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PART 2 OF "Do women prefer a "nice or bad guy" - THE SEQUEL - How Bad is BAD?
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Following on from the previously popular topic of "Do women prefer a "nice / good guy" or a "bad / devious guy" I thought I would ask the logical next question of :
How bad is "BAD" in a relationship. What behaviour can or can't you forgive in your lover. Where do you draw the line and say "THAT'S IT, PACK YOUR TOOTHBRUSH (or whatever)?
Personal stories and examples welcomed! Anonymity and confidentiality definately not guarenteed!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
(PS thanks to everyone who took part in the previous topic which is still going I might add!)
Alan London
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How bad is "BAD" in a relationship. What behaviour can or can't you forgive in your lover. Where do you draw the line and say "THAT'S IT, PACK YOUR TOOTHBRUSH (or whatever)?
Personal stories and examples welcomed! Anonymity and confidentiality definately not guarenteed!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
(PS thanks to everyone who took part in the previous topic which is still going I might add!)
Alan London
[This message has been edited by Alan london (edited 08-06-2000).]
[This message has been edited by Alan london (edited 08-06-2000).]
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And did that make you finish with him? or did you go back for more after a "polite word" in his lobe?
Alan London
Ahh that old chestnut. Well, it has to be said that half the fun is enjoying your partners satisfaction, so if that's not happening, it's a definate contender for the "here's your toothbrush and there's the door" award.
Are you still together? Or did his behaviour really get you going (mad that is, because it obviously wasn't doing much else!)
Alan London
Men are taught to apologise for their weaknesses, women for their strengths
Listen to:
http://www.mp3.com/autofire
Little things? How much time do you have?
How about:
smelly feet
smelly breath
not shaving (that is different from a sexy stubble)
farting in the living room
farting in bed
leaving marks in the toilet bowl
splattering all over the toilet when peeing
oh yeah - not to forget: not washing hands after using the toilet..
I could go on, and there are other categories besides the ones mentioned above.
But they all have one thing in common:
many men, when the get comfortable in a relationship, regress to the level of cave men and loose all good manners and habits they kept up in the early days of the relationship.
P.S. don't tell me - you know this girl with smelly feet; well, I know her too, and I don't like her close-up either
I held back with a previous girl once coz I did'nt want to get ded serious straight away so not to scare her off. She seemed very happy and I said tell me if anything is wrong. 2 months later she splits up with me coz she said we were going to slow and she lost interest. You lady's are great exept you sometimes expect us to know what your thinking. Well we don't always pick up on your little hints so please tell us coz alot of the time we can be abit thick.
Listen to:
http://www.mp3.com/autofire
Listen to:
http://www.mp3.com/autofire
Goodness me, you are a busy, not to mention whinging lot!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
Only kidding.
It seems to me that I have hit upon a bit of a raw nerve with all you women out there. Perhaps I should ordering a sofa right now and sticking a sign on my front door that says:
"Men dissapreciatoin society - Disgruntled women welcome. Weekly group therapy session only £20"
I'd probably make a fortune! Perhaps I should order two sofas?
On a serious note, I have to (very quietly) agree with many of the comments about physical or mental abuse (e.g. squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle !!! er....) and the various sloppy behaviourisms that you have quite rightly identified in us men that really turn you all off.
HOWEVER, without such little niggly annoyances, what would you have?
(Multiple choice question to make it easier on your brain <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> )
A relationship with
A) Someone Dead
C) A Virtual Reality Avatar
d) An Imaginary Boyfiend
e) ME (haha couldn't resist that!)
Well, nobody's perfect are they (well, me perhaps (choke) and if they were what fun would it be!
To wrap up my little sermon, I would like to share with you all, my very own pet hates:
All of the already mentioned above regarding men can apply to women and additionally:
Poor hygene
Lack of consideration / respect for others
Selfish in bed - not making an effort
Laziness
Jealousy / overly possessive
oh yeah and:
Poor cooking / cleaning skills <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> this one's a joke!
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Alan London
When I posted my reply, I did not suggest that all men are the same - but a lot are !! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
When a girl does not complain, you could say it is her own fault when nothing changes. I have complained, and some men have responded and kept their more unsociable habits in check, just like I try to.
Others have only complained about my complaining, burped and farted and switched on the telly for some footie - the perfect way to become single and available again - ready to look for new challenges <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
It seems women are just as confused as guys when it comes to the love / hate thing!
Alan's right - your all just poor confused sods.