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16+21=Trouble?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have known this girl who is 16 for a good 5 years and always considered her like a sister and we have always shared our problems with each other. I have always thought she would make a good girl friend if only a few years older as I am 21.

Last week however after a few beers she admitted that she fancies me. Thinking about it the signals have been there in the past. She has not mentioned it again since and may have forgotten it due to the beer.

Problem is I think I feel the same way but is the age gap too big? I dont know if I could manage a long term relationship with such an age gap due to pier pressures but cant help thinking it may be worth a go, we have so much in common. I would love just one night of passion to see what things could have been like between us but would never do anything to hurt a girl who I would die to protect. Do I hope she has forgotten what she has said or do I bring the subject up again? I would hate to loose her friendship
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She's probably not bringing it up because she's scared of how you feel.

    If you like her then just give it a go..Not really sure about the age gap, it's a tricky one and can depend on the individual..

    Mind you, if my younger sis was 16 and seeing a 21 year old, I'd break ya legs, but that's just me being a brother lol.

    Just talk to her and see if that's really how she feels and what she wants from you etc.

    Cos if it's just sex there's no point, it'll ruin your friendship, I wouldn't really consider it unless you think it'll work..and if it doesn't..can you end it and stay friends? Honestly?

    Think about it
    Phil.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't really know what to answer on the age-gap thing. But one thing is for sure, she hasn't forgotten.

    Talk to her.... Thats the first thing you got to do, in order to know what the next step will be.

    Good luck!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont think the age gap would be a problem considering youve known each other so long and have so much in common anyway. it hink it sounds like this could be a brilliant relationship.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ur mad! 16 and 21? what age gap?! Thats what, 5years?! She's old enough and mature enough to know what she wants, and considering that you are so close im guesing she VERY genuine about her feelings. I have a a few frinds of 15 and 16 who have olda BF of the 19 - mid 20's age. And they are all very happy & cormftable with the realtionship. You say your close, then i can assure you that the age is no problem, i dont think you should worry about it. Its not like youve just met - come on surley you can talk to her about this - no doubt she is desperate for you to say something, she probably doesnt want 2 mention it incase she embaresses herself if you dont return the feelings. PLease tell her how you feel. She deserves to know. I doubt you will loose the friendship after so long & if your honest with her and talk to her then it can only enhance the trust and bond you have within the relationship. I really dont believe the age matters here, i know of a LOT bigger age gaps! She's young yes , but she's not dumb and you know that! So show her how you feel! Best of luck! Let me know how it goes, xxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm 17 and was recently involved with 24 yr old, didn't wokr out coz of long term relationship he'd had before gettin in way, as he's older he's got more life experience, but my m8t whos also 17, has a 27 yr old b'friend, and they seem to b gettin on fine!
    i say go 4 it! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cheers guys. looks like I have no excuses not to bring the subject up again and go for it. I think it is best to leave things for 3 or 4 weeks unless she brings the subject up though as she has exams, and now is not the time to add another variable into her life.

    Once her exams are over I will let you all know what happens, cheers for the advice. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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