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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok basically heres how it stands..
I met this bloke but he's really insecure I think. He doesnt want to ever fall in love cos he said he knows what happens when you do and too many people get hurt. He says his head is really f***ed up about relationships...what do I say to convince or persuade him that falling in love isnt a bad thing and what happens in his past doesnt necessarlily (sp) mean it will happen in all his next relationships? I just dont know what to say anymore!! Plz Help..I want to be with him cos hes perfect for me but i dont think he wants to be with me for the above reasons!! I have talked to him but just get that^^ <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh I forgot to say i only see him once a month cos we live 300 miles away <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and he thinks he's a tart even thou he isnt!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive been in the same position b4, but ive been the guy whos refused to let myself get into a relationship witha girl who reall really liked me, i culdnt figure out why, maybe jus afraid or something.. plus the distance was a serious issue.. i think wat i needed was a lot of reassurance and maybe even just that little bit of pressure to get me to make my mind up.. i never did n she moved on <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive been in the same position b4, but ive been the guy whos refused to let myself get into a relationship witha girl who reall really liked me, i culdnt figure out why, maybe jus afraid or something.. plus the distance was a serious issue.. i think wat i needed was a lot of reassurance and maybe even just that little bit of pressure to get me to make my mind up.. i never did n she moved on <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive been in the same position b4, but ive been the guy whos refused to let myself get into a relationship witha girl who reall really liked me, i culdnt figure out why, maybe jus afraid or something.. plus the distance was a serious issue.. i think wat i needed was a lot of reassurance and maybe even just that little bit of pressure to get me to make my mind up.. i never did n she moved on <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what happened with your posts skinay lol...yeah, we seem to have a laff wen we're together and he just says he feels pressured when he sees the same person for long amounts of time, and he loves me but only as a friend and wouldnt ever want to hurt a friend he loved...so he thinks he'll hurt me!! *sighs* but we do things friends dont do if you get me..which makes it al the more confusing! helpppp lol <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    iv met so many guys who are afraid of getting too close in case they get hurt.

    I find it interesting. They seem to cope with serious relationship break ups worse than girls, who are upset for a while but ultimately move on and get over it.

    Iv been in a similar situation to you and i know how frustrating it is. Its like, get over it, we've all been hurt!

    I think you just have to plant the idea in his head and bide your time, let him get used to the idea and hopefully things should work out. Let us know how you get on.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You can't make this guy better, if he say his own mind is fucked up it maybe best to leave him well alone
    I met this bloke but he's really insecure I think. He doesnt want to ever fall in love cos he said he knows what happens when you do and too many people get hurt. He says his head is really f***ed up about relationships

    Ithink this could be a lie he is using on you to keep you in his life and also to get things of you
    but we do things friends dont do if you get me

    I may have the wrong end of the stick here, maybe a few more details
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *sighs* i dont think he is using me but then again maybe he is!! I'm losing my patience but hes like perfect..hes cute and makes me laugh and has a great personality..He wants to talk to me bout his feelings but never actually gets round to it!! \When we are together we act like a couple holding hands etc but he's just afraid and unpredictable!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well...I said id keep you posted..We've split up <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and we're just gonna be friends, which is a bit crap but hey thats life innit? He just wants to be a tart and prefers one night stands, for me he can have his one night stands and catch crabs! But he'll be sorry <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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