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friend and her boyfriend

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i went 2 a party tonight and my friends carl and emily (who are going out) were there, and that makes me feel weird bc emily has been my friend for ages and carl i don't know as well, but i feel that i get on better with carl, and i would consider him a better friend than emily.

when i was going out with one guy, he and emily were good friends, and now the situation is reversed and it makes me uncomfortable bc i know i am being more friendly to carl, but that is because he makes me feel more at ease. and i know it could easily be misinterpreted as me flirting with him and brushing her off.

i don't know what to do. i don't want to stop speaking to carl but i feel bad about emily bc we don't get on so well anymore.

it just feels like im watching everything i say and do now when it involves carl and emily is around.

*names have been changed to protect identities <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> lol

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm in a very tight circle of friends (although I have other friends too) and in it there is me, John, Ben and Ann. Ben and Ann have been going out for three years (as I have with my boyfriend) and when they statred going out I was best friends with Ann but I had been friends with Ben for about three years too, and they didn't know each other til I introduced them.

    I have spent the last three years juggling them because you have to learn to be equal friends with them both, never take sides etc. It is hard I know, so I sympathise with you 100%.

    However, your situation is a little different because you were friends with emily first and didn't know carl. Think how you would feel if you were emily (as you point out you've been in her situation!).

    Spend some time with emily alone, just the two of you. You can still be friendly with carl but don't do out of your way to be his best mate, because you already had one in emily.
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