?
    Bearing in mind that she's just come out of a relationship you're right about it being a possible "rebound" feeling.
    Getting to know her in a platonic way first might be a good idea.

    (Edited because of my dappy typing <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)

    [ 11-05-2002: Message edited by: crazysexycool ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know it sounds paranoid, but I spose I'm just not used to female attention. I am really flattered and pleased though, and looking forward to meeting up. Hope everything goes well.

    Kathryn, forward girls are cool - it takes the pressure off us blokes - who said we should make the first move? Equality in all its forms, I say.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Btw, she re-arranged the date cos she was unwell, so it's tuesday not yesterday. Just to clear up any confusion.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by kathryn:
    <STRONG>This is exactly why I am not a forward girl!

    Look at how you immediately think she is weird or pushy by making the first move! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    Um, I don't think it's the fact that she asked him, I think it's the fact that he "doesn't even know her".

    As for the general issue of women being forward, I don't know. I think once ina blue moon, it's okay, but generally, I think that the lady should be asked. Um... That's all for now, folks.
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