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How to say I luv you?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Well I have been meeting a girl quite a lot in the past couple of weeks and we got on so amazingly well... I decided to tell her about my feelings as I can't keep it to myself anymore. I know she was hurt before in her last relationship. Today I asked her something like, 'so are u opening yourself up for a new relationship', she hestiated a bit and told me, 'yea, i think so', she sounded a bit unsure. So what does that mean? What should I do to let her know about my feeling? I am the type of guy who hates to be rejected, so I don't know what to say. <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think you should tell her that you really like her and stuff, theres no need to be too full on ie "i love you and wanna have your babies!!!" From what you said it sounds like she is interested in another relationship, shes just nervous.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with Pop Idol - it's probably best to leave the confessions of undying love for now, as if you've only known her for a few weeks it may seem a bit too full on. That's not to say you should do what I did with my boyfriend and wait 7 months before telling her, that really was stupid <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> ! Stick to the less intimidating "I think you're great"/"I really like you" compliments for now....just until you know her a bit better.

    Relationship-wise, all the signs look very promising - she said she thought she was ready for a new relationship. It sounds like she's just being cautious because of her last break up. See how things go the next time you see her and good luck. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She certainly sounds interested, just don't swamp her with gushing "I love you"'s. Instead just say you'd like to see her more often and that you really care for her. Maybe she's been hurt before and has some trust issues you don't know about, good luck <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well this idiot could not hide the feeling anymore. Last nite I was about to say it just before we said goodbye but i couldn't open my mouth for some of reason. I went home and sent her a text message to say 'I luv u..sorry..i hope u will still talk to me...'
    I knew what was going to happen. 2pm now, I haven't heard from her still, i knew she won't talk to me again, in fact i knew i wasn't really her type of boyfriend... she told me about all the good times with her ex, i knew i am nothing compared to her ex, who am i supposed to say i luv her, i regret all this, now i am left alone, i dont know what to do!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its 1:15pm <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and you only said 'luv', doesn't that only imply friendship?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh you are right, i was blind...
    well i think she got what i mean anyway, i still remember last nite when we said goodbye i looked at her blanked for half a minute wanted to say something but couldn't push out a word...
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IF she talks about her ex alot she is obviously hung up so try and just be mates for the time being


    Dont put urself down either sayin u have nuthin compared to her ex... arent all people equal and after all isnt her ex her EX!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Lil' Devil:
    <STRONG>Dont put urself down either sayin u have nuthin compared to her ex... arent all people equal and after all isnt her ex her EX!</STRONG>

    EXACTLY! if all was all that great she'd still be with him! You obviously care and i reckon that makes you a genuinely nice guy, and there arent many of them around! Dont always jump to the worst conclusions, there are loadsa reasons she might not have text back or whatever yet.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She might just be contemplating her next move. You did what you thought was best, and even if things turn out for the worst (**hoping the don't**) then it's better to regret something you've done than something you haven't!

    The balls in her court now. Like someone else said, there could be a million reasons why she hasn't texted you back.

    Anyway, if she isn't interested, maybe she's got no taste! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Also:
    Don't put yourself down! There is no reason why you can't be just as good a boyfriend (if not better) than her last one. He isn't perfect, and neither is she, or they'd still be going out! Be yourself and don't let him make you feel bad about yourself.
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