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The Roving Eye

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

It's like this; There's a new job opening in our department and there have been quite a few interviews conducted today. One particular interviewee was most attractive and as she walked out the office afterwards I could see just about every male eye on this floor scanning over her. First of all I thought it must be hard for her coming into a place like this and getting stared at by all the guys, then I thought how sad all these office guys were 'cos for some of 'em it seemed to be the high point of their day with much joking, winking and nudging going on. Then I realised that I too had checked her out as she had walked in which is the only reason I noticed everyone else doing the same on her way out, so I was just as bad as everyone else.

The question is, does any of this mean anything?? It's a scene that must be played out a thousand times a day round the country in offices everywhere. My Lady would've slapped me back into place if she had been here, but would she have been right to do so?? Isn't that getting into the realms of thought-crimes?? How bad a crime is it to let your eyes go wondering??
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    kool!!! and which course wud that be?

    i'm transfering LOL

    "I see no vestage of a beginning, no sign of an end"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Looking means nothing at all. I know my bloke does it and as far as I'm concerned it's human nature. Everybody does it. The only exception is when u r first in a relationship and haven't got eyes for anyone else. The only way it turns into a crime is if you let the girl/boy know you think they're attractive. That undermines your boyf/girlf

    Some days I'm easy, my thoughts are for free.
    Some days I'm mean, don't mess with me.
    Today I'm just thoughtful, nothing sneaky,
    just plain and simple, not even cheeky....

    lovedup x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    I wasn't expecting such a lenient attitude on this thread. Are you all OK to let your other half's eyes wonder?? Do you not worry what they think?? Are you guilty of doing the same??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just because you own one painting doesn't stop the rest being art.

    You can't stop yourself looking, it's the intension that is the issue. If it's a means to an end then it's bad, but I fantasize plenty and have no intention of ever acting on any of them, so where's the harm. As long as you don't make your other half watch you eyeing up the ladies and make her feel shit and inadequate.

    Miss you guys by the way. New job is tough and I've just got 5 mins left of my lunchbreak to post this. Miss the craic Lord of Little...hope you're fine and dandy!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    right. Just cause youve ordered your food doesnt mean you cant look at the menu
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hi Kaz!!

    Long time no see!! How's the new job going?? You sound busy!!

    "just because you own one painting doesn't stop the rest being art"

    I like it!! No, there wasn't any intention, but you're right, I should always think of my Lady first. But would you feel comfortable about your other half eyeing up others while you weren't there??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I got dumped on Thursday so I couldn't give a rats ass.

    Sorry, raw wounds. 3 years and it just died. I don't get it, I'm a brilliant girlfriend! I mean, I'm extremely high maintenance, but I'd like to think I'm worth it! I just always end up taken for granted. Still, what are ya gonna do? I don't lie down and die, too stubborn! So I'll survive. My eye is now free to roam where-ever it wants, ha ha. But I think it's about time for a little "all about me" time for a while.

    I'm loving the new job, although I have no clue about being a marketing executive! I am too busy to stress over things I have no control over. Are you still stuck in desk-hell, honey? What's up in the world of LoL?

    Thanx, it's nice to know you're missed!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im sorry to hear about you splitting up kaz. hope you bounce back.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lord of, if u're man, straight and not blind is absolutely natural.

    And beside, even God love what is beautiful.

    work seriously damages health
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    awww! Thank you, DK! How nice. *hugs*

    Although I'm not after the sympathy vote or anything, not too sure whether airing all my dirty laundry in public is such a good idea! But it's done now. I promise no big "hear my tale of woe & unrequited love" posts! Onward and upward!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well good to hear it, and hey I hope you do. My motto is make people happy even if it involves taking a step back and letting someone else make them happy, even if it kills you (me)

    I am the darkest force to walk this planet. I feed of your pain suffering and fear... I enjoy strolls along the beach.... then I kill you and feast on your bloodied corpse..... I love the bright city at night.... Because nobody can find you in a dark alley ha ha ha!.... Fun sense of humour and a thirst for fun... make that blood.
    do I know anything about chicks? foul.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Sorry Kaz, didn't mean to grate across raw nerves. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    Sounds like a shitty situation to be in, and I'm sure you are worth every penny of the maintenance costs!! But now you're young, free and single get out there and enjoy yourself babe, 'tis time to make the guys drool again. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    Marketing Exec eh?? Sounds like a hi-powered, dynamic, go-ahead, pro-active, power dressing and forward thinking kinda job. I'm still in small-office hell, but blagging it nonetheless.

    On-site I've been making money for charity (see the Entertainment forum, By The Power Of.... thread, but I'm not an anorak, honest!!), off-site I've been through ultra-high stress with my Lady recently for various reasons, but things seem to be calming down.

    Write back soon!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ta. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing, just about every1 I meet this week starts off with "so where's _____?"

    I hope things with u & the Lady work out. The fact that refer to her as the "Lady" bodes well. She must be very lucky. Still if it doesn't work out there are plenty of cheap flights to Belfast <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    ONLY KIDDING, b4 I get slapped from on high for trying to pick someone up on site!

    But I'm a little rusty and need someway to brush up on the old seduction skills. Going to get out of my power-suit and into something new and slinky this weekend...see if this old dog can still create a few roving eyes of her own! Hurrah for retail therapy.

