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Am I 2 jealous

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've been going out with my g.friend for around a month now, we are getting on fine but she had a pregnancy scare a week or so ago but thats sorted!

I Love her to bits and I im sure she feels the same BUT i've been hurt before by girls, and I carn't stop thinking about her when she's out down town at the weekends and if she'd cheat on me!

She always invites me but i'm not sure i'd get in the clubs she goes (i'm 18 nxt week) so i go clubs with my own mates that i no i'm going to get in.

I think we have got something good going but although i trust her there is still a seed of doubt in my mind. Is this me just being stupid?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The short answer is that yes you are too jealous. Although you say you trust her you can't if you are sure she's cheating on you all the time.

    You have to sort this out. If she picks up on this jealousy and mistrust you can assure that you won't be together much longer. It's not fair on you, especially as she has given you absolutely no reason to think such things.

    Why don't you try coming to some sort of agreement and take her out to one of the clubs you know you can get in. But you do have to realise that if you can't give her her freedom, she won't want to be with you much longer.

    You're being stupid. I know it's a cliche but trust really is one of the most important things in a relationship. Without it the relationship will just fall apart.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by emmex:
    Although you say you trust her you can't if you are sure she's cheating on you all the time.

    I disagree with this comment. I too have been with my boyfriend for about a month I trust him but theres always this doubt that something's going to happen. The reason for this is that for the past year I have gone from one shit relationship to the next and blokes have treated me like crap and so now that I seem to have finally found myself a decent bloke Im thinking right somethings going to go wrong. This is to good to be true.

    What I've decided to do is try and chill out I do trust him. His ex wife cheated on him so I know he wouldn't do it to me as he knows how it feels.

    I think its just when you really like or love someone you get it into your head that everyone else must like that person, which of course isn't the case.

    Just try to chill out and like Emmex said invite her out with you. Don't get to paranoid though and become all possesive because she'll probably run a mile.

    Good luck!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There's a recent article here that you might find useful: http://ned.thesite.org.uk/relationships/lovelife/jealousy.html
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jealousy shows u care

    if u didnt give a shit u wouldn't have a relationship

    ur not jealous, u just find it hard to trust

    work on the trust and you'll have both caring and trust in ur relationship...that's pretty much perfect

    it's too easy to say "yeah ur jealous u shud let her go out and not worry" cuz that's now how someone thinks when they care, and it's quite worrying nobody spotted that

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it's very hard 2 trust someone 100% in a relationship,in my head there will always be a tiny doubt in my mind about my man cheating on me(but it is the tiniest of doubts)but you've just got to learn to deal with it in the best way.i know its hard if you've been cheated on before,but time is a great healer (that sounds really stupid, but its very true) and the trust will grow if your with the right person.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ive been feeling like this for the past few weeks actully. Well today it went to far, got totally annoyed and pissed off. We was at a bar, with two other people, one a boy and one a girl, and the boy always trys to ruin things with me and my g/f. I got up and he sat next to her. Now i know she wouldnt cheat on me, but that really annoyed me, so i called her up this evening and had an hour long chat to her about everything, how i felt today, how i felt about her seeing her ex's, how i felt about her seeing me, how we both feel. Not an arguement, more just explaining how i felt and how she felt.

    And now i feel great, ive totally lost all the worrying and things. My g/f would agree with you MD, i though i was just being over protective or jealous, but she said, its great the way i am, shes never had a bloke who shows his feelings and how much he cares for her. So that made me feel 100X's better knowing that she felt ok with it, didnt see me as jealous and just saw it as me caring and worrying cos i like her so much.

    I think novakovino should have a talk with his g/f, about how he feels, how much he likes her and all the stuff about getting into clubs etc, dont argue, just say you wanted a chat to sort things out. And hopefully it'll go as great for you as it did for me.

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