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can't find the right person!?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey people,
ok here's my problem. I'm 16 and currently in my last year of school. I'm on the look out for a girlfriend, like most guys, but i just can't find the right person. It's not because i'm fussy or anything, it's because i find i don't get along with girls my age. This is not just with girls either, i find that when i hang out with my guy mates, they all seem immature with some of the stuff they do. You see, i have really mature attitude and i look like 18 or something too, which is a bonus. I think the older attitude comes from the situations i've had to deal with over the last year and a bit. My mum and dad split up and i'm now living with my dad which is cool and everything, but it's not like living with your mum and dad. I've also had to do the meeting of my step-dad and deal with my mum and him getting married. Don't get me wrong, my step-dad is a great guy and i hold nothing against him or anything like that. Yeah i know, there's loads of people who have been through the same and i'm not the only person on planet earth dealing with it, but it sure feels like it. I just feel dealing with it all at 15/16 years of age changes you a lot. I've always found that i will meet a girl my age and get into a relationship with them, but then they back out. It's not because i asked for anything that they didn't want to do, they just couldn't handle a serious relationship, or atleast more than just their school boyfriend?!
I've only ever been out with someone older than me once. It was great. She was 17 and i was 15. She said to me that she always used to forget that i was younger than her. We had to split due to slight problem in her family. Shame really, but we stay in contact and we're close friends <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

I've also been in a really long distance relationship before aswell. The whole atlantic ocean and a couple of states was what was between me and her. Sounds crazier than it actually was. We were together for 9 months! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

What i find most difficult is that i feel that if someone knows i'm 16 before they actually know i have an attitude and looks of an older person, they will treat me different or just don't want to get involved. I'm also i little shy about myself, my apperance. I'm not saying i'm ugly or anything, i just don't like my body. But then i guess, who does? I know there's probably loads of people who wish they could change something about their apperance. I think what bugs me most is that if i was with an older girl, she would want sex and stuff. Ya know, understandable. being older it's one of the things ya do, then again i could be saying this coz i'm a guy and i hope it's the thing to do. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
But i just basically need someone who can except me for who i am and not put me down as being your normal 16 year-old. I think i also need a little more confidence to, but
I've just been hurt too many times though before, and that doesn't help.

I would be great to hear from anyone out there. Most appreciated.



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