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never letting any1 in?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
this is something ive come to realis about myself.. i never let any1 get close to me... every girl ive met in my life ive got close n then gone cold.. or not appreciated it.. ive missed so many opportunities and have a hundred 'whats mite it have been like?' thoughts running thru my head all the time.. i know ppl say move on and dont think bout the past but it keeps happening... why?!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Probably because you're scared of getting hurt, and letting people in is giving them an easier chance to do that.

    Just try and let go and trust someone, it'll really help...are you like this with friends or just relationships with the opposite sex?

    Get back to me..oh, and why are you like this? There must be a reason..

    Phil.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its only with relationships with members of the opposite sex... ive got a close set of mates who i do trust and appreciate.. its jus when it comes to girls i jus sorta drift around.. the opportunities are laid out on a table most times and i jus dont take them.. ive never been properly hurt b4 in terms of a relationship cos i never allow it to get such a serious stage; so its not like im scared, i dont think.. i dono
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not sure what to say mate.

    If you're desperate for a relationship then don't bother, trust me.

    If you do fancy having someone to go out with then go for it...You have to take risks in life or you'll never get anywhere.

    Phil.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im a bit like that at the moment, its because i got hurt nearly 10 months ago, but even now im scared of letting anyone near me cos i dont want to get hurt again. there was this lad i really liked and we got together, but as soon as we kissed i just felt really awful and guilty about it. im just gonna take it a bit at a time and get to know lads before i take things further. you should try doing that. know them as a freind first. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm just trying to understand what is making you move away when things get "serious". I know that for me relationships are difficult because of my parent's relationship. My dad could be quite verbally abusive, and my mother had a hard time trusting people, especially men. This has somehow ingrained itself into my brain, and I have to keep telling myself that I am not my parents, nor will I make their mistakes.

    Did your parents have a healthy relationship, or are they divorced/separated/etc?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh my parents are still married and have a really gd relationship; so its nothing regarding them... im missin out on soo much; and this last 'relationship' i had was with, in my opinion, the perfect girl; and i wuldnt let her get closer.. i spose its like cheeseontoast said, 'jus let go and trust some1' but its easier said than done.. if i ever find love ill b sure to let every1 know <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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