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Love or Not

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have been with my girlfriend now for about six months and we have known each other for about two years now. I say i love her but she does not say it to me. She wrote me a letter and said that she was falling head over heals in love with me, but when i say it she does not say it back. I spoke to my mates and they all say she really loves me cause they can tell by the way she looks at and acts around me. I dunno wat to beleive.


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had a similar problem with my ex. I told her I loved her fairly early on in the relationship, and she would respond, saying it back to me. As time went by though, she would say it as "habit", she's now told me she never REALLY loved me.

    Anyway back on topic, maybe your g/f is really shy, maybe she does love you but finds it difficult to say it to your face. Or maybe she is scared that saying she loves you will change your relationship in a major way.

    I personally wouldnt let it bother you, if the relationship is going really well then its likely she will have strong feelings for you. Love means different things to different people, so I would get to stressed out about it just yet.

    Even if, and I say IF, she doesnt love you, she is with you, and that obviously means she wants to be with you, which is more important than declaring undying love at this stage of a relationship. And the longer the relationship goes on, the more likely it is that she will get to love you, if she doesnt already.

    Like I say, dont worry about it too much at this stage mate.

    Good luck in the relationship <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You should believe your girlfriend because it isnt easy to say. I have had boyf's in the past who have said this to me just to get a shag and me bein gullable believed them love is a really strong word and shouldnt be taken for granted so just trust ur g/f when she says this
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just out of interest i have nevr been in love before but i think i am now i have had crushes and such but none that have lasted longer than a month.

    i now find myself thinkin about this girl all the time she is never far from my thoughts i cant concentrate on n e thing else but her. is this love or just sum heavy crush?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like another crush, but are u like mates? or is she just some girl u think is gorgeous?

    Who ate all the pies??
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    knew I'd be back as soon as I found something I needed to ask about. but I'll answer this first! it sounds like your gf is worried about saying it to your face; indeed perhaps she thinks it might become something you both have to say all the time instead of something special. the letter should mean she really does love you. I know it's hard trusting in her that she does, you must want reassurance, but give it another month or so. after that you might want to talk to her about it somehow - say you love her, but you feel a little fazed because you're not sure how she feels about you. good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    okay, now to my problem. I've been with my bf for a little over seven months; we have a pretty close relationship and have a wonderful time together. romantic gifts such as heart pendants, candlelit dinners (courtesy of M&S ready meals, lol I can't cook) etc. we've not slept together yet but are getting there, if you know what I mean. he is considerate, kind, handsome, funny, clever, artistic, sporty, great to be around . . . the lot.

    the trouble is we're both shy. he's said the magic words in a couple of texts but has never said "I love you" to my face. I'm getting to the point where I want to say it to him first - this is sincere, I honestly think I love him - but of course I'm scared that I've misinterpreted all the signs and that he doesn't reciprocate.

    (dunno whether this is relevant but he's in the year below me at school)

    my question is, should I tell him how I feel about him? or should I wait and see if I can work out how he feels about me? if you'd like more info just ask.

    thanks guys <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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