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Slept with BEST m8ts b'friend

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Recently i got very drunk as per usual, with my m8t, her 27 yr old b'friend and his m8t down the pub, then we went back to his m8ts house, we'd been there a while, my m8t decided to crash in the spare room, whilst she was up there me and her b'friend started kissing, we were sayin things like we both knew this would end up happening. He asked me back to his, but he would leave first and i'd follow in about 10 minutes coz no1 else can find out. I followed which was wrong, but i was drunk!
Got back to his ended up sleeping together, it was really good coz of the danger! but then my m8t started ringing saying where r u , so every1 came round 2 his house including my m8t, and whilst she was fallin asleep with him on the sofa, we were holdin hands and stuff, then they went up stairs together and slept together.
He's been really moody with her recently (this only happened couple days ago). I really like him, but my friend iz obsessed with him, wot do i do, do i just leave him alone, for sake of my m8t?!?
The reason y i fink i done this is coz i was recently seein his cousin, then he treated me really bad and ended up sleepin with this otha girl behind my back, and i'm @ a real low at the min. I really want 2 get him back though.
sorry 4 essay, love 2 hear wot ya think

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Okay when i first read your post my first thought was that you are a bitch

    BUT!! after reading it again it was unfiar to Judge you so fast, i myself have done a few bad thing when drunk which i wouldn't have done sober

    I think you should leave this guy well alone and let things run their course with him and his gf

    Are you going to sleep with your friend bf again? it seem highly likely that he will want to sleep with you again

    Hope you DO the right thing and leave this bloke alone

    P.S there are other way at getting your own back on your EX then just sleeping with his cousin you know

    Also did you fancy your mates bf or was this all down to you wantting your own back on your EX??
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The last thing i want 2 do iz hurt my friend, we do everything together. Her bloke iz the g8test, but only wana b friends with him, coz it wud hurt my friend. I don't know wot he wants though.

    U r rite i probaly am just tryin 2 get back @ his cousin, it is the wrong way 2 go bout things.

    If he tells his cousin which i don't think he'll do, but i'm worried he'll tell my m8t. It iz v.small place where i live and gossip gets around so quick. I just really hope this doesn't get around!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    good friends, especially best friends are more important than boyfriends any day and you should pray to god she never finds out
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    right so you were sober enough to actually plan this in advance, he left the house and you followed 10 minutes later so she wouldnt find out. im sorry i dont buy that you were too drunk to know what you were doing. youre not much of a friend and hes a wanker for cheating. with friends like you who needs enemies. you KNEW what you were doing. having a bad realationship is no excuse either, if anything you should know what it feels like to be cheated on, why would you want your best friend to go through that. i feel sorry for her.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Her bf wont tell, i think you may have gotten away with it, just make sure nothing like this happens again and if the BF does come round looking for more sex, tell him where to go eh

    Its the safest thing you can do alround
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't really believe the "I'm Drunk" excuse, most people know what they're doing!

    I get really pissed off with that excuse, but i was surprised when my g/f couldn't remember shifting me in a pub one night because she was off her tits.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but i was surprised when my g/f couldn't remember shifting me in a pub one night because she was off her tits.

    Yeah snap i've done that in a car in a pub carpark and not remembered it, because i had been so drunk

    I know its wrong to use that line because i was drunk but sometime you really don't know what you’re doing and it’s easy to just things that you would never do.

    I would never do what I did if I had been sober, or maybe even a little less drunk but I felt sick the next day with myself when I found out what happened

    What makes mine worse was that I only have 1 flashback and the rest I can't remember: (

    So maybe we could try and go alittle easy on Racy??, Everyone will at some point or already have done things when drunk that they would never do when sober!

    Edited because i'm sticking my neck out for a girl i don't even know!!

    [ 07-05-2002: Message edited by: Harmless ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    re-read her message, they were kissing first saying they knew it was gonna happen, they planned out the best way of not getting caught by him leaving first and then her leaving a bit later, she then says it was really good because of the danger - if she was that drunk that she was out of control then she wouldnt be aware of the danger. she was even holding hands with the bloke while his girlfriend was with him on the sofa and falling asleep! Kacy you havent mentioned once that you feel bad for what youve done, youve just tried to excuse yourself by saying you were drunk. if you got so drunk that you didnt know what you were doing then you wouldnt have been able to plan this out like this, i doubt youd even remember it as clearly as you do. I hope this girl realises what you are like and that you obviously dont value the friendship. if i were her id drop you like a hot brick.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with everything rainbow said, you should be ashamed and I hope one day someone does the same thing to you, and if they're drunk, you can forgive them, right? Didn't think so.

