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What I don't get about girls!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Why is it that most girls say they really want a nice guy and yet go for some total prat who they will adore no matter how badly he treats her? It took me 19 years of being a nice guy before I got a girlfriend and I don't mind that cos I'm not gonna be someone I'm not, I just don't see why girls don't go for the sort of guys they say they want.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree. I'm almost 18 and the girl I loved has left me for someone who will treat her like shit. He has this pretence he uses to hook them in, he pretends he's such a nice guy.....

    Anyway, some girls go for the macho man that thinks he's gods gift, when 99 times outta 100 he's a wanker. But I guess its a phase some go through when maturing. But you get girls who use well-meaning blokes like me and you, and treat them like shit.

    You hear a lot of girls saying "men are shit" and things, but there are guys out there who do treat women with respect and love. They just have to open their eyes a bit more.

    Mama I love you, Mama I care.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is all so true. u constantly hear women moaning about the complete bastards they're dating and how badly he's treating her etc etc blah blah blah. thing is, they encourage it. if u look in a bar or sumfin its always the loud laddish types who r chattin up the girls and they do all their girly 'haha-ur-so-funny-im-jus-guna-stand-here-and-shriek-my-head-off-with-ear-piercing-laughter' crap!

    has it not occured 2 them that mayb if they've found these types of men 2 b such bastards in the past then they might try sum other type of guy? huh? wot do the laydees thinka that1 eh? how bout givin all us quiter guys a go? we might not b in the rugby team and slap ur arse etc in the pub, but we might treat u a bit betta than sum piece of turd that has stuck 2 r shoe . . .

    u cant ave it both ways girls. 9 times outa 10, quiter guy = nicer guy.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't judge us too harshly. Yeah okay so there are a lot of women who say they want a guy who will treat them right but end up going for someone who treats them like shit but we're not all like that you know.

    In time those women will learn-their choice of man will go from wanting a guy with fantastic good looks to a guy who will treat them well and they'll realise what really matters.

    So don't judge us all the same, based on your few experiences cos theres more than just the few of us.I was fortunate enough to realise that a man who treats me how i treat him is more important than looks at an early age. So girls do go for what they want - it just takes them a while to figure out what they REALLY want.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh, mayb - tho sadly, it seems 2 take most of u a VERY long time. like, as in most women seem 2 realise wen they hit bout 25!

    which is a shame seein as how im 18. wot do u expect me 2 do - wait 7 years?!?

    [This message has been edited by Baby Bio (edited 24-10-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not saying all women are like it, but uptil about 20 they are. What I'm saying is odd is that men are open about it at that age, they want a pretty girl in general, but girls will invariably say they want a nice funny guy who'll treat them well then go for the handsome guy with 5 girls on the go. Admittedly nice guys will find a nice girl eventually, provided they're not really ugly. But that's another point, it's amazing how much more attention I've got just by losing some weight (now 5"10 and 11 stone) and having a haircut, haven't changed my personality at all but it's made a real difference.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im a nice bloke and ive found the girl of my dreams, ive had g/f's in the past, but all have dumped me for another bloke who they dumped weeks later.

    Girls at the age of 12-19 want a bit of fun, to be with popular people, they dont care about feelings so much, they just see looks and the wow factor, a lot like how boys see boobs as the big thing when they between 12 and 20. after that things settle down and people go for more mature people who have what they want, which is normally, money, nice clothes, great personality (itd be very difficult to marry someone who didnt speak or was boring) etc.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    okay, it's time for me to add my thoughts on this.

    i'm 18, nearly 19. i dont go for the "bad guys", the type that will treat me badly. and i never have either! i had a serious, long term boyfriend at the age of 16, and i didnt choose him because he was popular or good looking or whatever, we were together because we were a good match at the time, we had things in common, we got on well. if you want any kind of lasting relationship, you have to be sensible and choose them because of things like personality; if youre going to choose based solely on physical appearance then its not really surprising if it doesnt last.

    i quite resent your implications that all teenage girls are immature and choose partners solely based on appearance, i'm not like that at all and i have many friends who arent either.

    it really isnt all about appearance for all teenagers you know, some of us DO have some common sense.

    Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Women Explained!

    1. Girls likes guys who are confident regardless of whether they are good or bad.

    2. Girls prefer to be with confident bad guys than confident good guys because bad guys appear to be more *exciting* (and usually, they are).

    3. Girls like guys who listen to them and show they care. This is where bad guys trip despite being given the opportunity to learn to listen. But you can't easily spot a good listener.

    What do you girls think?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    1. Girls likes guys who are confident regardless of whether they are good or bad.


    totally agree


    2. Girls prefer to be with confident bad guys than confident good guys because bad guys appear to be more *exciting* (and usually, they are).

    Not always the quieter ones are sometimes the worst like they say & i reckon they are sometimes, hiden animals..lol

    3. Girls like guys who listen to them and show they care. This is where bad guys trip despite being given the opportunity to learn to listen. But you can't easily spot a good listener.

    yes id say thats true

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry Girl from Mars, like I said I'm not saying all teenagers are like that, just that a lot are.

    On the same topic I have thought of one seeminglu universal thing that women do that is guaranteed to wind men up!

    When women are annoyed about something but refuse to say what it is, usually saying something like "if you loved me then you'd know what's wrong" or the classic "if you don't know then I'm not telling you!"

    I've talked to all my girl friends and they all admit to being guilty of this one.

    Just to throw the topic open, what do girls not get about guys?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    their incessant need to fight each other! I'm sorry but it does get to me; I can understand the whole testosterone thing and even that it's supposed to impress us girls, but . . . ! someone explain it to me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; !
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Rich:
    Why is it that most girls say they really want a nice guy and yet go for some total prat who they will adore no matter how badly he treats her? It took me 19 years of being a nice guy before I got a girlfriend and I don't mind that cos I'm not gonna be someone I'm not, I just don't see why girls don't go for the sort of guys they say they want.

    yep, im a girl & i can safely say that majority of girls i know r like that. i always fall 4 the bad ones & always get hurt in the end <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; but while it lasts, its gr8.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The right girl will come along. I know what you all mean. I have finally found the right girl after 18 years of being mucked about. Keep on looking guys she is out there.

    dazed and confused
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont give up im a nice girl and ive got a nice guy! i like the sort who will open the door we are 100% similar as im kind to him vise versa and he is lovely i cud never imagine going out will a nasty guy as i love him and he loves me xxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Rich:
    Why is it that most girls say they really want a nice guy and yet go for some total prat who they will adore no matter how badly he treats her? It took me 19 years of being a nice guy before I got a girlfriend and I don't mind that cos I'm not gonna be someone I'm not, I just don't see why girls don't go for the sort of guys they say they want.
    I don't agree The lad I'm wiv now is like a lil dog he'de do nethin 4 me I feel nasty 2 him sometimes but he is a really nice guy n most of ma m8s r goin out wiv nice ones 2!

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