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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Me and my g/f have a great sex life - You name it-we've done it - but she's discovered her parents have sex quite regularly. She says its 'discusting' at their time of life, (I know her mum is about 38) and now she can't bear to speak to her parents. Its something I've never thought about with regards to my parents.What do I tell her to try and heal the rift between her and her parents ??

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    does she think she was delivered by a stork?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    how did she find out?
    if it was because she heard them then try get her to talk to them calmly thats she's not hapy with it.
    if it's because they told her, then why did they? why did she need to know?
    what ever the reason, she'll have to learn to live with it. sorry if i sound a bit harsh but the reality of it is that most parents still do have sex at that age.would she rather them not have a good sex life and be miserable together!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell her to ignore it!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    for fucks sake, theyre only 38, why the hell shouldnt they have sex whatever age they are. 38 is young! my mum talks to me about her sex life sometimes and i talk to her about mine. get used to it, even grandparents have sex, good on them i say.
    tell your friend to stop being such a child.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When your 38, stop having sex, bet you cant. Just tell them to be a bit more discrete about it or something.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Geez, another example of youngins who think the totality of life is experienced between 12 and 25. LOL.

    If 38 is the end of sexuality then I wish someone had told my hormones that they only got a year left to function cause theyre as strong as they were at 18 i can tell you that for nothing.

    Sorry son, but your chica needs to get her head out of the sand.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite:
    <STRONG>for fucks sake, theyre only 38, why the hell shouldnt they have sex whatever age they are. 38 is young! </STRONG>

    I completely agree with rainbow on this one. 38 isn't even old! If i was her i'd be greatful that my parents still love and care enough for eachother to actually have an active sex life!
    I'd be more worried and upset if i found out my perants never had sex.

    You don't reach a point in your life where you suddenly loose all interest in sex. What, so you reach you mid-thritys and just suddenly, like magic, forget about sex completely?? I somehow think NOT.

    I think your girlfriend needs to open her eyes a little. <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    One point that i failed to mention previously, which is even more important for your girlfriend to know, is that females dont even reach their sexual peak till around 30 and it can last (for females at any rate) well into their 40's. So if she thinks she has good orgasms now, she will be amazed how much more intense they will get as she gets older.

    Alternatively, if youre still together when she reaches her mid thirties, you could just remind her that she has now hit the end of her need for sex and see what her reaction is. LOL

    [ 16-05-2002: Message edited by: Clandestine ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cj, I think this girl is just living the delusion we have all lived whilst in our teens. Namely, denying the fact that we will one day be the same age as our parents and thinking that being in one's 30's makes one "old". lol.

    Life begins at 40 they say so i guess we're all still embryos! hehe
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Clandestine:
    <STRONG>cj, I think this girl is just living the delusion we have all lived whilst in our teens. Namely, denying the fact that we will one day be the same age as our parents and thinking that being in one's 30's makes one "old". lol.

    Life begins at 40 they say so i guess we're all still embryos! hehe</STRONG>


    HO HO - perhaps the world would be nicer if all the people who think 38 is old killed themselves on their 35th birthday. That way they'd never have to live the reality of being so decrepid.

    God - imagine how awful it must be to be 40.

    I can't wait until these little shits have little shits of their own telling them not to have sex or enjoy life!!

    HO HO HO HO HO HO
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My grandparents are both 57 and my nan talks to my mum about her 'very active' sexlife. Just because they are adults it doesn't mean they dont have sex anymore. If she thinks its horrible for her parents to be having sex at 38 does that mean on her 38th birthday shell make a resolution to STOP her sexlife because she is too old?? No-i think not! <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by pedro:
    <STRONG>Me and my g/f have a great sex life - You name it-we've done it - but she's discovered her parents have sex quite regularly. She says its 'discusting' at their time of life, (I know her mum is about 38) and now she can't bear to speak to her parents. Its something I've never thought about with regards to my parents.What do I tell her to try and heal the rift between her and her parents ??</STRONG>

    If your girlfriend thinks 38 is too old to be having sex, then she is probably too young to be having sex. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Pedro, you are two-thirds of their age. Ask her if she is saying you are two-thirds of the way to being old and past it. It is really a very immature attitude for her to have.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I got my g/f to read all the Posts that have been on the wall tonightand she was verey taken-abackaback at all our friends suggestiouns.She does she will try to be a bit more upliftingtowards the idea of hre parents actsepting sex..Thanks to all who have helped to try help her to accept tht
    idea of her Parents Having SSSEEEXXXXX.THANKS
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by pedro:
    <STRONG>I got my g/f to read all the Posts that have been on the wall tonightand she was verey taken-abackaback at all our friends suggestiouns.</STRONG>
    I'm pleased to see that we haven't all been talking to ourselves then and that people do occasionally take the advice that we post.