    Phil.. <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok i dont know whoever started this and maybe im old fashioned but i think people who sleep with other people's boyfriends deliberately are scum because these situations never cause anything but pain for at least one person. Everybody makes mistakes but hurting your friends in this way is inexcusable. And the bloke deserves a kick in the balls as well

    il probably get a bollocking for being as blunt as that but i feel that all relationships should be respected - good friends are hard to come by.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok i dont know whoever started this and maybe im old fashioned but i think people who sleep with other people's boyfriends deliberately are scum because these situations never cause anything but pain for at least one person. Everybody makes mistakes but hurting your friends in this way is inexcusable. And the bloke deserves a kick in the balls as well

    il probably get a bollocking for being as blunt as that but i feel that all relationships should be respected - good friends are hard to come by.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If there is one thing i hate in a relationship is two timing, i cant stand people who commit it, though i'm biased against these people as i was two timed twice and i know first hand how hurt and let down i was at being treated without any dignity, if these so called "ladies" had of broke up with me first and then went of with these men then i wouldn't be so p*ssed at people who cheat but they didn't and expected me not to find out. sorry if i have babbled on but if you were truly drunk and are very sorry and feel real bad, i think you should just get on with your life and forget about this fella.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know i am gettin a lot of stick 4 for this, & i expected it, but my m8t iz way more important 2 me then, this bloke.

    I am just gona try my hardest 2 make sure she doesn't find out & get hurt, coz that iz the worst thing that cud happen. Seein wot every1 has sed bout this has made me think even more about not lettin anything like this ever happen again though.

    Thanx harmless for seein another side 2 it <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ah jeez..Sleeping with your best mates boyf is the lowest thing you could do, drunk or not! If your boyf said ah yes racy hun, i slept with your best mate but its ok cos we were drunk...wud u forgive him? i bet not <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> youve gotta make sure this NEVER happens again!! He's just as low for sleeping with ya! <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and cos u planned and was AWARE of the danger, you couldnt of been that drunk man!! thats my 20p's worth <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by CheeseOnToast:
    <STRONG>I agree with everything rainbow said, you should be ashamed and I hope one day someone does the same thing to you, and if they're drunk, you can forgive them, right? Didn't think so.

    Phil.. <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    damn right
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, thats pretty low, drunk or not. If you cant control yrself when you're drunk, its simple - DONT GET DRUNK. But it's done now, ,so its a bit late for a preach on morals. But seriously, i hope yr mate finds out and treats you like crap, so that you learn a small amount of the pain she feels. And lastly, ,if he cheated on his girlfriend with her best mate, hes a lousy sod anyway, and hell probably do it to you someday. Good luck girl.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think Phil hit the nail on the proverbial head, no excuse no valid reason... but were not here to judge and I hope you can learn from your stupid (yes it was stupid) mistake.

    Peace out

    Meth
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    all i can say is...

    if it were the other way round and it was yr mate sleeping with your bf & you find out how would you feel?

    have a think about... then you might be able to answer your own problem.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm speaking from personal experience when I say forget about this guy, I know it's hard but it's for the best. If your friend ever finds out it will break her heart. The two most important people in her life have betrayed her and this is such a hard thing to deal with. My best friend slept with my boyfriend of 2 years and I was completely gutted. I felt so lonely. You have to put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel? Friendship is more important and you'll realise this.
    Me and my friend are close again now, but I do feel that I can't trust her the way I used to. Don't break the trust you and your friend have, you'll regret it later.
    Good Luck! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Itw as a stupid thign for you to do but for him to sleep with her straight afetr you well that if beyond forgivable. I wouldn't have anything to do with him and tell you mate and get her to loose him. If he can do that well whats the point. I udnerstand shes'll be screaming at you but think of it this way, he probably slept with you then her without "cleaning his genitals". That always puts a prospective on it. He didn't ahve to sleep with her did he?


    Im Mrs Bitch today aren't i?
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