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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey.. i just recently found out my ex lied to mee majorly.. well we broke up about hmm 2 months ago right.. and he came over did stuff blah blah... then said stuff exactly like this "I dont want a relationship with anybody for while, i dont wanna get involved emotionally with people." and all this bull crap right.. and then I JUST FOUND out hes kickin it to this girl and likes heer alot and did stuff with her.. and I really wanna tell him off or maybe punch him in the face if i ever see him again.. do u think it would be wrong to tell him off and make me look pathetic.. i really wanna do it but i dont know ..

"If you love something let it go.. if it comes back to you its yours, if it doesn't it never was."

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    First you need to calm down. I know its the worst feeling in the world knowing someone has gone behind your back or jus told you one thing and done the opposite. You dont want to get angry over it. You need to get the whole story. I have got angry over things like that and then later on found out the whole story. If he has done that to you as to see him in private. Ask him about it ask him whats going on. Its the only way you will find out.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OK i know ur feeling like shit @ the mo but a similar thing happened 2 me & my ex.

    I finished wit him 4 a lot of reasons but still really liked him.

    Then he wrote me a letter saying sumthing along the lines that he didn't wanna c me or ne thing 4 a while till he got it in2 his head that we weren't 2gether ne more & that he didn't wanna get involved wit ne1 else 4 a while as he didn't feel ready 4 ne thing like that.

    However when i met my current bf, i'd been wit him 4 a few weeks when my ex met me from work one evening. He said he felt ready 2 become m8s wit me coz he'd accepted it & that he woz now wit this girl.

    When i asked him how long he'd been wit her he told me & i realised it'd been the WEEK after we split up!! That pissed me off so much coz he sent me the letter a couple of days AFTER he'd started seeing this other girl.

    Don't let him c that its got 2 u but ask him why he said it 2 u when he obviously didn't mean it. Find out wot he's up 2.

    I asked my ex & he said 'Oh did i, soz i didn't realise.' (wanker)

    This made me a lot more wary of becoming m8s wit him & i think now he has realised he should of just been straight wit me but i think he woz, in a funny way, trying not 2 hurt my feelings.

    I think u need 2 talk 2 ur ex though 2 get it sorted!

    Good Luck! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; XxX

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    there are two kinds of ex in this world. There are 'biodegradable' ones who you have no hang ups with and you can have as genuine friends post break up then there are 'polythene' exs whose memory doesnt go away and returns every so often to screw you up!
    you've just got to except that 'polyethene exs are bad news and youve got to just try and be the bigger person.....

    I need to wash myself again to hide all the dirt and pain, but I'd be scared that there's nothing underneath
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks for the advice.. I was only left one one option and the option was to tell him off which I did and it FELT GOOOOODD and what i found out was the truth i know it for a fact... wow it felt good though to tell him all this stuff I wanted to which I DID.. and yes he is a wanker... and he gave me an attitude big time hes like oh your still not over me so that made it really easy to be cruel to him : )

    "If you love something let it go.. if it comes back to you its yours, if it doesn't it never was."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cruel? pah, i could have done better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    good on ya, about time the losers of this world were put in their place...sexual equality and other similar crap should ensure that <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Anyone who can walk to the welfare office can walk to work <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MasterDevilish:
    cruel? pah, i could have done better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;


    oh, don't be so smug, satan-boy. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    "Our lives are but specks of dust, falling through the fingers of time . . . Like sands of the hourglass, so are the days of our lives"

    Socrates
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Gabz:
    oh, don't be so smug, satan-boy.


    <yawns> im sorry, you wanted something? see my secretary <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    btw that was the "humerous" part of my reply which wasnt meant to be taken seriously, but nevamind <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



    Anyone who can walk to the welfare office can walk to work <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
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