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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Well ive vistised here often for ages now, but never actually made a post... but then again ive never really had a reason to but anyway...

Well i'll just call her my girlfriend because its to complicated to actually explain our relationship... but anyway, we've been doing "stuff"... i.e fingering, blowjobs ect ect for a while now, but one thing i noticed is the way when i attempt to look down there or take off her pantys she goes all funny and coy about it... its not as if we havent talked about it because we talk about everything becuase its more a friendship thing then relationship (if things really have to be defined)...

Shes says she just doenst like feeling like shes on display, which is fair enough... she doesnt want me to lick her out because of this, which i have no problem with as the idea doesnt appeal in the slightest.

I was just wondering is this normal, or is it a unique insercurity of hers... <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    actually i kinda feel awkward taking off my pants/panties in front of my boyfriend, for me i'm just kinda weird about having my boyfriend seeing me with my fatty legs and that jiggle zone at the lower stomach, plus i get a little funny in having a person look at my vagina.

    maybe it's just a girl thing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Definitely a girlie thing. My boyfriend is only too pleased to display everything he has in broad daylight, and really enjoys watching me give him a bj, but I have to have the lights off and the room pitch black (whatever time of day) before he can go anywhere near me.

    He is very good at feeling his way around though and I'm sure he has a mental image of what he is feeling, but I'd rather not shatter his illusions. I think I would be a lot less inhibited if I had a half-decent body/figure, but things are heading south of their own accord now <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Not that he is a toned Adonis though <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">


    Lexy

    [ 18-05-2002: Message edited by: sexylexy ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What is your relationship exactly with this girl Malachi? From reading your post it sounds as if you are more close friends than anything else. If that's the case perhaps it might explain her shyness at letting you see her lower regions.

    I have been in much the same situation as you (quite recently as it goes) with a close friend, and looking back the intimate moments we shared were more a bit of fun than anything else. Remember that it's down to each of us as individuals to do whatever we feel comfortable with, so your girl may not want you seeing or doing anything beyond that limit.

    The main thing is that you have talked to her about it, so you know her feelings and can have fun without anyone getting hurt.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmm our relationship is extreamly hard to explain... but the reason we arent going out is because at our age relationships come and go... where as friendships are far more prolonged, and thats what we want to be close for a very long time...

    Its kinda an exclusive friendship meaning that we dont do stuff with other people... we've talked a lot about what it means when we do stuff.. and in response to what you said about it being a "little bit of fun", we've talked about this a lot and come to the conclusion that as soon as it stops meaning something we will stop doing it... i dont really want to just have fun.. it has to be something more.

    I was just really interested in whether or not most girls feel the same when it comes to looking at it =)...

    I was wondering and i didnt make a post on here about it becauses its more about relationships but still... does anyone else have a friend that they feel so close to in a way they have never experinced before ... who they talk about everything with... and regularly do stuff with each other and have it mean something... or is this just a unique kinda friendship we (me and her) have... ?

    Btw thx to everyone who replyed at least i know that its not just her that dislikes it when a guy looks at it...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like you've got a great friendship there, the kind where you'll always be there for one another.

    I guess that some girls see it as a very private thing, whereas others are more open about themselves. Perhaps pride has something to do with it also?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey malachi,

    well im a girl and i worry about when im with a boy him seeing my lower regions because it makes me feel self concious and its a very private area but maybe as time goes on she will feel more comfortable with the idea,

    but untill then respect her feelings <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> it sounds like a really good idea a sort of friendship, relationship thingy!!
    good luck xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks nightrocker and **Sugar**.... and everyone else...

    Well i was speaking to her last night and the subject came up... and she says that she is beginning to feel more comfortable with the idea of me looking down there... and says she wouldnt mind me licking her out... so we shall see =)...

    Anyway im going round to her house tomorrow to "revise".... so wish me luck hehe =)

    Thank you all !
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    good luck <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> xxxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    g'luck <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i used to feel the same when i was first with my bf but now it's ok and it doesn't bother me, it'll get better and if she's young it may take her a while to get used to it
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i used to feel the same when i was first with my bf but now it's ok and it doesn't bother me, it'll get better and if she's young it may take her a while to get used to it
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i sorta understand ur relationship i think coz me and this boy have been friends for 4 yrs and ive always had a bit of a soft spot for him and recently we were at a party and basically he ended up groping me. ever since we've bin talkin dirty 2 each other all the time and he says he wants 2 finger me. do u guys think i should let him? by the way malachi how did ur 'revision session' go? did she get sum?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i got back from "revision" about 2 hours ago, although we didnt actually do any revision...

    But anyway to the point, well we did stuff all day, as usual revisions days go... But yeah well in a sudden burst of horny-ness, i found myself licking her out, so its fair to say that this problem has been completely over come, but im still grateful for people views and opinions <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">... and it wasn't to bad actually, and i want to make her happy because she is so damn fantastic.


    Hey i_luv_thesite, what age are you ?...

    Personally if i was in that position i would base it on whether i feel comfortable with the person, and if i could trust them.

    Are you very close friends ?, because ive found recently that sharing that sort of intimacy with a friend can be amazing, but as long as you can still talk about it, and it doesnt take over the friendship...

    Thanks again to everyone that replyed
    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 20-05-2002: Message edited by: Malachi ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think its neccasarily(?) just a girl thing. I some times get shy about being naked in front of my g/f. Thats different though to sex. Men are very visual.

    To make a sweeping generalisation, men are happy to be getting some, so aren't really focusing on the fact their girls legs are a little flabby or their stomach etc etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey malachi,
    im 15 btw. were u nervous bout licking her out? hope it went ok ;-) i am very close friends with this boy we know practically evrything about each other, he's in my class at school and i rly like him. he's normally always nice 2 me except its only out of school when he gets a bit horny if u know wot i mean. does this mean nethin that he acts differently when he's gt me on my own? ive been fingered b4 by my ex and he knows and he's cool about it. i mite be seein him in a couple of wkends do u think i should agree 2 do stuf? c ya!! xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey i_luv_thesite

    Well i want nervous at all, but things are so close between me and this person that we feel completely confident about stuff... Not trying to sound arrogant ect, but i am generally very confident when it comes to doing stuff.

    But anyway on to your thing....

    Straight to the point it really depends on what you want from doing stuff... whether you want the experince and confidence boast of doing things... or if you want something more and you want to become closer to him but still on a purely friendship level....

    One thing i would be weary of is whether he wants to do it because he wants the experince or because he wants to share that sort of closeness with you, because he feels comfortable ect with you.

    But from my past experince sharing this sort of thing in a friendship is far better then having a relationship, i personally prefere a friendship to a defined relationship, but different people are different (obviously hehe <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)... and i guess you should just be clear about what exactly you want from doing stuff <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    But if you feel nervous about doing stuff, its maybe a good idea to start it in a sercure friendship so you can experiment and explore.

    Anyway xx and post back <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey malachi
    things ain't goin so well 4 me 2day me and him had a sorta row. it wasn't rly 2 do wiv wot we were talkin bout doin just the friendship side of things. He told some ppl sum stuf about me that woz a secret between us 2 and now i dont know if i can trust him. he's also bin actin strange round me all week and keeps contradicting evrythin i say. do u think he's fed up of me or is it just that he needs some space? btw if u need any advice bout nethin feel free 2 ask
    xx post bk
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