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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mum and dad still happily married after 18 years. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    And congratulations MoK! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mine are still together (and very much so!) and have been for 20 years.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by SconeBeast:
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    Quick question: do you reckon individuals brought up in a stable family environment (in parental marital terms) are more likely to enjoy stable long-term relationships themselves? I'm only looking for opinion, not rigorous psychological debate...</STRONG>

    I think it probably helps, after watching my parents go through what they did, it left a very bitter taste in my mouth and i'm very sceptical about relationships, especially after my first long term one got quite messy. However, i know of people who had great stable homes and still have troubled relationships <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Its a similar question to the domestic violence thing, i witnessed it, yet am most certainly not the type who'd knock a woman about.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    mum was married to my real dad for about 4 years. he's a wanker!!

    when i was four she met my 'dad' and they've been together ever since which is 13 years this year and they have been married for 8 this year and are still very happy! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by J:
    <STRONG>I couldn't even begin to describe my family!
    I had to draw a family tree when I was at school, but it ended up a forrest full of trees and bushes! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    i actually got out of doing mine because it's so confussing. i just gave you all the simple version earlier
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    mum + dad = divorced
    Mum = boyfriend
    Dad = girlfriend
    sis = off to uni in september
    me = about to be all alone!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by J:
    <STRONG>I couldn't even begin to describe my family!
    I had to draw a family tree when I was at school, but it ended up a forrest full of trees and bushes! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    Try this on for size...
    A (female) cousin from my dads side of the family married my uncle from my mums side of the family. Which made her both my cousin and my aunt.

    Then they had children. Which makes the little boys my cousins (going by my mums side) and my second cousins once removed (going by my dad.)

    <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well my mum an dad have been together since they were teenagers .... they're both near sixty now, think they've been married 37/38 years. (I was the unexpected late arrival!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my mum and dad had a very messy break up about this time last year,

    my mum has a new partner and my dad has sort of started seeing this women recently (after trying to get over my mum) it was the worst time of my life.

    thank god things are getting better!! xxx <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Parents divorced when I was 12 ... complete shock as I'd never heard them argue in my entire life until that night. They got back together, tried to strangle (literally) each other one New Year and so split up again. My Dad is now re-married and very happily so. My mum on the other hand is completely fucked up, unable to hold down a stable relationship and tries to blame this all on my dad (despite the fact that she was the one that walked out)!!! Pure madness but hey, I'm normal.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by go_away:
    <STRONG>8 years down the line my mum married a guy who thought it was fun to threaten to stab me with his diabetes needles, and sniff through my underwear draw *I was nine by the way* and rape my mother and use her as a punch bag. He was out of the house after 4 months.
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    I hate those sort of wankers threatening innocent children, they never realise the scare they do to them <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Originally posted by SconeBeast:
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    Quick question: do you reckon individuals brought up in a stable family environment (in parental marital terms) are more likely to enjoy stable long-term relationships themselves? I'm only looking for opinion, not rigorous psychological debate...</STRONG>

    I've seen lots of people have a broken family but still know how to luv and care others and build a great relationship. Dont forget people can still learn to luv and care from relatives, friends, those around them...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    moving to relationships
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mum and dad broke up when I was 9 years old and my little sister was 5.

    My gran died and my mum took it badly and had a nervous breakdown..then they started sleeping in other rooms..went on for a while then she went away..I kept in touch and saw her every other weekend, my sister still does, I pop up now again but talk to her on the phone a few nights a week.

    After they broke up, my mum decided she was gay, she lived with this total bitch but the woman she's with now is tidy and respects my relationship with my mam, bloody lesbians! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Phil.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mum and Dad still together been married for 23years in October. Reading this post has made me think I'm lucky for still having both parents.

    [ 09-05-2002: Message edited by: morelifeinatrampsvest ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mum and Dad still together been married for 23years in October. Reading this post has made me think I'm lucky for still having both parents.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mum and dad married when she was really young and pregnant with my sister. They were together for about 22 years but for a lot of it, it was pretty obvious they should split up. When I was at university it finally happened quite amicably and we all felt relieved. Then my mum fell in love with an old family friend they had both known since before my sister was born and all hell broke loose.

    what had been a good separation turned into a nightmare for my mum as my dad cited her 'adultery' in the divorce and tried to get the house off her. My dad couldn't handle the fact my mum and this man were together, he got totally stressed and not long ago died. I think he was really bitter.

    My mum and her boyfriend are happy and I have no problem with it because he is such an old friend.

    I wish my dad had seen things in a better way because we could all stil be friends if he had lived.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Parents happily married since 1978. I feel like a right lucky bastard sometimes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Sweet Dreams:
    <STRONG>Well my mum an dad have been together since they were teenagers .... they're both near sixty now, think they've been married 37/38 years. (I was the unexpected late arrival!)</STRONG>

    Btw, Sweet Dreams, what part of NI are you from??
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im from a wee small town in derry <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> boring place with nothin to do!
    I went on a school trip to romania with people from ballyclare high school in january. mayb u wud know some of them.
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