    PS: reading "The Truth" Pratchett novel, provides good lighthearted escape from present troubles. Still working on getting that library card!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you need some eyes to rove over you whenever, then I can mangage that definately

    ;-)

    I am the darkest force to walk this planet. I feed of your pain suffering and fear... I enjoy strolls along the beach.... then I kill you and feast on your bloodied corpse..... I love the bright city at night.... Because nobody can find you in a dark alley ha ha ha!.... Fun sense of humour and a thirst for fun... make that blood.
    do I know anything about chicks? foul.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my, my, aren't we the horney devil 2day? I read the posts between you and Tweety! What's up, Dark Knight?

    You're always welcome to look, but I don't suppose you'll get the chance as I hear there aren't many good clubs in the village of the damned to attract me there... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what can i say? I have moved from the village of the damned, and I was coming up to Ireland soon anyway. Im always horny, but thats not all i am, Im funny too sometimes

    I am the darkest force to walk this planet. I feed of your pain suffering and fear... I enjoy strolls along the beach.... then I kill you and feast on your bloodied corpse..... I love the bright city at night.... Because nobody can find you in a dark alley ha ha ha!.... Fun sense of humour and a thirst for fun... make that blood.
    do I know anything about chicks? foul.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Looks like you already scored a winner Kaz!!

    My Lady is always a Lady, even when she's displaying all the skills and experience of a common street prostitute. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    The Truth is a good book, but then I'm always bias towards anything with Vimes in it. I just finished Use of Weapons by I.M. Banks and have once again been blown away by his storytelling skills. If it had been a film, it would've starred Bruce Willis straight outta Fifth Element and 12 Monkeys!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    complete with the inability to die or shoot inaccuately? and the entire arsenal of the russian mafia at his disposal?

    I am the darkest force to walk this planet. I feed of your pain suffering and fear... I enjoy strolls along the beach.... then I kill you and feast on your bloodied corpse..... I love the bright city at night.... Because nobody can find you in a dark alley ha ha ha!.... Fun sense of humour and a thirst for fun... make that blood.
    do I know anything about chicks? foul.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hmmmm....not quite that Hollywood, but it gives that same impression. The lead character is a soldier trained in the, as the title suggests, use of weapons. This seemingly innocent phrase is twisted and warped through the book until.........

    But you should read it yourself, another one to put on the LoL recommended list.

    p.s. check the new sig!!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/new/catinthehat.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nice dude. nice indeed.

    I am the darkest force to walk this planet. I feed of your pain suffering and fear... I enjoy strolls along the beach.... then I kill you and feast on your bloodied corpse..... I love the bright city at night.... Because nobody can find you in a dark alley ha ha ha!.... Fun sense of humour and a thirst for fun... make that blood.
    do I know anything about chicks? foul.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You should have some kind of critics column, LoL!

    DK, why are u comming to Ireland? or were u just messin. Thanx 4 the ego boost (I need those right now) but I could be Grotbags twin sister for all you know!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The roving eye then... sorry to interupt! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; My Psychology course contains 400 students, about 50 being male. Thats a 7:1 ratio! You've got to love those odds! My wandering eye can't wait until skimpy top season; Summer! Oh Lordie!

    *dribbles on mouse-mat*

    I think looking is fine as long as thats it. The only problem is when you get busted by the lady who owns that amazingly pert chest you've just been perving on for that last ten minutes. I find it's best to smile, nod and turn away. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by kaz:
    You should have some kind of critics column, LoL!

    DK, why are u comming to Ireland? or were u just messin. Thanx 4 the ego boost (I need those right now) but I could be Grotbags twin sister for all you know!

    Gotta love those grotbags!
    No I need a holiday and I was thinking why not Ireland, seriously. and n e time you need an ego boost just ask. Would u recommend ireland? plus thats 2 eyes roving over you!



    I am the darkest force to walk this planet. I feed of your pain suffering and fear... I enjoy strolls along the beach.... then I kill you and feast on your bloodied corpse..... I love the bright city at night.... Because nobody can find you in a dark alley ha ha ha!.... Fun sense of humour and a thirst for fun... make that blood.
    do I know anything about chicks? foul.... no, now women... no.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, James T. Missed u too, cheeky. What's up with u? Inbetween all that perving, I mean! Captain Kirk, meet Dark Knight...you too should have lots to talk about! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    I love to look. A cute ass really brightens up my day, I'm hardly going to get all militant-feminist about men staring at chests when I partake of the odd glance myself. Besides, the female form is the sexiest thing around, shoot the odd glance in that direction myself. It's art, right?

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hee hee. Ireland rocks. I'm a city girl myself, so I'd recommend Belfast and Dublin. They are soooo different. Dublin girls are mad, Belfast ppl are great craic. Best pubs in the world. Loads of beautiful other stuff, Giant's Causeway should be pretty cool when it's all stormy. Kilarney is also amazingly beautiful. Where were you planning to stay? Know ppl here?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    um no not yet, can i stay with you?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That's a bit forward <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    How do I know you're not the Blair Witch? *glances nervously at DK signature* I've never met any1 over the net B4, sounds a bit dumb-blonde-in-a-horror-movie type behaviour.

    I don't mind showing you around, no probs. You need to know someone in order to go out n stuff. When were you thinking of comming?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Unfortunatly my reading list is too bias for a proper critics column.

    DK, I can recommend Dublin for St Patrick's day, I went a couple of years ago and had one of the funniest w/ends I've ever had and can still coherently remember, oh the stories I could tell.......

    Cap'n Kirk, that's a helluva ratio, you jammy sod!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well whatever you need to know that will quell your fears about me then either ask me on her or mail me, I would be quite hppy to tell you
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