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g/f's boy mates

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hi every1

right my g/f and me have been goin together for a few months now, and we are quite serious about each other.

the problem is that she hangs about with these lads thats he knows, and to be honest i dont really like them. i know that they have been feelin her up and she just tells them to fuck off and hits them (in a hlaf jokin way i think), like boy and girl mates do ? I also know that they both want out with her, and i am a very insecure person so its even harder. I dont want to speak to them ever, truth be told i dont really want her to see them but i cant choose her mates for her, and that wouldnt be fair on her.

I have talked to her about this and she just says that its okay thats just the way they are etc, and she wants me to go out with them but I dont want to know them, they are not my kinda mates.

its only ever me and my g/f together, never with her mates, and in a perfect world thats how it would be. but i just get so paranoid, and its not that i dont trust her. I just worry about her and them lads because of what they do.


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know how u feel, mates can be a difficult thing because your girlf has probably known them for a while, so cant just blow them off because of you. Its gunna be hard but u mite just have to grin and bear it for the time being, even if u can say a few words to them its a start, no ones saying you have to become best friends with these guys.. itll just makes things easier for your girlf (and yourself) if everyone gets on ok. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; Lxxx

    Useful trick -> if your prospective beloved's eyes dilate when you first speak it means they fancy you. Eyes also dilate when u take cocaine, but at least ull know there interested or a crack head!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i understand how you feel and i can appreciate that it makes you insecure, but i think you'll just have to accept that they're her mates. Shes not actually doing anything wrong by being with them, and flirting is just a lot of girls way of being friendly! i think you should just trust her to be faithful and concentrate on enyoying your girlfriend for what she is....as well as what she isnt.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To be honest with you leave well enough alone...
    I know girls who value mate more than relationships. Just don't feel that yu have to hang round all the time when she's with them, you may not trust them but you do trust her. The last thing you need id for her to feel that your suspicious of her.

    You've no reason to be insecure thou, think about it... She's with you rather than them... Your abviously a nicer and more attractive person than any of them are <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Keep that in mind,

    All the best,

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    god i know exactly what you mean, some ex of my g/f was down and he kept trying to kiss her and stuff

    u just have to trust ya g/f and/or get the ex killed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; it doesnt bother me she has mates that are ex's, but the fact they try it on annoys me and they wouldnt do anything like that with me about. if i ask them about it they start kissin arse and stuff, so they aint worth it, give them some kinda warning* (a not so friendly smack in the face) and they'll fuck off <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    *in ur mind anyway, dont do it for real cuz ur gf wudnt appreciate it and it shows ur a prat, but just imagine it in ur head <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    call me satan <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angryfire.gif"&gt;
  • the_Paranoid_bunnythe_Paranoid_bunny Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    i know this feeling! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; it's really hard when they start feeling her up, especially when she thinks that they're "just being mates"...

    takl to her about it seriously, don't let her trivialise it... just make sure you know that you can trust her not to do anything(sexually) with them...
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