    Back to the original question though .... I hope to be having sex well into my 70s, let alone my late 30s!! I know for a fact that both of my parents still have sex (they're divorced in case you thought that was worded funny) and also that my grandparents would still do too were it not for other factors!!! Nobody likes to think about their parent's having sex but of course they do!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just dont think about it. i dont!! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    duno wat it is about it, just the thoughts YUK YUK YUK!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good thing for you that your parents didnt have your attitude or you wouldnt even be here. Guess you think that the only reason they should have ever had sex was to make you and then become androgenous for the rest of their lives??

    *it boggles the mind*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i just dont understand <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> both my parents have sex lives (they are divorced) ive never ever had a problem with it. i just think of them as normal people, and they are just as entitled to have sex as anybody
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So now for a parents perspective.

    I have two kids, one eight the other three.

    I'm impressed that any parent finds the opportunity to have sex. You think it is tough now, without a place to call your own? Try having kids!

    It one thing you don't get told at parenting classes. They never said "oh yeah, you remember those saturday evenings of lazy sex on the living room carpet...or those noisy sex session which go on for hours...or screwing on the kitchen table....well you can forget all of those when your kids come along"....should be part of sex education..

    Having kids fucks up your sex life.

    Its like arranging military manouvers nowadays, you can forget spontaneous sex...

    Still, something to look forward to, eh kids?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LOL @ man of kent, i DO know, ive got a toddler who insists on coming into mummy and daddys bed at 3am every morning!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    tell her not to worry its normal, my nan and grandad are 70 and still at it,i think that they are worse than rabbits!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *screeches and bangs her hands against her head*

    it depresses me to think my folks are getting more than i am

    what sexual act would it repulse you to catch your parents doing most?

    id have to leave home if i saw them french kissing
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite:
    <STRONG>for fucks sake, theyre only 38, why the hell shouldnt they have sex whatever age they are. 38 is young! my mum talks to me about her sex life sometimes and i talk to her about mine. get used to it, even grandparents have sex, good on them i say.
    tell your friend to stop being such a child.</STRONG>

    If you read the post you would see that she is his girlfriend. You may be able to talk to your mum about how great her sex life is but most people cant i would also say great if older people could do it more often. It is not just sex but making LOVE she is not being a child but if she heard them doing it, it can be a little disturbing.

    It is not a case of someone who doesnt like to here their parents doing it as being too immature to do it somepeople would prefer that they did it in private. would you do it loud when your parents were next door most people would'nt. I dont know how i would feel heraing my parents doing it (in fact i dont think it would bother me) but dont mock others who feel uncomfortable.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    make sure you dump yer bird before you're both 38... no action for you sir <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Black_Knight:
    <STRONG>

    If your girlfriend thinks 38 is too old to be having sex, then she is probably too young to be having sex. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    </STRONG>


    couldn't have put it better...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Eesh I almost walked into what could be called the 'beginnings' of something last night! <IMG SRC="redface.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Thank goodness I knocked first! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    I think it's great that my parents are having sex; that's how I want to be when I'm that age and why should it stop for them after having kids?
    I understand the prospect of two people that someone has known for a long long time on a platonic basis (ie. family) having sex can be quite a strange concept to think of.

    But not talking to the parents is a bit extreme seeing as it was by that very deed she is here now!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *DEVIL*:
    <STRONG>

    If you read the post you would see that she is his girlfriend. You may be able to talk to your mum about how great her sex life is but most people cant i would also say great if older people could do it more often. It is not just sex but making LOVE she is not being a child but if she heard them doing it, it can be a little disturbing.

    It is not a case of someone who doesnt like to here their parents doing it as being too immature to do it somepeople would prefer that they did it in private. would you do it loud when your parents were next door most people would'nt. I dont know how i would feel heraing my parents doing it (in fact i dont think it would bother me) but dont mock others who feel uncomfortable.</STRONG>

    ermmm she said it was `disgusting at their time of life` and now cant bear to speak to her parents. now excuse me if I think that is childish and a total over-reaction. I can talk to my mum about sex, although id probably feel uncomfortable to hear them having sex, same as I would anybody having sex, I think this girl has completely over reacted. I wouldnt have sex while my parents were next door, but then again I havent lived with my parents since I was 16. I assume this girl is in her late teens, so if this is the first time shes heard them having sex thats pretty good going, I dont think it would have been their intention for her to hear them.

    [ 20-05-2002: Message edited by: rainbow brite ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fraid its natural-- i sleep next door and hear it often--- just a shit of life <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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