If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
please help - I can't reach orgasm with my boyfriend
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 years. The sex is okay but just okay if you know what I mean. Please help!
0
Comments
I guess you mustn't fall into the trap of expecting him to know everything... you have to help him, guide him but first of all (if you don't know) figure out yourself and what you like/don't like etc.<P class="body">I for some reason think that girls know how men function and what men like but when you think about it, they don't, we have to help you, just like you have to help us.<P class="body">You must also be realistic in your expectations...<P class="body">From a personal view, I'm a young man (26) that's only had one disasterous relationship, which has left me thinking the sex is a womans paradise and the man don't figure in it!<P class="body">Cheers,<P class="body">Ian.
I agree with the others that communication is very important. Nobody is born with a good map of the opposite sex in their genes. In fact, most people do not know half how to pleasure themselves ... apart from the obvious short route to relief.
But also remember that especially for females sex CAN be great without a full orgasm, because we can ride high on the waves of excitement for (if done well) hours on end, and an orgasm would only put an end to that.