Home Sex & Relationships
If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨

hiding ur emotions

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
is it better 2 try 2 hide ur feelings, if u know that saying them will complicate things??

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it depends on the person really and the situation i hide my feeling not 2 help any one else but 2 help me letin sum one know your feeling is letting your guard down. this is the same 4 most men esp around women (g/f wifes)

    i find it hard 2 let them out anyway infront of people even if i want 2 its the same for a lot of men and women
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I hide mine all the time and I never get anywhere. Saying that, I don't get humiliated either.

    So with one hand on the wheel
    The other out the window
    With a smile on my face
    My middle finger up...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It depends on the situation really. But I think with a boyfriend or a close friend you need to be able to say what you're feeling, because as people we need to share things, and if we try and keep some things locked away it eats you up inside. It often damages the relationship you have with the other person, either because you're hiding things, or because you feel resentful that you can't tell them.

    But you shouldn't blurt out whatever you're feeling any time you want to, because that can complicate things. Like in an argument if you start saying things that you feel at the time, that are likely to hurt the other person no matter how true they are, you should hide those type of feelings. But as long as you know that, at the end of the day, you will be able to tell the other person things that matter, you shouldn't have a problem.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    they is a place and a time 2 hide ur emotions this is guna sound daft but i dont no when i hide them all the time coz it makes me feel better i dont hide them from other people (well not all the time) but from my self 2 make me feel better and more happy.

    i need 2 b on a high all the time coz when i get low i stay ther for a long time so if i kid my self then life seans better.

    i h8 been by my self thats when i get low and cry bout fings that happend ages ago.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well jamie, thats just it u r kidding urself, instead of hiding things tell the person who is close 2 u wot those things that happened in the past r and u never know it may even bring u closer 2 gether <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • the_Paranoid_bunnythe_Paranoid_bunny Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    Originally posted by lil_jo:
    well jamie, thats just it u r kidding urself, instead of hiding things tell the person who is close 2 u wot those things that happened in the past r and u never know it may even bring u closer 2 gether <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    yeah... you shouldn't announce your feelings to the world... but you should always have one really close person who you tell.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    relationships definitely work better if you share feelings nad stuff. having been in 2 relationships that were complete opposites, i can tell you that the one that works the best is the one where both people are open and honest with each other. rather than bottling things up and trying to act like everything's fine.

    jo and jamie, you should talk to each other and explain how you're feeling and everything instead of asking veiled questions on here. its awkward when both people in a relationship read the site, believe me, ive been there.. you cant ask the questions youd want to. but instead of asking half questions that dont really help you, you should talk to each other <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
    ~ Nietzsche
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yer its ok sayin thatbut i really find it hard 2 talk bout my feeling i duno y i just do

    i may b gone in the head i duno

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    Theres no harm in keeping them to yourself, if you feel it will complicate things, but if it is bothering you, just say it, get it off your mind!
    Love Miss_Kxxx <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/new/cookie3.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    bein serious...<hates doin that> the net is a great place to tell all of your emotions and not worry about the repercussions as nobody is going to get uptight about it and you wouldnt feel as close to someone over the net as you would in real life* so if you wanna spill, spill it here and get an idea of the reaction from telling your mates <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    * usually <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    My classmates will copulate with anything that moves, but I've never seen any reason to limit myself <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Yeah. To be honest, I find it easier to talk about personal problems over the internet than face to face with someone, cos I have trouble expressing my feelings with words.

    I dunno, I find it less personal if they can't see my face, I hate people looking at my face.

    So with one hand on the wheel
    The other out the window
    With a smile on my face
    My middle finger up...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ~*LIBERTY*~:

    I dunno, I find it less personal if they can't see my face, I hate people looking at my face.

    thats quite interesting, when i speak to a gf or someone close to me in that way i like to see their face so i know they're being sincere and are thinking seriously about what they want to say etc...

    on the net i dont think im always that good at appreciating the situations because i cant see the kind of physical reactions to things i say, how id say it...

    words are very powerful things but theres always a problem of not what to say but how to say it...because i have a knack of getting away wiv saying some things to someone personally, they can tell by the tone of my voice if im serious and how i want them to react but on here its hard to convey that kind of control...so you're never quite sure how people will interpret it - as even though we speak the same language we all use it uniquely.

    hope that makes sense <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



    My classmates will copulate with anything that moves, but I've never seen any reason to limit myself <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I getcha (altho sometimes its hard!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.mpz.co.uk/cwm/otn/wink/smily012.gif"&gt; Sarcasm is also really hard to interpret over the net.. u cant tell if someones jokin around or been spiteful. Sometimes it can hurt!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.contrabandent.com/pez/otn/sad/bncry.gif"&gt;

    As for showing your true feelins - that is sumthing im really bad at myself. Id love to be open with people i really would, but i worry what people think of me, i dont want to disapoint peoples expectations of me!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Id love to be close to someone in a way where i could be truely honest. At the moment i dont have that person, so i feel as if 25% of me is known only by me! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; Oh well. I guess il find im eventually! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Lxxx

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.contrabandent.com/pez/otn/angels/littleangel.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ~*LIBERTY*~:
    I hide mine all the time and I never get anywhere. Saying that, I don't get humiliated either.


    That is totally my philosophy Lib. Goes with the old saying - "What they don't know won't hurt them...or you"

    "Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Talyn:
    "What they don't know won't hurt them...or you"

    who gives a toss anyway - the beauty of the net is that you don't have to care what people think <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


    I think we should take Iraq and Iran and combine them into one country and call it Irate. All the pissed off people live in one place and get it over with <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by MasterDevilish:
    who gives a toss anyway - the beauty of the net is that you don't have to care what people think <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;



    WRONG!! (that was my best impression of my old chemistry teacher after youd tried to explain something very detailed)

    people still do have feelings and if you do actually go round with complete disregard for them, you wont last long around here <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
    ~ Nietzsche
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am emotionally challenged. I could never say things like I love you.. it is so much easier to reverse things and say how much you detest somebody instead <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
    No...

    I guess it doesnt really matter what you do.. If you are too open about your feelings or hide them too well you cant win. I am yet to find something in the middle too..

    dodgy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Girl-From-Mars:
    people still do have feelings and if you do actually go round with complete disregard for them, you wont last long around here

    DUMBASS!!! i meant if someone thinks you're freaky or whatever - doesn't have to matter

    you're wrong anyway, turtle's still here* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    * working on it, don't worry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;



    I think we should take Iraq and Iran and combine them into one country and call it Irate. All the pissed off people live in one place and get it over with <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I hide mine. It dont make me feel any better but least I know that Im not hassling people with them.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Depends on the situation, I sometimes hide mine if its just to do with me (ie. family), but if involves my friends I usually just tell them blunt.

    Problem with being blunt and straight to the point is that although you let your feelings out (which is usually better) you can also upset people with being honest. But then it can also backfire keeping them to yourself when people would rather you had told them..

    tricky.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I hide my emotions alot for a number of reasons.I know in a relationship you should share things especially your feelings but I find this difficult because my boyfriend normally questions and ends up making me feel like I should not feel like that so I feel guilty in the end.Also I have a fear of not wanting to come across as too sensitive-do you know what I mean.I am being myself but sharing emotions wise.Its hard.
    1-I am not an open person anyway
    2-Guilt
    3-Hard to find the right words
    4-In the end it won't be a big deal anyway
    5-I do generally regret it cos I ponder over what the other person may think to that.

    So in many ways I finf keeping what you feel to yourself is better anyway.
Sign In or Register to comment.