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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok, here is the scene. Met a girl in a club a couple of months ago. Been going on dates with her ever since. Lots of fun, but not sure where I stand. She has never referred to me as a bf, she talks about other blokes and stuff. Thing is I'm enjoying having a alugh just now and I don't want to get too seriosu. So here's the dilemma : should I come out and ask her where we stand and risk spoiling things, or just sit tight and wait and see what happens?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ahhhh, the age old dilemma.<P class="body">Sounds to me like you've got a good thing going there mate: a greaT friend and all.<P class="body">But 0- deep down, do you want it to be more than that? <P class="body">Gawd, I feel like Oprah.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, a bit more than 'just' a friend really. I mean we sleep together about, ooh I dunno, once a week and stuff. Still not sure though.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    do u yhink shes worth the risk? if u want things 2 get seriuos u have 2 talk 2 her, u won't no if u don't ask. u can't read her mind (well u mite!)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you really do not want to get too serious, and she acts like you say (suggesting it is not serious for her either), you are in the perfect place. Do not f*ck it up by asking questions.<P class="body">You would like it to get a bit more involved. Well, why not act that way yourself, without getting to bf-like in the process - you might scare her off and loose a good thing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hello new girl, s'pose you're under 20 are you, not interested in a Golden Oldie who has only a keyboard for company, and only old memories of a lovelife. Just say goodbye now, it'll save on tears.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Erm, ok that last one makes no sense whatsoever...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by SpikeIsland:
    Erm, ok that last one makes no sense whatsoever...
    <P class="body">
    HAHA bless 'im you gotta laugh - he's obviously an oldie!!<P class="body">As for your dilemma, why don't you ask her how she feels? If you are sleeping together, you should be able to discuss such things, even if it is a little akward at first, just keep the conversation flowing.... GLuck<P class="body">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, things have moved on in a genrally good direction since i did the original post and it is now kinda semi serious. Which is kinda nice.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    spikeisland: if u truly dont wanna get serious then just sit back and see where things take u but if u wanna know then wat the heck ask the worse thing that could happen is that she doesnt wanna get serious its worth a shot if u really like her!:yippe: *hug*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree

    i'm going to have to agree with music 4 life if you don't wanna be serious then wait and see what happens, but if you think you like her way more then a friend then try talking to her and asking what she thinks about you and where she wants this to go i hope my advice helps :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would think, after 11 years, he'll be aware of how she feels about him.
  • **helen****helen** Mod malarkist Posts: 9,235 Listening Ear
    RubberSkin wrote: »
    I would think, after 11 years, he'll be aware of how she feels about him.

    :yes: gonna close this one now, oddly our CEO is leaving today after 7 years! Amazing woman who is very proud of these boards... :)

    Be sure to look out for dates before posting peeps :thumb:
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