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Virginity/Sex

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Okay, I'm going to sound weird (not to mention I'm from Canada, LoL), but I'm still a virgin (i'm 17) and I'm not too fond of the fact that I'm still a virgin...also...do you ALWAYS believe that you have to love a person to have sex with them? Because I think it has nothing to do with love...I have passed up several recent offers to have sex, because I thought maybe it was "wrong" because I didn't really know the guy too well...I think if you're horny, do it. Is that a bad way of thinking?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont worry im also 17 and a virgin. some people think you have to be in love to have sex but its your own personal choice. i think it is probably more special if you are in love, but if you aint found ne1 special yet then do it with who you like.

    its definately not a bad way that your thinking, you are your own person with your own preferences! do it when your ready and with who you like


    probably not helping at all? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey I'm 19 and I'm a virgin! I dont think you have to do it through love but I do think you should trust and respect your patner! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think as long as you're prepared for a 'no' response from the other person, i don't think it matters. Just don't get yourself hurt!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Do what ever you think is best. It's you that has to live with it for the rest of your life. People could argue over whats right and wrong with love and sex, but it all comes down to what you believe and personal choices.

    Some people feel hurt and used if they have sex with someone who they don't love but for others it is kind of a way of life. We can't tell you the best thing for you to do, that decision is totally up to you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey im a virgin <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">and im 62!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ImMysElf:
    <STRONG>hey im a virgin <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">and im 62!</STRONG>

    Lol, how prude!
    I think love is quite a big part of it, but like you said; if you're up for it at the time then go for it! If you regret it so what...you learn from your mistakes. Just be prepared for it to hurt a little your first time. (coming from a 15 year old, hmmm!)
    <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Desperate:
    <STRONG>Okay, I'm going to sound weird (not to mention I'm from Canada, LoL), but I'm still a virgin (i'm 17) and I'm not too fond of the fact that I'm still a virgin...also...do you ALWAYS believe that you have to love a person to have sex with them? Because I think it has nothing to do with love...I have passed up several recent offers to have sex, because I thought maybe it was "wrong" because I didn't really know the guy too well...I think if you're horny, do it. Is that a bad way of thinking?</STRONG>


    sex is nothing to do with love, making love is!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sex doesnt have to have anything to do with love.
    I lost my virginity at the age of 14 (might be 15) to some bloke, complete random bloke, i knew him and i thought he liked mebut it was a con to get me into bed. i had sex with him, he had no intrest in pleasing me during the sex it was all about him. he didnt care about the pain i was in as most women are the first time and just went into me as if i was a dead piece of meat!
    After that i layed off the sex, i met my boyfriend who is 17 and a virgin we waited months before we had sex and it was the most amazing thing ever, just to have soemone who cares about you and is intrested in pleasing you and him.
    You dun have to be in love but i would rather have remeber my current boyfriend as my first time than the mistake from the other bloke.
    Sorry that was quite long and possibly doesnt apply to you, but i just know you will remeber your first forever so try make it special and what you want.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think that love and sex necessarily go hand in hand, but when you do lose your virginity, make sure it won't be something you regret (like getting highly drunk and making moves on the first man who lays eyes on you). And always remember to use a condom!! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont think you have to be in love to have sex, its your own personal choice
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ImMysElf how come u said ur 63 but in ur profile it says ur 15. Ha!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by loopy loz:
    <STRONG>ImMysElf how come u said ur 63 but in ur profile it says ur 15. Ha!!!!</STRONG>

    Maybe he/she/it was joking <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Desperate:
    <STRONG>Okay, I'm going to sound weird (not to mention I'm from Canada, LoL), but I'm still a virgin (i'm 17) and I'm not too fond of the fact that I'm still a virgin...also...do you ALWAYS believe that you have to love a person to have sex with them? Because I think it has nothing to do with love...I have passed up several recent offers to have sex, because I thought maybe it was "wrong" because I didn't really know the guy too well...I think if you're horny, do it. Is that a bad way of thinking?</STRONG>


    No it's not a bad way of thinking at all. If you're ready, go ahead. But, at the same time, you really shouldn't be bothered by the fact that you're a virgin aged 17. The age at which a person loses their virginity is really not a big deal, even if it feels like it is in the pressure-cooker environment of a school or wherever. It's sooooo *not* a competition.

    I didn't lose mine til I was 21 and was not in the least bit bothered by that fact. And Lisa Kudrow who plays Phoebe in Friends didn't lose hers until she was 28. So don't worry if you feel horny and want to have sex.

    I would add that, personally, although sex and love are not the same thing, I have found sex a lot better when it is underpinned by deeper feelings of love. Making love will usually be more satisfying than merely shagging, although of course there is a carnal instinct in humans for which a good shag is just what the doctor ordered.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know that my best friend and I have entirely differing views on sex. I would always treat it with the utmost respect, and I waited until I knew I was ready and with the right person.My best friend on the other hand had sex with someone after being with him for two weeks.

    I enjoyed my first time more than she did, because there was a deepness to me having sex that she just couldn't attain from such a quick fling.


    It's your choice. If you feel you want to have sex, then have sex. But you will always remember your first time, no matter how bad or good it is. Do you really want a "random shag" to be in your memory for the rest of your life?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by mancmanomyst:
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    sex is nothing to do with love, making love is!</STRONG>

    Exactly! I was a virgin until 21 when I met my husband. After that all hell broke loose!!

    <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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